I'm lucky enough to be married to a wonderful man who just happens to be from Mississippi. I moved here from Illinois, where I was raised. I've, for the most part, enjoyed my time here in the South (capital "s"), with a few exceptions...
My brother-in-law took every opportunity to make fun of ANYTHING north of the Mason-Dixon line since my husband and I started dating, making it pretty clear how he feels about anyone from the North (capital "n"). I've put up with this junk for over 6 years from him, and since my husband and I have gotten married, even my mother-in-law has joined in with the "Yankee" comments, most of them are pretty ugly and hard to laugh off.
I think they believe it's okay to make fun of my home, but it's gotten very old. I don't make fun of the "South" despite the fact that I would have plenty of material with which to work.
How can I remind them that the "North" is, in fact, my home, and the comments they make about the "North" really aren't funny?
2007-10-03 05:47:36 · 15 answers · asked by Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you've been putting up with these comments for up to 6 years ... you've been saying it's okay all this time. Speak up. If you need your husband's support, get it. Sit with the brother-in-law in mother-in-law and simply say those kinds of comments hurt/offend you. By no means take the blame, but maybe say you should've said something sooner than now. They might think they're being funny ... and sometimes just bringing it to their attention will make a change. People can't fix what they don't know is wrong or unacceptable.
2007-10-03 07:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Chicka 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am from Mississippi and I know exactly what you mean. Honestly, they probably mean no harm in the comments they make. Either way, you should express to your husband AND his family your dislike for those comments. If they are decent people (which believe it or not most Southerners tend to be), then they will understand that the things they say really bother you and they will stop. If it doesn't stop, then start hitting them hard and heavy with the stupid redneck jokes! That should shut them up!
2007-10-03 07:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by tazdvl_31 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that's not true Southern Hospitality and they should overlook your shortcomings due to the fact that you were raised north of the Mason Dixon....I'm kidding. They should accept and welcome you for who you are..not where you come from. If it hurts your feelings(and I understand how it could since we as Southerners have been the butt of so many jokes from people all across the country) then tell them so and ask if they could only ridicule you and your home state on April 9.(The day the war ended in 1865.)
Sorry they're treating you poorly...hope they wise up.
Lifelong Mississippian
2007-10-03 11:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to step up, be a man, and put an end to this nonsense. Sit him down and explain just how hurtful the comments are, if you haven't already, and ask him to speak to his family about it. If he doesn't, then I would have no problem giving them a taste of their own medicine and go gung ho on the Southern jokes. I'm not saying two wrongs make a right, but sometimes it just takes people having the tables turned on them once or twice to see exactly how it feels and realize that their behavior is uncalled for. Good luck.
2007-10-03 06:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take notice to what you stated. Your brother in law started this and now your mother in law joined in. Your in-laws think that there behavior is acceptable aka(it's OK to abuse you) since your husband. There son and brother allow then to speak to you like this. Under no circumstances would my brother in law get away with any comments toward me as my husband would knock his teeth out of his mouth.
Your husband needs to talk to his family and put a stop to this. As far as they are concerned why should they show you any respect when your own husband doesn't show he respects you? If there are any issues with his family he is the one to speak up. If the issue was with him and your family, you are the one to address that.
2007-10-03 08:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might remind them that the South is so superior, we Yankees were reduced to eating cow peas after the glorious Southron Victory in the War Between the States, and aren't all those ante-bellum mansions in Atlanta beautiful?
2007-10-03 07:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I am married to a man from Chicago and I am here in Tennessee, born and raised here..We live here, and it has taken alot for my husband to get used too..He is a yankee and I am a southern bell..His family has had to get used to me,and me them ..We see things different and say things different, but never would I say anything about yankees..You need to stand up to them and tell them that it hurts you when they say things...They being family may not mean any harm, but they are hurting your feelings and it does get old...Tell them how you feel and they will respect that..I know! I was the butt end of hillbilly jokes and told them, and they loved me for it..Let me know how this works out..Good luck..
Bonnie Stark
2007-10-03 07:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bonnies Walk With Jesus 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound pretty insecure, and childish, sometimes, a lil goes along way!!! Be polite, diplomatic, let them know you've had enough, & remind them who living in the USA, because the NORTH won. I have sourthern ties too, "their embarrasesing at time!!
2007-10-03 07:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has a band of brothers kind sense skakespeare vibe. it is not a foul poem. Alot of the words you utilize like foray, fray are french norman in beginning place. i might have in step with probability liked greater Anglo Saxon beginning place words to grant it a greater norse vibe. 'Ezra pound' has some Norse poems that try this with iambic pentameter.
2016-10-10 05:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say to your spouse that you will no longer attend any more family functions with these ***holes, and they are not welcome in your home until they can behave like decent adults. Then he can either get the knuckle dragging jerks in line, or you do not have to deal with it. It's his family, so he can deal with them.
What kind of idiot still supports the "Yankee"/north-south/slave argument thing.
2007-10-03 07:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by x2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋