2007-10-03 03:35:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
firstly, do you know why will she want to cheat on her husband in the first place? there has to be a reason for it.
secondly, why will she tell you that she is cheating on her husband? weird for her to do so...(sorry just a question)
thirdly, i find that you cannot stop someone from making their own decisions. your friend should deserved some punishment for even thinking of cheating of her husband.
well...i think that you should drop some hints to her husband, don't tell him that his wife is cheating on him. encourage him to spend more time with her, talk to her more about their daily etc. also, you might not be able to stop your friend from making her own decision, but you can advise her about it. tell her about the consequences of cheating...like what will happen once her husband expose her and how will she be looked upon by others in future if they came to know about it...
2007-10-03 03:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do you know for a fact she IS cheating, or is your knowledge based on rumor's?
If she has told you herself that she is cheating, did she tell you also why she was telling you? Or, if you caught her cheating, does she know?
Telling someone, anyone, about an affair is dangerous; or did she really just assume wrongfully that you would understand, or even aide in her deceit?
If it is true, because she told you; and her reasons for telling you were not truly overwhelming somehow then, did you tell her how the knowledge of it made you feel?
And too, that if you know, others may; so you should tell her you do, and how it makes you feel. Maybe she does just need a reality check to end it.
Have you asked her how you can help stop her from making this worse here and now, or if she even wishes her marriage to continue; and what it will do to your friendship if she makes a choice you are not comfortable with?
The most you should do is tell her how this all makes you feel, and why; then if need be, distance yourself from her, for your own peace of mind.
Enabling a cheater is not being a friend, but then neither is outing them; the only behavior we can control is our own, and the best advice one can give a friend is our honesty.
2007-10-03 11:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by ZP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant really stop your best friend from cheating. Matter of fact you cant really stop any one from cheating. It is up to that person. But if you really do care about the situation I advise you to talk to your best friend about it. And from there decide whether you would let your best friend continue to hurt her significant other or are you going to do something about it. I know that is your best friend but put yourself in her husbands shoes. What would you do if you found out your wife/husband is cheating on you and her/his best friend knew about it but just smiled in your face?
2007-10-03 10:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you like her husband and think he's a good guy. Tell her that a lot of people don't realize they can destroy their lives, marriages, and friendships by cheating on their spouses. Tell her it isn't like when she was a kid. She may be very pretty so she thinks she can get away with anything.. Tell her any decent honest friend would tell her what she's doing wrong. If she blows it off like it doesn't matter you may want to think of seeing less of her, a blatantly dishonest person makes a lousy friend
2007-10-03 10:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by magpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there is nothing that you can do to stop another person from cheating. You can give your "opinion" and give a listening ear to the reason, but if a person truly wants to do something, there is absolutely nothing that another person can do. Your friend can only make that choice on his/her own and suffer the consequences. Adults seems to be the hardest to reason with... especially if it's already in they're hearts to do it.
2007-10-03 10:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Y.a.S.L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can tell her how you feel, give her maybe of an example of “what if your husband was cheating on you?” type of thing, and if she still doesn’t feel remorse, and you have proof of this, you might through her an “if you don’t stop and tell him, I will”
Be prepared to maybe loose a friend
2007-10-03 10:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by sara76c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant stop your best friend but you should let her know how you feel about it. Suggest that she seek counseling and talk to her husband.
2007-10-03 10:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by jacks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and honest with her. Let her know you disapprove. It's your job as her best friend to put things in perspective for her and be as honest, as blunt and as upfront as you can. But ultimately, the choice is hers. And you can either stick by her once she's done it or let her clean up the mess on her own.
2007-10-03 10:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't really stop her... but you can remind her of all the damage she's going to do to her family if she does cheat.
2007-10-03 10:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop her - she is an adult.
All you can do is advise her of the ramifications of that action and hope that she is mature enough to make the right decision.
2007-10-03 10:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋