2007-10-02 21:51:41 · 9 answers · asked by Sandy P 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. This sounds stupid and trite, but time is the only thing to help you. And you will never get over it completely, but the pain will slowly fade so that you can deal with life again.
Let yourself grieve, but also, look into helping others -- maybe helping others who are dying the same way your loved ones are. For example, crusade against drunk drivers, or raise money for diabetes.
There's not much else to be done. Try to be patient with yourself. It's normal to grieve and take awhile to get back to real life. See a counsellor if you are completely overwhelmed.
2007-10-02 22:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask for help from God, ask him to send an Angel to you to give you the strength and peace to live each day at a time.
Believe that God will do this because he loves you and so do the Angels. You are never alone God is always with you and your loved ones are being cared for, have no doubts. If you turn to the drugs and booze then you will not know the wonderful things that lay ahead for you, somewhere you are needed and you need to know this that when your loved ones were with you they needed you and they still do. They would want to know that you are living a productive life,stay with us
love, who knows what God has planned for you, trust him to help you and just take one day at a time. I am also praying for you right now and asking Angels to wrap you in their love.
2007-10-03 05:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, try doing something to take your mind off the situation for a while, like going to the gym long, walks .. It is so hard as it will be on your mind from morning until night its awful. I have just seen my GF mother pass away from cancer it was so painful for her i can see it in her face everyday, she drinks like crazy trying to block the pain. The truth is you will never actually get over it you will just learn to keep living your life with it in mind.
Drinking and taking drugs will only delay the pain you need to face it head on in order to accept it and move on, try getting some books on Bhuddism or there is a particular book by the Dali Lama it is very good and explains a lot about feelings and emotions and how to channel them and use them constructively not destructively.
If in a similar situation i would no doubt drink and take drugs for a period of time however you need to think of your loved ones and how they would feel about the way you are behaving, have some respect for them.
I honestly hope this helps a little try the books they are truly inspiring, i hope you find the way.
Take care
MC
2007-10-03 05:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that they would like it that youre so down or drugged up or pist ? I lost my dad then 2 days later my sister and I know that theyd be pist if I were to do those things instead of grieving in my own way be it positive.I am Maori and our culture has practices that help with the grieving process. It softens the blow so to speak. Crying releases the sadness.
2007-10-03 05:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by cats mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain and my deepest sympathy and prayers are with you. Your loved ones are with you in spirit and they are saddened to see you suffer, but your life goes on. I lost my son at 20 years old and I crawled into a shell crying my eyes out, reminiscing, listening to sad songs, many sleepless nights, totally in sane, then one day I said "hey, my life goes on" and I got up and joined a tennis club, bowling league, volleyball league, etc... I packed my car in the morning and went straight from work to all the activities and went home exhausted so I could sleep. I heard one person say "look at her, you'd never know she just buried her son", then I went into her face with daggers in my eyes and tears running down my cheeks and said: "you have no clue what I am feeling, I need to keep myself busy to keep my sanity!" Well I survived and today I am an avid tennis player and in the best shape ever. So as you can see something good could come out of this and my Mom always told me "God doesn't give you more than you can't handle". Keep yourself busy so you won't have time to think and your loved ones will be happy to see you moving on with life in a positive way. The more you think about it and crawl into a shell, the harder it will be to come out of it. Ask God to help you through your sorrows; He is there for you. Remember He gave you "LIFE" don't throw it away. Make the most of yourself for that is all there is of you and your time will come when you will be reunited with your loved ones, but for their sake and yours Live your life to its fullest. Here is a poem that I wrote after my son's death: It is called "Your Life is in His Hands":
Don't let life slip you by, it's too short not to try;
You'll see your ability is wide with God there by your side;
So live, let live, do all you can, He gave you LIFE and a helping hand; Take advantage of these things, and praise the Lord as you sing; Don't leave this world in sorrow, you're here today and gone tomorrow; This is your one chance to live, give and enhance; When your time comes to take the toll, the Lord resumes control; Knowing you've done your very best, at last you'll come to rest. God controls the destiny, so flourish in His plans, your life is in His hands.... I hope I helped you in a small way. God be with you and yours.
2007-10-03 05:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have lost many of fiends and loved ones in my life i understand what you are going through...but you have to understand that they are in a better place they are with the lord they are saf now from ever being hurt again by any means i am sry for hearing that you are hurting so much and give you a prayer for you for the lord to heal thy broken heart and to give you comfort i hope my words will give you solitude in this day and time may GOD bless you and keep you safe..........amen
2007-10-03 04:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by ~~DEVASIOUS~~Biotches' get i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would your loved ones want you destroying your life?
The best way to honor a person's memory is to LIVE and find happiness.
Being happy is a choice you have to make.
2007-10-03 04:59:16 · answer #7 · answered by Figment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just do. You move on with memories and that is it. If you turn to drugs, alcohole or suicide, you are self centred and selfish
2007-10-03 05:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the spirit they left behind. That is what they gave you when they left this world. Apart of them, of the spirit they carried with themself in their life when they were here on earth with you.
2007-10-03 05:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by white_painted_lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋