i have a terrible situation. about a month ago i broke up with my girlfriend of two years. we had a great relationship but for convenience reasons we decided to give it a rest. both college students different colleges. Well i got a new girlfriend i still talk to my ex because i thought she was a good person. while we were going out she had a friend that was a guy who is only 15 she's 18 im 18 well tonight she called me to tell me she had a problem. she said that they were hanging out and he put his hand in her shirt ( under bra). I told her why didn't you tell him to stop. and she said that she was afraid and didn't know what to do. I told her to stand up for herself and respect her body. Then she said maybe she liked it all along...... that was kinda a blow and then she hanged up......... it made me angry. and now i cant study for a midterm. please give me closure.....
2007-10-02 22:07:46 · 6 answers · asked by Omar A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how can i just let it stop bothering me. it's really frustrating and its making me sick.
2007-10-02 22:17:20 · update #1
You have to draw some boundaries. Tell her you'd love to stay friends, but you don't want to hear about her new boyfriend, and you don't want to talk about yours.
When I was young, I stayed "friends" with exactly one boyfriend, and began to treat him kind of like my girlfriend -- sharing things and all that. Then I was shocked when he stopped talking to me after I told him I got a boyfriend. I thought we were friends! But, I guess he was just keeping me on the hook in case his new life didn't work out, and he wanted to come back.
You have to decide if you want to be her friend, or if you just want to keep her on a string. If you want to be her friend, try not to be shocked about her new relationships, or ask her not to talk about it. If you want to keep her on a string, maybe you should give up the new GF, and give the old GF another chance.
Whatever, give yourself a break until after midterms. Grades are more important than mixed-up girls.
2007-10-02 22:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's an ex girlfriend. So why does it have you all bothered? If you consider her a friend. Warn her she is 18 and him being 15. He is a minor. That can cause problems. Legal problems.
2007-10-02 22:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Memory 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this was rude of her to do...to come out of the situation try to listen to good music...go to movie...party with friends..relax have a day break ...and then start studying for yr midterm ...do not entertain her anymore....
2007-10-02 22:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by mukesh30jan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you one thing, that's it...
You cannot be responsible for the actions of other people, no matter how much you love them.
As long as you remember that, everything else will steer itself in the right direction.
2007-10-02 22:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and concentrate on your Studies...no female is worth mucking up your School over....she's gotten over you it's apparent...and I'm guessing she doesn't care that she could be charged with Rape of a Minor....
2007-10-02 22:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think that you should disassociate yourself with your ex she seems to be acting childish and her problems no longer concern you so keep living your life and don't let her stress you out
2007-10-02 22:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Datgirl08 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋