he's an acquaintance of my dad's and i've had an obsessive crush on him for about a year now. he's on my mind 24/7 && i don't know what to do. i can't just get over him, i'm in love! :( he has no idea and i really wanna tell him my feelings. i want to be with the guy, i don't care how old he is. love is love. the #1 thing i'm attracted to is his personality. *sigh* he's so...wow. <3 i know i'm in love cuz whenever i see him i get butterflies in my stomach and my heart beats really fast...you know the feeling. :) he IS single, by the way. if anything ever does happen, i'll happily lose my virginity to him && i don't CARE if i get pregnant. i want his baby!!! wow...i'm losing it...:( love HURTS, man. anyways...what should i do? ugh. now i'm crying. :'(
(just thought i'd post this again to get more opinions. the more the better. thanks...) :(
2007-10-03 01:27:44 · 16 answers · asked by ANONYMOUS 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Please try to re-focus your thoughts somewhere else besides on this man. No offense, but what makes you think a 30 something guy would want to be with a 15 year old girl? He could be jailed for any number of things. Contributing to delinquency, carnal knowledge of a juvenile, statutory rape, the list goes on. Why would he put himself in such a situation? Why would *you* put him or your father in such a situation? At 15 you think you love him. When you're 30, you'll look back on this and shake your head and wonder what you were thinking.
2007-10-03 01:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by ~RedBird~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, you do have it bad don't you? So, this is wrong on several levels, and I really don't think I have to list them all for you, do I? You don't really love this guy, you yourself have qualified it as a crush so even you recognize it. What you have is a feeling very close to what you will have when you finally do meet THE ONE though. But the whole butterfly in the stomach thing, nah- that's nerves, not love. Real love isn't the firecracker kind of thing, that's all hormones and lust dear. Normal at your age, but not the type of material you build a long term lasting relationship on. The sort of love that makes a good marriage is one where both of you at least start out on an equal footing. You have several years to catch up with this guy in life experience alone. IF he would even consider a relationship with you, that alone would set off the alarms. Can you say Pedophile? I bet he can. In his eyes, not only are you jail bait, you are jail bait that is blood related to a friend of his- your father. And that particular person just might not have a sense of humor about the situation either. Soo, the best advice I can offer is keep this little fantasy between your ears and out of your mouth. If you happen to let the secret out, chances are real good that he'll hurt your feelings gently, but he'll burst your bubble all the same. It will make things very uncomfortable for you both, and can eventually ruin the friendship between he and your dad. You won't appreciate hearing this, I'm sure. But you know the truth of the matter, you just don't like it. It's okay, though. Fantasy is fine, daydreams are nice. Just keep this one to yourself, and wait a few years. When you finally do find THE ONE, this fellow will seem like a silly idea all around, and you will wonder where your head was at.
2007-10-03 08:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by The mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We've all experienced what you are feeling at one time or another. And I can honestly say, all those fantasies in your head about getting married and making love and having a family are ok. AS LONG AS YOU DON'T ACT ON THEM! Not only are you way too young, but you could send him to jail and ruin both of your lives. I know you feel like it's love, but love is more than butterflies and smiles. It's a commitment. It's respecting each other. You need to try to stay away from him and let things be. If and when you turn 18 you still feel this way, speak to the guy. But for the moment you're just a kid to him. So calm down, take a deep breath and try finding a guy your own age.
2007-10-03 08:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love! You are infatuated w/older guy. You have to know someone to fall in love w/them. Infuation is just liking someone and being all goo goo about the person from sight. Do not put this guy in a spot of where he has to tell your dad that you are out of place. Respect yourself and remain a child, you are only 15! What do you know about being in love and wanting to be pregnant..Can you take care of this baby if you become pregnant. Be cautious and just keep what you have a secret, a crush on an older guy. We all have been through it. Once you get older you can look back on this and laugh honey..
2007-10-03 08:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by sprng4ward 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!! You will ruin his life and his relationship with your dad. 15 is an incredible time, use it wisely on having fun being a teeneager and hanging out with friends your own age. This 30 Year Old man would be flattered to know that you have these feelings, but you'll regret telling him. Please steer your feelings elsewhere. If by the time you are 18 and still have these fantasies, then talk to him...but not before.
2007-10-03 08:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by The Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Well I know something about it, but I also know that sometimes you feel like that's the one and only you can get married with etc. But just think about the consequences!!
Lets say you had sex with the guy, and later on, when you got what you wanted, you don't feel the same about him. But you have the baby now. Always look in to the future as much as possible. And ask yourself a question: "What if...?"
2007-10-03 09:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by mika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh! you're only 15!
At 15 you haven't even met enough men, you just had your period, you still have pimples on your face! 15 is the age to fight with the adults,to dye your hair in pink, wear crazy clothes and punk eye make-up, pierce your skin, try the first cigarette, be rebel.
15 is not the age of GETTING PREGNANT !!!! You'll have all the time in the world to treat life seriously. You'll see that at college you'll meet a lot of handsome and inteligent guys, they will bring you flowers, try to conquer your heart, but you'll say NO with tears in your eyes, thinking how stupid you were at 15 when you decided to marry or have children. THINK AGAIN ! YOU'RE YOUNG ! yes, you are allowed to cry, to shout, to be mad, to laugh without reason, to have tattoos, anything... because you're 15 for God's sake !!!!
2007-10-03 08:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by web_countess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to give you a point of view that I have gotten from my 35 year old boyfriend that has a friend with a 14 year old daughter. Everytime he goes over there she starts flirting with him...i.e., rubbing his hair, sitting really close to him, normal flirty stuff. This behavior from her weirds him out so much that he doesn't even want to go to his friend's house anymore. Think of the fact that if he did do something with you then he can be prosecuted and have his life ruined. I know you don't want to hear this; but, you should find someone closer to your age.
2007-10-03 09:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Maxine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound horrible and you wont wanna do it , but i really think that you should leave him alone. simply for the reason that you are only 15, and if you have a relationship with him or have sex with him, he can get arrested and go to prison, because you are under 16. So if you really care for him i'd leave him alone, crushes are normal on people that are older than you but i really wouldn't persue it or he could get into very serious trouble. x
2007-10-03 08:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by sstar2412 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nevermind that you're really young to even be thinking about having anyone's child, let's assume that you really do know what you're talking about, and you love this guy. You do know that if the two of you have a relationship, he'll go to prison, right? It doesn't matter whether you consent, or your dad doesn't press charges--somebody would find out, and the state would prosecute.
Enjoy your crush while it lasts. If he's still as dreamy when you're legal, f*** him senseless and run away together. Good luck.
2007-10-03 08:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by djnightgaunt 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋