my fiancee cannot perform...?

Question

i have a question about my fiancee performing. when i give him or** when he is fully er*ct*d- he loves it and is enjoying it one moment-but all of the sudden he loses his e**cti*n and it just shrinks back down. why is this happening? how can we fix it? he is getting really discourage, and i feel bad for him..

yeah, i am acting like nothing is wrong. i am trying to make him feel ok about it. and, i know its not my fault-heh.

there are no rules, i dont care where are when he goes.

oh, and by the way i put the stars cuz i did not want it deleted.

well, we have been doing or** for a long time but the past 4 or 5 times is when he loses it.

Answer 1

I think that might be ED, that they advertize 50 times a day on tv. If its not physical, then, well find out whats going on!! the benefits r all yours!!!

Answer 2

As a 34 year old guy, I can tell you that sometimes problems like this come up. Sometimes it is health related, sometimes, mental.

It even happened once to me when I was 18....yeah that is right, 18. Back then I was hornier than a 3 pecker billygoat. Basically I thought a woman was being unusually aggressive with me.....and it took me a few tries after that to be comfortable enough to get over it. All I can say is that I had stepped out of my comfort zone for the first time and what was going on between her and I created a lot of performance anxiety and I lost it and just couldn't get my mojo back for about a week. Once I got my comfortable with her, it was on again.

Changes like stress at work, financial problems, impending marriage, etc. can have a negative impact on his woody.

Best thing to do is help him through it. Don't be judgemental, talk with a medical professional to eliminate potential serious medical problems.

Answer 3

Is sex so important in life.
Had it been the other way round, that he has a perfect set up and you lack something, would you not get hurt if he leave you??
Learn to respect other peoples' sensibilities. If you really love him, his non e.r.c.t.o.n should not make any difference. It may well be a temporary phase.
I maintain a younger husband for last 23 years. I hit menopause early and got uninsertable . My husband never complained. He accepted it as a way of life and is practicing abstinence. Cannot you learn from those people?

Answer 4

He could be trying to hold off too long. If a guy trys to hold out sometimes the body just shuts down. It could also be medication. Lastly you didn't say if you have any special rules (not in my mouth or not on my face) sometimes guys get worried about that and lose it all together.

Answer 5

nikki has some great advice. And I'll simply add that it happens from time to time. The problem is that once it happens he's going to paranoid it's going to happen the next time which will no doubt lead to it happening again. The biggest thing is for both of you to realize it's not a big deal and relax and it will probably correct itself naturally.

Answer 6

Use a penis ring also known as a (ock ring ... You get him erect and then you put the penis ring at the base of the penis .. the ring will trap the blood that has traveled to the penis allowing him to hold the erection for longer!! They work great .. I work at Aren't we Naughty part time Also though bring him to a DR to get it checked out just to make sure it is not anything serious AND if he is a drug user (any kind of illegal drug) that can also contribute to erectile difficulties Good Luck !!

Answer 7

sounds like your fiance needs to make a trip to the dr for an erectile disfunction problem . My ex had this problem and we ultimately divorced because of it . He divorced me so I would be free to be with someone else . I did not want the divorce he did . anyway get help or you two could be in some serious trouble . good luck .

Answer 8

There are many potential reasons, but I don't see why it matters. Some men feel that ORAL does not provide adequate stimulation for maintaining an ERECTION (see, the world doesn't end if you spell them out) and therefore prefer vaginal sex. Find out if that's the case, because, if so, using your hand in conjunction with your mouth might provide the extra stimulation he needs.

Answer 9

This is normal. Nothing is wrong with your man. There are simple solution that caused you man's ...... to weaken during performance. One of them is blood flow to his..... to make it erected and strong. In most case it is caused by drinking soft drinks like coca cola which some don't realize the effect of this soda. Even woman with breast cancer don't realize the effect of coca cola. I don't know what it contains that caused these effects. The second thing is lack of Vitamin in the body to cause each flow of blood throughout his body. Perhqps lack of vitamin B12 and Vitamin E. I know you may think to have him try viagra. Viagra usually make sure that his ..... recieves constant flow of blood to make it strong during performance. Try this simple thing and see if would work. Avoid soft drinks, and eat food rich in vitamin and irons and I guarantee you you will see the difference. This is the natural way and inexpensive to make your man sexual active to your satisfaction. Take care of yourself and your man

Answer 10

He must have something mentally going on in his head while you give him said head. Sometimes it's mental, sometimes it's physical. Is he heavy? Try having him standup and you kneel and see what happens with the bloodflow. Good luck, at least you're a champ and do the dew!!