I think my husband is looking on sites he should not be as a married man, how can I check?

Answer 1

Ask him...then ask yourself why he has a need to be there.

Answer 2

What sites shouldn't a married man look at?? Honestly, he is a grown man, and he likes to see different things. Look at the history and see if this is something that you and he have done or maybe he is looking so that he can better please you in the bedroom or just maybe he is secretly hoping that you will do the different things that he is looking at.

You will never know the real reason unless you talk to him. Communication in a marriage is the key to a happy and healthy one.

Answer 3

"Should not be as a married man"? What the **** does that mean? You probably can't check, either. Most porn junkies are rather computer savvy, so they know to erase the history when done, they check for keyloggers (most antivirus programs do this for you anyway), and generally clean up after themselves very well.

Just so you know, the problem isn't in the computer room. It's in the bedroom.

EDIT: Inquisitor, are you daft?! Getting an internet filter for a grown man? Get serious, or go back to Salem.

Answer 4

You are right that he should not be looking at other nude or almost nude women. This is lustful and more than admiring. Many people get addicted to these things, and it destroys the marraige. There is a recent study about men that reveals that porn actually reduces the sex drive for actual intercourse with another person. You can check his activities on your computer by following this path: start/ my computer/ control panel /internet options / general tab / settings / view files.

If you find sites that are not appropriate, you should discuss it with him and ask him how he feels about getting an internet filter. Remember, he is not trying to hurt you, and probably doesn't realize this can hurt a marraige, so be patient. Here's a good filter reference.

Answer 5

Jenny b,

Go buy a new black sheer nightie that is open down the middle. Before he gets home, take a hot bubble bath, and save real close--you know where!

The do up your hair and make up with big red lipstick. Wear his favorite perfume and black high heels.

Then wait for him at the door. He won't be looking at any more porn, when he can look at you.

Answer 6

It is all about trust and honesty in a marriage you must always ask and if you love him and trust him then his answer should be enough. If you still don't believe him look in the Internet history if its porn sweetie every man out there or let me rephrase almost every man looks at porn most to peak interest and some just to look at what is out there most of the time its innocent

Answer 7

That doesn't make sense. He is a married man. So by definition he HAS to go to the internet, or to the corner of 3rd and Lake St.

Why don't you have sex with him, I think is the bigger question?

Answer 8

there's no such thing as sites he shouldn't be looking at if he's married unless they're illegal sites. My guess is that you're uptight and insecure so you feel uncomfortable with him looking at other women. Get over it! He's a man and he's doing what men do. It has nothing to do with you. Perhaps you should show an interest in his activity...it might just spice up your marriage so you aren't so insecure.

Answer 9

you should ask him about it i think women in general are likely to get upset about men looking at adult sites but i think this is the norm for most guys even me at times but you really shouldnt let that bother you most guys are more visually oriented and i suggest that if he were looking at something like that you may indeed get some good sex out of it not that he is fantasizing about those women but that the sight that hes seen turned him on and he may learn some new mocves from them

Answer 10

BEST ANSWER: TALK TO HIM!! honesty is the best policy, and it will be ackward, but it's better than ignoring it or living in suspicion! Or if you really are cowardly then check the history on your internet.
You are married, your allowed to ask questions, communication is key.

Answer 11

Gloria Steihhem, or whatever her name is, the world's biggest feminist had this advice for a happy marrigae---listen up girls--"Have sex with your husband whenever he wants, even if you don't." I'm not suggesting you should ever submit yourself to pain, but "I don't want to" and "I just don't feel like it" are recipies for masturbation for him. And porn, when used correctly, aides masturbation.