Your fiance passes away suddenly before you ever get married. The ring he gave you has been in the family for 5 generations and your fiance's mother asks for it back because you didn't get married. Do you give it back?
2007-10-03 03:03:18 · 19 answers · asked by Jellybean had her little bean 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I must clarify before I receive anymore answers, this has not happened to me but to a dear friend of mine. I will convey the answers you have given to her and hopefully she'll do what she feels is right.
2007-10-03 04:07:06 · update #1
As a respect thing to his mother I would! You were blessed for having him in your life that was enough............... You don't need a ring to define your love for him and keep in mind it's been in his family for 5 generations but keep in mind his mother is going through enough losing her son, be the bigger person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But only give the ring back if she ask for it! Again you don't need the ring to define how much you love him.............................. Because if you were to marry him it was to be for love not the ring..............................
2007-10-03 03:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about the passing of your fiance. But, I would give back the ring. It has been a family heirloom for generations. You have the love and memories that will forever be in your heart and nobody can take away. That is priceless.
2007-10-03 03:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Fancy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that I'm sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine the heartache you must be in.
It really depends on you. If you have been with him forever and you had this deep connection with him, like soul-mates, then I would really speak to the mom and let her know this and state that you want to keep it to remember him by. What does your heart tell you, would your fiance have wanted you to keep it or give it back.
You could also try to ask for something else of his that was personal between you two if you don't want to keep the ring but want to keep something of his to remember him by.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-03 03:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the ring back. She still has the ability to move on with her life and marry someone else. They want to keep the ring in the family and, sooner or later, she'll be someone else's family.
2007-10-03 09:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by redslippers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to keep it, of course. And I understand why you do.
BUT, we shouldn't always do what we want for ourselves. Do you think that ring means more to you than it does for his mother? It cannot possibly. You've lost your fiance, and it has torn your heart out. And I don't FOR A MINUTE mean to diminish that, but losing a son is much more painful.
Show that you are a caring, loving person. Give her that ring back...Show his family that you were worthy of wearing it.
2007-10-03 03:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, but wow, what a question, and sorry if it happened to you...personally I'd keep it, I mean you were going to be married, he did give you the ring, she should understand the sentimental value of the ring to you, hopefully she wouldn't get ugly
2007-10-03 03:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by B B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose if there were other children who would be able to pass it along, then yes I would...if not then no, however, I don' think you are obligated to do so.....if you cannot bring yourself to part with it, try explaining to her that it is all you have left of the promise he made to you, your mutual hopes and dreams.....but I can see if there are other children able to pass it on, why she would want to continue the tradition....its a very hard situation, that everyone needs to try to see from the others point of view.....I am very sorry for your loss, good luck!!!
2007-10-03 03:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bite me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! He gave that ring to you when he asked you to marry him. That ring now belongs to you. It is very special to you now. I don't get it. If he married you that would have made the differnce on who got the ring? They wouldn't have it if he was still alive and married you. If their reasoning is to keep it in the family..there is no gaurantee of no divorce. They gave that ring to him then he gave it to you.
2007-10-03 03:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, give it back.
you have memories of you two... you do not need to keep the ring.
I don't think she asked for the ring "because you didn't get married" but, b/c it belongs in his family and you are not in the family... (I am very sorry for your loss)
2007-10-03 03:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by mamoucindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, give it back, that is the right thing to do in this situation. So sorry for your loss.
2007-10-03 03:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋