I am now in my 17th week of pregnancy and it feels like I've been pregnant forever but I was wondering first about labor and does it change you a whole lot in "that area" like am i gonna be all loose afterwards? disgusting question I know. but I've been thinking about after kids having some work done in that area I had something happen when I was younger that has made sex difficult and painful but also made me not as shall we say youthful in that area since I was little. My husband says I'm fine but i don't think so I'm very self conscious and embarrassed. second question is how much has your life changed after having a baby I just turned 21 in may this is my first baby and I'm a little scared I think that's natural but I feel like I'm not quite done being young yet and I want this baby more than anything but I want to know if I'll never have any time to myself again to ya know be young get back in shape have a few drinks every now and then. thanks for any help!
2007-10-03 07:22:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just so people know I'm not a partier just wanna be able to go out now and then. I'm gonna take really good care of my baby. :)
2007-10-03 07:30:57 · update #1
1) No, vaginal birth does NOT change you down there at all. AT ALL. You cannot believe it until you do it, but honestly it all goes back just like it was. I promise.
2) You're ready for a baby because you decide to be, not because youre suddenly done being young. 30 year old are still out partying and living a life full of themselves. There is no magical age, its a point you reach in yourself.
I have an 8 month old and except for my boobies with are a little.. less perky, i look just like my old self (save 5 pounds left to shed). My husband and I enjoy a bottle of wine from time to time, and one a rare occasion we go out to eat and for drinks. I just pump ahead, and make sure that my son can eat solids or stored milk instead of off me.
Everything in your life changes, but its not a bad change, its actually a good change. Every area is different. You really learn how fulfilling it is to live for someone else completely, and not yourself. You have moments of tiring and trying, but theyre only moments. Being a mom is THE single most rewarding thing I have ever done.
I was 22 when I got pregnant. Its a choice to live for the child and not yourself. So just make it, and make it completely.
2007-10-03 07:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as for tha change in "that area", I read several places on the internet that it goes back to tha way it was before. I have thought about this a lot too, so i know how you feel! But then again, i also read that it does change "down there". I'm not exactly sure. And i have always been embarrassed to ask my boyfriend, so I guess I'll never know. And about the change of life, I am 19 years old and I have 2 little girls (please dont judge me), and I am pregnant with #3 (Due on the 24th). Before i got pregnant this time, I was still able to have a lot of fun. That's cuz i have TWO! I dont think things will change too much. I mean, a baby is a big part of your life...very special, but that doesnt mean that you have to give up all your fun. My cuz has FOUR kids and we went out and had a lot of fun together. There are some times when it seems like you wont be able to do anything, but thats all in your mind. I have a lot of fun, with and without my babies. I love them very much and I make sure they are well taken care of when I go out without them. You dont want to just give up your "young" life so soon, you'll regret it later. You only live once! If there is someone you really know and trust who will babysit, then you shouldnt have a problem. DON'T LET YOUR FUN PASS YOU BY! Good Luck, and remember you're still young!
2007-10-03 07:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 and pregnant. That could be a nice title of a novel...
Anyways, the "loosening" in that part is all but natural. But if you give birth inside a hospital, the doctors would most probably "do something" to the skin in "that area" so that it will not be "loosed". Skin is elastic. Now the muscles in that area will be just traumatized a little bit, but don't you worry. Muscles can be exercised, and if a month or two, it will not be "loosed".
Yes, I think your life will completely change when the baby arrives. As in a 180 degree change (not your personality, but the way you live).
2007-10-03 07:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by indy450 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you work on your kegel muscles during pregnancy and especially after birth, you can keep your muscles down there tone and that area will be tighter than for someone who did not work on the muscles. If you don't know how to do this, go here: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/kegel-exercises/WO00119
I haven't had my baby yet but yes it's going to change your life a lot especially in the beginning when you are still trying to negotiate life with a new addition. But, I know plenty of women who have children and who still get some time to themselves. A lot of fitness centers have child care so that you can take your baby with you when you work out. And your husband can always stay with your baby to give you a break. I know someone with NINE kids and someone with SIX that are both in AWESOME shape. If they can find the time to give to themselves, I'm sure you can.
Good luck.
2007-10-03 07:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if anything you get more tight down there after birth. Also after birth you will be up a lot during the night doing feeding and changing diapers. But unless your the type that wants to party all of the time it is not that bad.
But it is amazing that after a baby you will find yourself wanting to stay home and tend to her. But you just have to remember that this does not last forever. You will be fine.
2007-10-03 07:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are not going to be loose they stitch you back up. Your life wil change but in a good way. You have to work your life around there times and needs. You will still have time to work out while spending time with you baby,taking him or her on a bike ride or walking .Exerise on a machine at home while the baby is sleeping.
2007-10-03 07:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley O'Dell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should add me on yahoo messenger... because me and my husband are 21 and we have a son that is 1.5 years old... and there are going to be sooo many questions ur going to have... and, i can answer them all.. except any that might involve a c section... i didnt have one.. so.. pleaassee add me.. also my myspace is blahblahmyspace.com/girlsolr. =) oh, i appear offline all the time.. so.. if ur on.. just message me. =)
2007-10-03 07:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can blow "Farts" with mine!!!!! Dont worry bout it.....just as long as your husband doesn´t thing that it is like throwing a sausage up O´Connell street you´ll be fine.
2007-10-03 07:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋