He broke it off but said maybe it could work later. Im the only ex he speaks to and I asked and he said no its not because he wants to keep me around in case. He says he really cares about me but can only offer friendship right now. We broke up bc we both work a lot and go to school full time and that caused arguing.
2007-10-03 02:54:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I love him so much and I want him in my life even if that means just as a friend for now
2007-10-03 02:59:21 · update #1
I love him so much and I want him in my life even if that means just as a friend for now
2007-10-03 02:59:22 · update #2
he said its not fair i dont see him and he feels so bad he doesnt have time but he needs to figure out work and school stuff
2007-10-03 03:02:37 · update #3
that is SO bad. do NOT be his friend. clearly he is using you. "in case" what? "in case" his current lover or whatever ditches him and he can have a back-up? what the hell is that all about. forget about him.
2007-10-03 02:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy wants to eat his cake and have it too. He wants to put you on ice - keep the link. If he "doesn't want to keep you around in case" why the heck is he texting you all the time? How do you know you are the only "ex" he talks to? Because that's what he told you?
No, you don't break off a relationship and then calmly say "maybe it'll work out later". If you are falling for that you'll fall for anything. Can you turn off the texting feature on your phone? (I don't know, I'm technologically challenged, lol) If so, do it. Or else, just delete whatever he sends. He may call you and ask you why you haven't responded, but once you tell him, my bet is he'll show his true colors and not bother you any more. With guys like this, it's some kind of an ego trip to be able to keep a girl on a string. But if she calls him on it and tells him to shove it, it pops his bubble. If it's going to be an effort to keep you, he wont bother.
2007-10-03 03:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he really does care about you a lot, but he just doesn't think the relationship can work out just yet, since you guys are both gonig to school and work a lot. Now you need to decide what you want to do. Either you keep in touch with him, and later you guys can try at a relationship again, or you stop communication with him, and make it clear that he's in the past. It just depends on whether you still care for him or not.
2007-10-03 02:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you either want a relationship, or for him to give the texting a rest. Let him know you are open to a relationship again if you are, but that just friends and a lot of texting is not going to work for you.
I have experienced the same problem, a woman wanting to keep in touch a lot after we mutually broke it off. I felt it was just insecurity on her part. She was lonely and wanted to be sure she had options and someone to turn to etc. She gradually eased off and now I rarely hear from her anymore.
Good luck
2007-10-03 03:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's common. right now isn't exactly the right time to be in a relationship. you two don't have enough time to spend with each other so taking a break isn't a bad choice. being friends at this point is the best way to keep in touch with each other until you two get properly situated with your own lives. i know what your going through. my boyfriend and i are on a break now because I'm in a different college and i work part time. and he fully understands. so when i come back or relationship will be better.
2007-10-03 03:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dr.fanny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait around for him. The texting all the time is a way to keep you emotionally attached to him. I would ask him to stop texting, not text back, and move on. It sounds like he is one of those people, males and females do it alike, that has a little issue of needing to screw with the other sex and their emotions. He needs to let you go, maybe you can help him by telling him so and cutting the emotionally bound chord. BTW, he might not like it and he might get a little huffy actually. Good luck...(I mean it)........S
2007-10-03 03:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him in your life, I think a friend is the best way to do it. The best marriages are between people that are best friends. You need to relax, enjoy your friendship and go about your life. Do not be upset if he dates someone else, if you are the one, he will be back, when he realizes that you are the one for him, and have always been there for him.
2007-10-03 03:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not normal, but i dont know what he's up to. just be careful not to break your heart again, dont give up hopes too high. just let things be like that, it'll settle for some time, if you 2 are made of each other, then there will be a rel. some time later, if not, then, let it settle for just friendship.
2007-10-03 03:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by ~desa~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows he can get you back whenever he decides to. The text thing is an attachment he started to date someone else probably while he was still with you. decided it could not work with you so he got you on stand-by in case it does not work out with his current fling KICK HIM TO THE CURB.
2007-10-03 03:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by Regina C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax its only txt messaging he didnt call u n ask u to hang out n have private moments w/u n its normal if he jus want2 b friends belife keep like that cuz only time will tell u never know he might want 2 bck
2007-10-03 03:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋