WHAT IS THE MOST MATURE WAY To express to him that his over sensitive / feminine ways are ruining us?

Answer 1

you only have the power to change yourself, not other people. see if there is something that you cant do to improve the quality of your relationship. although to you this may seem like it's ruining your relationship, but in his eyes it may not.

Answer 2

Honesty is the best policy. Tell him the truth, but try to be tactful. Calling him a "gurly-mon" isn't going to help your cause. Try to find something positive to say about his over-sensitive/feminine side, like "I really appreciate the fact that you care enough about me to consider my feelings," then just explain to him that you want a boyfriend who can make his own decisions and live his own life without revolving it around a relationship. Make it clear to him that there has to be a balance. You're not looking for a jerk who's going to treat you like crap, but you also don't want some passive individual who has a nasty tendency to give in to your wants most or all of the time. You need to know that he can assert himself and that he will stand up to you if the issue is important enough to him. Good luck!

Answer 3

What????

Is this your husband or a boyfriend?

If you love him, you should accept him for who he is and not try to change him.

What do you mean his behavior is ruining "you all"? You mean, people see you as an odd couple or think that you deserve someone different? If you love your man support him, otherwise, don't waste his time.

Answer 4

Stop judging him and calling him over sensitive and feminine. You can only control yourself. Accept him for who he is.

Answer 5

Be as non-threatening as possible. Adopt the position of giving advice, rather than criticizing. Reassure him that it will make you both happier and that he should relax a little.