my daughter has homwork everynight, usually spelling or math. i don't have time to go over the homework with her. would it be ok if i just did it for her??? if i sit down and go over it with her, it will take a good 20 minutes. i can get it done in 2 minutes!!! she can play or do whatever, and i won't miss my shows. does anyone else do this?
2007-10-03 04:56:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Homework Help
YES. Kids need to be able to be kids, so doing their homework for them doesn't really hurt them - they'll learn how to add and subtract later, and pick up on spelling words from watching TV and movies.
YOU HAVE A LIFE TOO. You can't be expected to spend it teaching kids at home when their lazy asss teachers can't or won't do it at school
2007-10-03 08:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
NO. Your daughters education is of monumental importance. Turn off the TV and the computer and devote sometime to that baby. Spend two hours if thats what it takes.
I think that you are playing a joke by asking this question. At least I hope you are. I cannot believe that a mother would feel so little about the absolute importance of teaching their child the basics this early in their schooling. You are laying the foundation for her entire education in these early years.
Do you want your child to be dependant on the government or on a man for her entire life because she is held back by a lack of education and financial opportunities? Of course not!!!
Here is what you should do.... once the two hours of homework is done.... plan to take your child to the zoo, to a museum, to hear music in the park. Expand her mind and her lungs by going outdoors with her, spend time with her doing fun things that let her know that you love her and value her company.
Children are a blessing and should be treated as such.
Will a TV or a computer take care of you in your old age??? This is your child not a play thing. Change now or you will forever regret it.
2007-10-03 05:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by pink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are assigned homework by the school system so that by doing certain exercises with the material, it is expected that in time they will get good with the stuff they are being taught.
I don't think you want your daughter to grow up to be a dummy, which is what might happen if you do her homework, and let her spend more of her childhoot just playing.
Further, there is the question of whether or not you are well trained as a teacher.
Suppose your daughter does her homework, and does it WRONG, and turns it in wrong. The teacher can then see where she is doing Ok, and where she needs additional help, because she has not learned something properly, and the teacher knows how to help her learn what she needs to learn, based on the wrong homework, which is like a test to see what she has learned to do, and what not.
But if you work with her to get the stuff correct to be turned in correct, the teacher never sees where she needs more help.
I suggest you arrange a parent teacher conference to ask the teacher what your role is expected to be.
2007-10-03 05:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but....if anyone else does this then it is probably the reason we have uneducated kids and adults in this country today.
If you want your daughter to grow up illiterate and never learn responsibility, then by all means go ahead and do her homework for her!
Lesson plans and homework assignments are developed by educators and implemented by schools to educate your child. If you take on and do her homework assignments for her, how on earth do you expect her to ever learn it herself? It would be far better for her to complete her own work and turn it in with your never having to take time away from your shows to go over it for a good 20 minutes, than for you to do it for her. At least then, her teacher would know what she still needed help with rather than what you needed help with.
2007-10-03 05:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by rvgypsyjj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's about more than the homework. It's about her. You are spending this time with her to shape her values and character for the rest of her life.
No matter how tempting it is, No you can't do her homework for her.
She has to learn first grade to go to second grade or by the end of it all, you will be stuck doing her high school physics while she graduates illiterate.
I admit that when my girls were small, I was tempted to do it for them because watching them struggle with it made me nuts. It seemed so simple. But to her, it is necessary to learn or she will not think it so simple when she has to take the tests in class. That's something you can't do for her.
I understand the lure of the shows as well, that is why I bought a VCR. Now they have TIVO, and DVR on demand through the cable company.
I know it is frustrating to have to do the homework, it feels like more of a punishment for the parent than a learning activity for the child sometimes.
The memories that she has of these homework sessions with you while she is so young, will shape her mind for school, her respect for you and your values during her teenage years, and how she feels about you for the rest of her life.
Good luck.
Blessings
2007-10-03 05:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by nik named mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you want her to work at mcdonalds her whole life, then by all means do her homework. the idea of school is to learn, tv and playing are not going to get her anywhere except menial jobs, as a mother you should take the time to let her do it, but sit with her and help her if she needs it, but you wont be there the day she takes a test, and fails, then what. i would suggest you put your child first and not worry about 20 minutes out of YOUR time.
2007-10-03 05:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by iMaTwin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be far easier to let her play and for her to flunk out. You won't have to do the homework. Think about it. How embarrassing would it be for you to miss a first grade problem? Afterall, do you really want to be doing your granddaughter's first grade homework fifteen years from now, too? Your granddaughter won't be able to ask her mother for help. On the plus side, when you are 82, you can still be doing first grade homework for your great-great-great-granddaughter from teh old folks home.
No one said being a parent is easy or fun. Rewarding, yes.
2007-10-03 05:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, but I would advise you to let her do her homework herself, so she can learn. She isn't learning if you're doing it for her. Twenty minutes is no big deal, and your TV shows are no more important than spending time with you daughter. Helping with homework is actually a good bonding exercise.
Priorities, sweetie, priorities.
2007-10-03 05:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon Newman (YR) Must Die 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sure do it for her that way when she gets to high school and graduates she will be really dumb because she never did her own homework. So she can just live with you until she is 40 and meets someone to marry that will take care of her.
2007-10-03 05:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sherie D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is she going to grow up to be a super hot trophy wife? If so then practicing the basics for a good basis to future education is not important.
2007-10-03 05:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Khan 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋