Does she needs severe psycological treatment? Will she be alright thereafter?

Question

She is 56. She didnt like to get married to her husband, but was forced by her parents. She's been married for over 33 years. She has a son and a daughter with 11 months difference (age). She had an abortion thereafter.

Her husband was a cop. He had ill treated her through out her life, till now. He had abused her mentally, physically and sexually. Her relatives very well know this, but couldnt do much about it. So, she has been telling each and everything to her children.

They both hate their dad and are very much attached to their mom. I would say, its not just a mom and child attachment. They have been grown by their mom this way and now they do whatever their mother wishes; think whatever their mom says is Right; whomever she hates they also hate, whomever she says bad they are bad.

Her children are married a year ago. She didnt like her in-laws, cos they were not acting according to her wishes. Now, she has very cunningly convinced her children to hate their spouses also

She wont say directly anything to her children. She cries and cries and tells she is alone, even though her children take care of her so much, visit and call her everyday, support her financially and also get things done for her daily needs. Her in laws are also co-operative with her children for the same.

Her husband, a retired person, even now does not help her in daily household works, does not support her financially and still keep torturing and ill treating her.

She is saying so many bad things about her in laws (children's spouses) to her children and does every possible thing to keep her children in support of her mentally as well as physically. And, she is not ready to leave her husband and stay with either daughter or son.

She has started to convince her husband and ill treat her in-laws, now. Currently, I feel her children's lives are in grave danger.

Whom should be given counselling.
The mother
The father or
The children?

This woman is my friend's mother in law.
I expected few people would not believe such people existed, since I myself took a year to believe them as they are.
There is no exaggeration nor venting. Both the son in law and daughter in law are suffering.

This woman is my friend's mother in law.
I expected few people would not believe such people existed, since I myself took a year to believe them as they are.
There is no exaggeration nor venting. Both the son in law and daughter in law are suffering.

Answer 1

I think they are attached to their mother...and of what you say this woman in a way manipulate with them cos she uses her tragedy of marrying someone that she didn't love...and I guess every time they want to be independent and so on she can't live with the feeling that no one needs her...

if this woman is someone you can talk to ...you have to explain that they have their own life and everything and what she is doing is wrong.

Answer 2

I personally feel she may not be treated psycologicaly because she is 56 years of age and she has been in this state for 33 years. Pray the god, nothing could be done.

Answer 3

They all need it. He's an abuser. She's a manipulative passive-aggressive. And it sounds like the kids have no backbone.

Who will get it? I guess whoever gets fed up with the situation and tries to get help.

I'm not sure what you have to do with this sad story, though.

Answer 4

this is a very strange post.lol
eh...it sounds exaggerated to me. i dont know that this mother could have so much power to convince both( i guess as you state"children" plural) to hate thier spouses within one year of marriage.
let me guess....she is your mother in law?

Answer 5

Is this your mother in law and what is the question?? Are you just venting???

Answer 6

She will only respond to "severe psychological treatment" if she recognises the need for it herself.

Answer 7

I hope she will be alright soon, with god blessing,.