I have two friends who both claim to be insecure about their bodys.
Girl 1: Is shy and never draws attention to herself. She never talks about sex as she's frightened someone will say "GROSS! I don't wanna think about YOU having sex, I think i'm gonna vomit." She never wears sexy clothes as she says she feels like a fraud, and that only hot girls can wear sexy clothes. She doesn't show off her body as she's frightened someone will say something.
Girl 2: Talks about sex ALL the time, wears clothes that show off her body, and constantly flirts with men. She purposely doesn't tell people she has a boyfriend so she gets more attention from guys.
I'D LIKE YOUR OPINION ON THIS:
I don't believe girl 2 is insecure. Some may argue that she feels she needs to dress sexy to get guys attention to feel good. BUT personally I think, that by assuming her dressing sexy will get a guys attention is actually quite arrogant.
What do you think?
2007-10-03 04:28:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
girl one is just like me and girl two is conceited and quite arrogant.. she is nowhere near insecure
2007-10-03 04:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by LightBrite 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
both are insecure in different ways. Girl number 1 is insecure and shy, she is the classic case of insecurity. Girl number 2 is is insecure in a non direct way. She flaunts her stuff, wants to get the attention of guys. I think that she thinks the only way to feel good is to get the attention of all these guys. If you are confident, it wont matter what you look like or how you dress. It's how you carry yourself. Your head high and shoulders back, lets people know you are very confident.
2007-10-03 05:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by lpogue2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is insecure in their own way, and they deal with it differently. Even the most confident and cool people experience insecurity in some way - it's natural. Girl 1 is more of a classic example, and girl 2 overcompensates for her insecurities by using her body. Girl 2 more than likely is insecure about her emotional needs, and as such, she needs male attention constantly (probably something to do with her relationship with her father). Girl 1 is insecure about being judged by others and/or is insecure about her body. She is afraid people will label her if she dresses too scantily - either as being unattractive or as being slutty.
2007-10-03 04:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jim Baw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are both insecure in different ways.
Number 1 thinks she's ugly when she probably isn't.
Number 2 has equated sex with self-worth and in the long run will be the one to have a harder road.
Number 1 can build up her confidence but number 2 will have to learn the lesson that beauty fades and what we are left with is what is inside but number 1 will have worked on herself long before old age comes around.
2007-10-03 05:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by KD 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They both sound insecure to me. The insecurity just manifests itself at opposite ends of the spectrum.
Girl 1 feels unattractive and is trying to hide.
Girl 2 is trying to attract attention, because if others feel she is desirable, then she will feel more attractive.
Security and confidence mean that one doesn't worry about what others think.
2007-10-03 05:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Theresa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone doesn't talk about sex or dress provocatively does not mean they are insecure. Some just believe sex is between 2 people and do not need to brag.
Generally I find the the quiter ones to tend to be the more freakier when they open up.
But she does sound insecure in how she talks about her body and such.
Your other friend would just annoy the crap out of me. I hate attention whores.
2007-10-03 04:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It looks like they are both insecure - maybe. They both seem to need validation, either expressed or not.
But there isn't anything wrong with them. They just want different things and express themselves in different ways.
As for showing off the body - damned if you damned if you don't. Apparently it doesn't take much to be misinterpreted.
Super Ruper has a great point!
2007-10-03 05:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Done 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think girl #2 is more insecure than girl #1, why? Because she needs total atention, she needs to keep too many guys focusing on her, Girl #1, is les insecure of herself, she doesn´t need any approval from anyone, but, she doesn´t feel as good as she should. There are some insecure people who cover themselves with a mask of "arrogancy" for not looking weak in front of the other people, that´s what makes them act in annoying ways.
xoxo
2007-10-03 04:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i understand girl one alot..im like her...maybe not exactly...but very similar.
i dont know how your friend looks. she may very well be very attractive. but as you said she is not comfortable with how she looks. and may be very modest.
me on the other hand? well my looks are not my strongest point. and being still about 74 something pounds over what i wanna be ( i wish to be 170..i think i can carry that just fine. ivelost 126 pounds so far) is no help either.
but even when i do get the rest off i still wont dress sexy. its just not my way. ive covered up my body as much as i could for a long time.
and i understand the reason about shunning sex.
I myself am celibate...but i have another reason...i dont honestly think a man could find me even remotely sexy no matter what size i am. maybe that is how she feels too....
beats me... i know i may have been no help...
2007-10-03 04:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl #2:
I think that it is a sign of insecurity. She thinks that her only value is sexuality, and she uses it to get attention. She may not believe that there is anything else that makes her special/stand out. If she were secure she wouldn't need the attention of others, particularly men.
2007-10-03 04:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by maia 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
By conveying her disgust at the thought of someone else having sex, Girl #1 is trying to denigrate that person relative to herself - that's classic insecurity in a nutshell.
Girl #2 is just a horndog.
2007-10-03 04:42:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋