ir is our first year married and he took off I thought for us and now he has been gone half the day running his mom around.She always has interfered in our lives too much and now this.I just wish her could have the balls tell her that this is our week and we want to spend it together.I don't see him doing it though.His mom sometimes feels like the
"other woman" .It has gotten much better since I got with him but things like that bug me.would it you?
2007-10-03 08:19:00 · 18 answers · asked by swtluvingcntrygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I completely understand what you are feeling - it is very natural. You would expect parents to be more mature than that and seek happiness from seeing their children happy - but unfortunately most MILs can choose to be very immature when it comes to their sons. I would suggest you discuss your honest feelings with your husband without blaming him - it is important that you can communicate freely with him and he is able to appreciate your need to feel special and exclusive to him esp on these occassions. Do try and let him know that you dont have anything against him spending time with his mother but you would like some special times to be exclusively and only for the two of you
2007-10-03 08:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Confused 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he took the entire week off and is only spending today with her, I would not be upset. After all, a few hours out of an entire week is a nice amount to do "volunteer work." When he helps his mother, remember that he is a devoted son. And...a devoted person. Usually, men treat their wives the same way they treat their moms, so you have a lot to look forward to after she's dead and gone someday. I would expect him to spend your actual anniversay with you, but the other days this week, are just days, honey. Don't be so self-centered. Let him give a little attention to the woman who raised him so you could marry a wonderful man, okay?
2007-10-03 08:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would grow up. Its a week and he's spent half a day helping the woman who supported him while he grew and be came the man that you love so dearly now. If not for her you wouldn't have your dear husband. Dont get me wrong mother in laws can be a real pain my can be a particular peach some times, BUT, you have to respect them and be thankful for what they did for your husband. You should respect his parents as you do your own
2007-10-03 08:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by sarah W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's SO ordinary! and then they ask your self WHY we get under pressure! i think for you, love. yet there is not something you're able to do different than get waiting to look after your MIL besides as you may - do not subconsciously take it out on HER. undesirable theory, that throughout basic terms motives greater hassle. Your husband knew it might rigidity you out. He knew deep down you does not like it, and so he waited till ultimately the final minute- knowingly or instinctively; in basic terms he knows of. save calm, be as gracious as you may, and after your MIL has long previous, take a seat him down and tell him by no ability to try this to you back. And clarify why. he will savor your adulthood and respond genuinely. you're winning factors with him for the destiny problems you adult adult males will nevertheless could cope with in a protracted time in existence.
2016-10-20 22:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he's just spending one day with her and not the entire week! I completely understand where you are comming from. Try to go with the flow since things are getting better. Most wives have a hard enough time staying on good terms with their mother-in-laws. If he doesn't have the balls to stand up to her, perhaps you should mention how much you had looked forward to spending a week with him for your first anniversary. Consider also, suprising your husband with a few day trip out of town (a beach perhaps). That will get him away from her for sure.
2007-10-03 08:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Was that not the reason why he took off work so you guys can have a week to ourselves in honor of surviving your first year together?
2007-10-03 17:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I appreciate the fact my fiance is close with his family. How he treats his mom is an indication of how he will treat you. I think it's very nice that he took time out from his own plans to help someone who needs it.
2007-10-03 08:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
come on!
an anniversary WEEK?
Your about to get a rude awakening if you expect to be spoiled like that for the rest of your life!
I dont mean to minimize your issue but anniversary dinner is what it comes down to after awhile.
I think its cool that YOU dont have to go with him and his mother. Spoil yourself.
go to the spa or something.
He is not going to wanna her your b*tchin about spending time with his mom.
Make your own fun.
2007-10-03 08:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by cici 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
you have two problems. one, your husband is still tied to some apron strings, and they aren't yours. but two, you have absolutly no respect for the woman who raised your husband to be the man that you love. She was the one who was there for him when he was little, she was the one who took care of him all that time. you should respect her.
If he isn't just doing a favor for his mom, but she's ordering him to do this and ignore you, then talk with him, tell him that he needs to step it up, and stand up for himself and say that some time is totally reserved for his wife. but then, some time is also totally reserved for his mother. she deserves his respect and love, and yours.
2007-10-03 08:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
allow him to spend some of the week with whomever some by hisself and set aside some days that you want that way everyones happy.
2007-10-03 08:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋