[no more editing. i feel pooped lol. good luck reading it all]
There are many factors that lead teens to become very sexually active:
One of them being: "They say that sex feels good."
A thing about sex is as we [teens] are bombarded with school problems, family/social problems, and the transfer from adolescence/childhood to adulthood, sex becomes a form of conduit - an escape from all these overwhelming things. Teenhood is a very stressful and fragile time for us whether anyone thinks so or not. Not only are we being isolated as a bunch of immature, dumb, sex freaks, we're also heavily eyed to see if we actually do conform to this sort of thinking. What would one expect from teens - who, as children were told not to do this or to do that and expect them to become adults that know how to think for themselves? I don't think it's fair at all. It's like a battlefield here where only the strongest [those that abstain from the stereotypes] survive into adults [those who overcame these abstinences]. Not all of us are that strong and fully equipped when we go out into the battlefield. Our own battles start from within, but if we're constantly being poked in the gut from the outside, our battles come from everywhere like an overpowering wave that have swept us away carrying with us our problems. Therefore what else can we hang on to, to make us feel a little better about ourselves? -- A plate full of drama with a side of hate and a healthy dose of sex.
However, those of us who don't have problems never thought of sex as a "problem." Perpetual defenses from our parents of what's going around in the world would ultimately lead to our vulnerability towards sex. House pets are perfect examples of teens who have not been exposed to real-life problems. House pets were raised indoors and were provided everything. In doing so, they have adapted to the lifestyle of this safe haven and have not been given the chance to be able to protect themself or fend for themself if such a time ever comes [like getting food or eating other foods]. This sort of 'safe haven' lifestyle will make most teens that are shielded from this sort of lifestyle, fall prey to sex or other reality check problems.
Most say that it's a lack of education. I believe that it's the lack of input the teens are processing when they're being educated about these things. I also believe that it's as much the teacher's responsibility and the students to get to where the teen is fully aware of the consequences having sex will cause. Not only is the media contributing to our sex awareness, we find it everywhere. When we get to school our teachers tell us not to have sex and show no-to-sex vids. At the clinic our doctors tell us we're too young to have sex and hand us condoms.When we get home it's our parents telling us to STAY AWAY FROM SEX. When we flip through channels, we see people telling us that it's a bad idea to have sex this young. Then when we open Y! A they say teens shouldn't have sex. All we see is sex, sex, sex, sex everywhere, and all these messages are directed right at us. In doing so, we feel provoked, and again, this is just another thing that sparks the rebels in us. But hey sex-educators are right about one thing: Casual teen sex isn't something we should be messing with at this time of our lives and yeah it's pretty much NOT the mature thing to do.
So anyway back to our main question "What are some reasons that make teens in the US very sexually active?". We seriously get tired of hearing this that the rebellious side of us becomes a facade. Imagine if a group of people holds you to that standard and expects you to be very sexually active just because you fall under the teen category. I guess sometimes we think that since they already think that we all are like that then why not? You didn't even say 'most' or 'some' teens instead you just said 'teens' as if we all are very sexually active. It hurts you know? What about those sex-crazed adults that prey on our age? huh? what of that? Also sex in the workplace? and In t.v./porn.. don't you think that adults are as sexually active if not MORE than teens? The more the world and the people closest to us don't accept us for who we are... sex is just another alternative to getting that love&acceptance feeling. Sex makes us feel loved&accepted even if it's just 5 minutes of pain.
2007-10-03 06:25:29
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answered by tinybubbles 5
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Besides raging hormones and the need to experiment, peer pressure is the biggest culprit. Say that Mary, Molly, and Jane are trying to be popular at school among the boys. Mary may tell the other two she let Joe do some rather heavy petting with her. Then Molly and Jane may just have to let other guys do some things with them just be on a level with Mary. And things could escalate from there, depending on how they perceive themselves and how far they want to go with the guys. It's a fairly dangerous game in the world of teens and is handled rather lightly these days.
2007-10-03 04:09:17
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answered by Anonymous
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Well the main reasons is that many adults are highly promiscuous and teens are doing what they see their parents do. The "do as I say, and not as I do" theory of raising children does not work. What does and will work is being a role model for your children by modeling the behavior you would like your child to emulate. Another is monitoring your child, block MTV, VH1, BET & other channels that don't show age appropriate programming in your home. Yes if they go to a friends house they may see it, but them not being able to see it in your house sends a signal that it's Not Okay! Another thing is that many parents/adults don't talk to their children. Parents/adults are not telling their boys that a girl who is promiscuous is not really "a whore" but someone who is looking for love & acceptance but going the wrong way about it, and to take advantage of that is extremly heinous. Parents/adults are not teaching thier girls that yes you can in fact have sex many people but the double standard does still apply even today. A guy can sleep with 10 girls he's a stud, a girl sleeps w/ 10 guys she's a Sl_t. Times change Men don't! We are not teaching them that when you sleep w/ a boy 9 out of 10 times he is gonna go back and tell his boys what you did, how you felt, and in many cases even if you didn't do anything but were alone w/ him the boy will lie and say you did!
Many parents/adults who have children in thier care do not want to take full responsibitly for those children, because that would mean they would have to curb their behavior, their speech, their actions. As a parent/mentor to children you can't do everything you want to do or use to do before you were a parent/guardian, but many adults do not take that into consideration when in the conception process.
In other countries, I don't know I can't speak for other countries as I have not travled abroad, but I'm sure the above applies.
2007-10-03 08:14:40
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answered by Anonymous
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1. Puberty - Hormones are running rampant
2. Teenagers are bombared by media images and acceptance towards indulgence of these new sexual appetites
3. Weak support systems and sources of abstinence education
4. Society accepting (even encouraging) sexual behavior by praising safe sex, handing out condoms, giving teens a way to justify early sexual activity
Is it any wonder that there is a new resurgence of std's and other sexually transmitted disease? Teens aren't going to change - there is a new crop every year. We need to change the placement of education and morally societal responsable behavior education.
2007-10-03 03:13:26
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answered by Anonymous
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I wish I would've known that although it was a dark time for me, I would get through it and I didn't have to sleep with someone to feel loved. Love was all around me. I just had to open my eyes to it. I mean, I lost it to my boyfriend, but we'd only been dating for three months. Not even that yet. And just because he was pressuring me, didn't mean that I had to give in, no matter how weak I was feeling.
2016-05-19 22:25:02
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answered by patsy 3
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Lack of education. In health class you don't really learn about sex. They just say you shouldn't do it till you are married and they say it's how you make a baby. They don't say what you actually DO during sex. So teens are curious and want to try it out. If we actually learned about it I bet it wouldn't happen so often.
2007-10-03 05:27:18
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm not sure about the girls but for men like me I'd say it's cause I'm a man that wants to rock your world baby.
2007-10-06 11:46:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Hormones?
2007-10-03 03:07:15
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answered by Officer Uggh 3
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like said b 4---hormones
2007-10-03 03:14:04
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answered by tasty 7
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Wanton permissiveness by adults and randy hormones with well fed, materialistically spoiled teens.
2007-10-03 03:08:59
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answered by Anonymous
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