what do i do?

Question

Hi, i have a friend who for some reason is intent on causing trouble all the time between everybody in our group of friends. She has recently tried to split my boyfriend and i up by making up malicious rumours that he fancies another of our friends and she fancies him also. This is really not true- she then tried to blame another friend for it by saying it was her who spread these rumours. Unfortunatly for her my partner and mum heard it all when she told me!! she is now trying to make out that i dreamed it all up and im trying to gossip to cause trouble for her- i live with my boyf and just had a baby boy 2 weeks ago so this is upsetting us a great deal. I need advice on how to handle the situation and how i can make everyone see that it is her and not me causing trouble. This is not the first time she has done things like this- she is always like it but it is the first time she has done it to me.

She is also always making little nasty comments to all of us to hurt our feelings

and put us down all the time. Like saying that we are bad parents or that we are fat, look rough, dress badly etc
None of us are any of these things so we dont understand why she does it!

Please any advice would be appreciated and also why you think she is like this

Thanks

Answer 1

Jealousy can be the only reason why she is doing this. You have everything going for you and she is falling behind in this idea she has of "ideal life". So she's trying to bring your life down, to make hers look better. I would ask all your friends round, everyone except her. I think you should all have a calm chat about the trouble she's been causing and ask for your friends help and understanding of the situation. If the troublemaker is to remain a part of the group of friends, then at least everyone is aware of the things she might say or do to hurt each of you, and friends can either just shrug it off or correct her. You, your partner and your new baby can get on with your happy life then, knowing your real friends won't let her spoil your friendship with the others. Troublemaker will have to change, or go. Its up to her to learn, or lose out. Good luck.

Answer 2

Aww well firstly, congratulations on your baby~!!
Okay on to the serious business now..

This girl is absolutely NOT any kind of friend.. Who wants a "friend" that does that to them.. What a horrible, attention seeking little brat.. I knew a girl like that and I can tell you now, that the best thing to do is to cut ALL TIES with this girl.. She will not stop with the rumours and causing trouble until she has made you and your partner stop.. that is her ultimate aim.. to cause trouble. People like that don't have enough happiness or things to do in their sad little lives and do anything they can to make other people's lives miserable.

Other than the boredom in her life, she sounds as though she is VERY much jealous of you and your life...

It would seriously be SO much better just to get her out of your lives completely and don't worry about things that she may say.. You both know it's rubbish.. If you ignore her and get rid of her, she'll eventually get bored and more on to someone else...

Good luck

-KiKi

Answer 3

Well, you and your other friends think that this other friend of yours is very annoying or what you said, a cause of trouble. She might have gone a tough life and feels lonely inside. And maybe, what she wants to do is to make others feel miserable too just like what she has done to you. When she gives you and your friends nasty comments, don't believe it because you know that it's not true. My advice is face her and say what you feel. Don't spread things about it or else it will just make your problem bigger like feeling the same way as her. If she doesn't accept this, keep quiet about it and feel free to seek help from someone you know.

Answer 4

She is in need of attention and is probably jealous of your life. She doesn't sound like a good friend...I would avoid hanging out with her or talking to her. Be the adult, and don't lash out or talk bad about her back, it'll just make the situation worse. Just forget about her and her comments. Other people can see she's just saying things for attention too, so don't worry much about what she tells other people.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Why?
Insecurity - or sheer evil

What to do?
The ONLY thing you (all) can do is exclude this person from the group - and make sure you tell this person why.

If there is a meant appology - the group of friends would need to decide if you all are willing to risk it again.

Answer 7

not sure but i think shes jealous, i mean why would she make those nasty rumors? one question does she have a BF??? if not then probably she's jealous

Answer 8

she is hot n sexy, she needs hot young boy Friend for Vanna filling.