I have a vivid memory of how&where my mother died..but each of my 2 sisters have a different memory, We're all in fairly close age brackets. This REALLY bothers me !!!!
2007-10-03 07:50:58 · 8 answers · asked by Deenie 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
All us sisters were between 30-40 when she died. (not young)
2007-10-03 08:23:40 · update #1
It's not "gossip"...I haven't mentioned it in years.
2007-10-03 08:52:30 · update #2
I think she died in the nursing home (a small group home). (house).but they say she died in the hospital. They don't look anything alike.
2007-10-03 14:36:15 · update #3
I have very clear memories of my childhood. I have a sister who is 13 months younger than me. We shared the same bedroom for over 10 years. I thought we had the same experiences but her memory of her childhood is completely different than mine. She remembers my grandmother being mean (I don't), she remembers me being mean (well, maybe a little), and she remembers her childhood as being very difficult.
I've come to realize our lives are what we PERCEIVE them to be. My sister just experienced things different than I did.
Don't let it bother you. You're certainly not alone with this feeling.
2007-10-03 08:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I've had things I thought I remembered a certain way for years, then would hear a different story about it. Family stories change depending on who I ask. It could be sometimes we want to remember things a certain way. My husband and I were talking about history this morning and wondering how accurate many things are. If two people experience something, then tell about it, it's amazing how different their versions are.
Maybe you could ask other family members or check records about your mom's death. Good luck!
*edit: It may be possible that she lived in the group home, but they took her to the hospital right before she died. I wondered if you all were with her when she passed. Sorry I can't help you more, I wish I could. I can see it's very important to you.
2007-10-03 17:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret too much , Denie - it's common for people who experienced the same situation to have varying/differing memories of it....each has their own 'take' and perception and interpretation.
Ever play the game of Gossip where the first person repeats a simple statement and then tells it to the next person and it goes round the circle of players?..The last person ALWAYS recites something not at ALL like what was first said.
2007-10-03 15:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder if all 3 of you lost your mother at a very early age? That would maybe explain for the differences in memory. My sister and I always seem to remember things differently.
2007-10-03 15:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two teenagers and they do that to me ALL the time. lol
Seriously though, that happens in all families I think. I believe it is because of how something affects us as individuals. I had nine brothers and sisters and we never agreed on anything. The older ones were soooo sure that everything they said was correct when it wasn't. I didn't argue the point because it just got stuff going. They never changed my mind on many things.
2007-10-03 15:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by tmblweed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck, that happens at home all the time. I insist hubby said something, I KNOW he said it, he insists he didn't. Drives me up the wall. One of these days while I'm up that wall I'm going to install cameras and voice recording systems to prove it's not me, it's him!
2007-10-04 08:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand, sometimes I wonder if I was in the same family as they were. Drives me crazy too.
2007-10-03 14:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by slk29406 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bloody siblings .. mine too
2007-10-03 17:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by The old man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋