Gettin Depressed.....?

Question

So my husband and I have been trying to have a baby for so long. I've been trying everything and I dont kno what to do anymore..Im young, i'm only 20 years old and we both got good jobs, have our own house, etc. I just dont know whats going on. I cry all the time about this becuase all I want is a child. I can feel myself getting more and more depressed. I try not to think about it but its not that easy to do. After this month if there is still nothing, i think im going to stop for awhile. I cant keep puttin myself threw this..Has anyone else been threw this and so young like me? Sorry not really a question here just had to vent!!!! Thanks Guys...=]

Answer 1

Hey, I no how you feel, and many other woman no how you feel, being young and ttc can be a strain, I am also young, and I am thinking I would never get pregnant, but thanks to my gyno he made me feel so much better when he said " your still young don't give up, it would happen", Many ladies out there was told they wouldn't be able to conceiev and conceive, I am having diffuculties conceiving because I have pcos, that means I have small cycts on my ovaries, it hurts me dearly to no that something is wrong with my ovaries and I can't do nothing to help it, but there is hope, don't lose the faith, don't stress about it, stress and depression plays a big roll in concieving, I am 19 years old, and was having unprotected sex for 4 years now, so I no something was wrong with me, try going to your dr and get a test to make sure you are in good health, I am in the same situation as you, I am engage, I have a nice office job, I own my own car, now I am currently pay mortage on a three bedroom house.

ttc#1 for 4 years
Diagnois with pcos in April 07
did 3 cycle of clomid unsuccessfull
currently takin clomid 100mg (3-7), metformin 500mg twice a day, Materns vitamins, folic acid

I wish and hope you get that baby your heart desires

Answer 2

Welcome to my world, and the world of many other woman. I am 24 years old and we started trying like a while ago and still nothing. I have also decided to stop trying. I think it is the best choice we could make. Less stress, no crying, no disappointments and enjoy having sex. If it happens it happens. But shedding another tear because of a BFN is not on my list. I am going to forget about ovulation, bbt etc.
I understand how much you want this, but getting depressed isn't exactly going to increase your chances of conceiving. It'll do the contrary. Try to keep busy, exercise, read more, cooking lessons whatever to get your mind of it. I started excercising and I am slowly but surely getting my mind of this. I realized that baby making should not be so stressful and does not need constant charting and all the stuff we put ourselves through. It will happen when it happens.
Take it easy and I wish you all the best of luck.

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear that youa re going through this.... I was 20 also when my husband and i started trying and it took us a year! We were both healthy adults. We thought that maybe it was because my husband is ten years older but we were told over and over that it just takes time sometimes. Right when i was about to give up it finally happened. I know it seems like you are alone but you are not, I promise. Just know that it will happen and before you know it you'll have a little one of your own. My doctor advised me to try birth control for three months and then get off and within three months i would probably get pregnant. So, if you are serious about taking time off try this. The pill will regulate your body. Also, i took centrum once a day women's vitamins. They may help. My last suggestion is a lubricant called preseed. They sell it online and it will make your husband's sperm live longer when you have sex. Good luck!

Answer 4

my dear.... stress plays a really bad part on TTC but I won't tell you not to stress because thats not in our hands. I've gone through this and for a long long time. I was 27 when I got married and then I knew that I had cysts on my ovary so TTC would be hard but i didn't know I would have to wait 4 long years to hold my baby in my hands. Every day was hard and every month I used to cry on seeing my period. Every day that delayed my period used to bring in more hope but the day I would get tested it would jinx and I would see blood the next day. it was not so easy but believe me I had lost all hope. And I also went through extensive infertility treaments including meds, injections, timing my cycles, everything.... Then my doc said the last step is IVf and I just wasn't ready for it at that stage. i asked my husband and we both decided to take a break from all this and we'd come back to it when we would be ready. And guess what.... the next cycle I got pregnant. i'm sure the treatments worked too but the rest cycle did wonders. i have a one year old now and I tell you there's nothing better than motherhood. I'm so thankful to get that feel. And I pray you too will become pregnant and have a healthy baby one day.

Answer 5

I am also in the same situation as yours. We have been trying since 1 year. I have Pcos. I am 25. I finished second round of chlomid and I am 4Dpo. Last month I was so anxious that I am going to conceive. I ovulated at the right time and had sex on the right time also. But when Af came I cried a lot.
But I did not lost hope. I am still positive about it.
Dont take lot of stress. Its easy to say but hard to practice which I am doing right now.

Answer 6

Stress can really play a factor when you are trying to conceive. I have no personal experience with trying to conceive but I have a very close friend that went through the same thing and as soon as she relaxed they got pregnant. Just relax it will happen for you when the time is right. Concentrate on on yourself and your relationship. Depression is nothing to take lightly and may be hindering your conception. Try to find an outlet if you are religous the church is a great place to get support.

Best of luck.

Answer 7

Wow...only 20 and you have your own house? That is impressive.
You are trying to conceive....please try this.
Both you and your husband get to the gym. Eat healthy foods...healthy, healthy, all the way. Work out....get into a weight loss regimen, both of you.
The reason: losing weight, such as by running, fires up the brain chemistry, the chemicals of sex. It will INCREASE sperm production.
I am not kidding about this. If your husband goes running every morning, say on a treadmill, he will increase the volume of his semen, as well as the ability to have more frequent erections and ejaculations.
You will increase your chances tremendously just by getting your husband into a running program, a weight loss program eating healthy foods.
If he needs to snack, let him eat jellybeans...they contain gelatin fiber, which replaces the gelatin lost in ejaculation.
Jello is also very good for a man.

Answer 8

First, tell your boyfriend to not strategies in case you form of ignore approximately him/do not spend as plenty time with him. clarify which you may cheer up a buddy. Then, attempt to cheer up your buddy. bypass someplace, if there's a park or something, bypass there, if she performs activities, carry her to a courtroom/fitness center. What i love to do is write, so i'd write a poem if I have been in this occasion, positioned it on a severe high quality home made stationery and wrap it up with a severe high quality present, or a necklace. whether you do all that, do not ignore the explanation why she's depressed. tell her that she's the excellent and that her boyfriend is a jerk, et cetera. in case you supply her a shoulder to cry on, you may cry on her shoulder some time faster.

Answer 9

i have 2 dif friends that tried and tried to have a child. both of my friends finally adopted. one ended up getting preg right away. she and husband were happy, even though they had 2 in diapers. the other friend adopted and 3 yrs later had a child. they too were happy. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 10

Are you sure you have tried everything? It is normal for it to take quite a few cycles to conceive, even if you are young and healthy.