Why is there so many people having sex outside of marriage?

Question

I know this is a real catchy question? But seriously< all that is getting out of hand. Somebody need to get tired and say, hey, Iam just gonna wait for marriage. Aids is speading more and more< and people are cheating more and more. People dont seem to have any self control. Some people dont even care who they sleep with, just so long they just cool off. Men disrepecting woman. Lowering your standard, eventually you will have to pay a great price for your actions. God honor marriage, but people dont really seem to care about each other anymore. So much cheating and breaking up, and then some turn around a sleep with someone else the next day or nest week. It is sad< really someone needs to stand up and say, I've had enough< iam gonna wait until marriage.

Answer 1

My Friend you have asked a very accurate question. The thing is that as compared to the past, viewing of pornographic videos and magazines has shot up eversince the dawn of the satellite era of television. A lot of chat shows on television have seemed to justify concepts like"IF YOU A GREAT BODY FLAUNT IT". There has been an increase in fashion shows on television which surprisingly show young girls doing a ramp just in their BARE ESSENTIALS. All these factors have contributed towards raising the libido of the new generation to a point where ONE NIGHT STANDS have become an in-thing among youngsters today. Even those companies manufacturing condoms are advertising it from the youngsters point of view thus making pre-marital sex seem easy. Undoubtedly sex is a basic necessity of human beings but one should understand that sex is one of the many needs of a human being and not life. It is high time that the new generation learns to life with right values and not buy into the hype created by the merciless media and unethical businessmen.

Answer 2

1. The idea that sex outside of marriage is bad is antiquated and mistaken. It is ok to have sex if you are not married. 2. What "scientific approach"? Who are "they"? I actually am a scientist and I can tell you that unless you produce a peer-reviewed journal article, nothing scientific has been proven (at the caliber you're talking about, anyway). 3. Men don't have to be polygamous, nor do women have to be monogamous. All are free to have as many or as few sexual/romantic partners as they desire. Your so-called question is just dripping with ignorance and misogyny. Not cool.

Answer 3

Sometimes wifes dont want sex leaving the husband no option but to look for sex outside of marriage. A women may be a prude and a man may not know it before marriage. A women may give sex only when she wants something. If the husband does'nt get it at home, he has no choice but to look elsewhere for sex. These are just some reasons why men cheat but there can be many more reasons.

Answer 4

Because we live in a hedonistic society--if it feels good, do it! Yes, there are many people having sex however and whenever, but there are still others who go according to their standards. There is serial monogamy--only sleep with the one you are in a relationship at the moment. There is polygamy--sleep with many partners. There is adultery--you are married, but sleep with someone else. And there are still others who wait until they are married. People stand up for themselves all the time, but they all have different standards of morality. Good on you for standing up for what you believe, but that doesn't make anyone else a worse person than you. My personal beliefs will not change anyone else's mind. But, yeah, with all the STD around out there, it's a wonder more people don't have more restraint.

Answer 5

Everyone men (may be very few exceptions) want to see any girls he considers as good looking in his bed. But not many are doing that because either they dont' have the courage for this or they don't have the right opportunity.

It is very rare a man can be statisfied completely by one women. We all need varieties and get bored with things soon.

It is not only men, nowadays, i hope (and wish) the mentality of women also changing nowadays in this direction. I find it is lot quicker to make a 'move' with the girls on sex in these days than before.

For me as long as it is safe, not affecting any one, i am ok to have sex with a new girl evry week.

Answer 6

Obviously you believe that people should wait for marriage until they have sex-and you have a right to believe that.

However, the issues that you are talking about aren't caused by sex outside of marriage-cheating, breaking up, multiple sex partners, disease, etc. are not consequences of having premarital sex....there are many people that have those issues WHILE they are married. The real issue is people not having enough self-respect, enough respect for their partner, and enough respect for sex itself. Many people no longer see sex as an emotional/spiritual bond between two people, and when sex is reduced to a physical act you can end up with results like these-but it STILL doesn't mean that these are the results of sex before marriage.

I had sex with my husband before we were married-we even concieved our son before we were married-but we have not had any of those issues. My husband is the ONLY man I've ever had sex with, we have always both been fully committed and fully monogamous, and we have a very happy and healthy relationship. I believe that is because we have respect for ourselves, for eachother, and for the fact that sex is an emotional and spiritual bond between two people..even if we didn't wait for marriage.

Answer 7

well if you feel that way have a million babies and teach them that. All the cheating starts at home. I never saw my mom in a committed relationship until 5 years ago and im 23 now and i have cheated on every boyfriend iv ever had. My brother is the same way. My cousin who we are close with has been with the same girl for 8 years and he's 21. His mom has always been in committed relationships

Answer 8

I don't care for sex outside of Love, but what others do, as long as it's with consenting adults is no one's business.

Also, when the whole "Til death do us part" began" we lived to be about 40!

Look at the divorce rate. Marriage, sadly, doesn't work very well. Making it harder to get a divorce would be the heighth of stupidity. Making it harder to get married would make more sense.

Sex is a primal human need. We attach so much ethical baggage to it and in doing so cause unnecessary misery.

Cheating is shabby and cruel, yes.

ps: this is not at all apropos, but for comic relief there's an enormously funny book by EB White with drawings by James Thurber. Dated it may be, but a classic in humor.

Answer 9

Thank you for asking this question and here is my 2 cents. Welcome to the New World Order, you and me are in the old world. We are too old and under development our vision. People now are not afraid to lie and cheat for a short moment in which he or she will pay in the long run. In my opinion, I blame people who do not use his or her common sense. By the way, people who are marry do sleeping around during business trip and have sex while his or her partner works day and night. I understand people are lonely and need attention. But, people around me screw each other life and nothing moving forward. They will get AID at no time and you and me just watch and see. Oh, STD is bad also. I am glad you want to wait and get marry. Good luck.

Answer 10

i am so glad u posted this question because i have been feeling the same way for about 3yrs now, and everyone i discuss this issue with have conflicting yet totally understandable opinions about it. its sickening to know that u cant trust the one u love the most because not only do u have to worry about U doing something to make them cheat, its women/men out there that prey on married/committed spouses. u cant even trust ur man to go out and have a drink w/o a scantly clad nude chick coming in and throwing herself on ur man. vise-versa. i personally feel that its the media/t.v that does this to relationships. talk shows try to cover as much as they can on this issue, but i think its bigger than what people originally thought it would be. America has this cliche' "SEX SELLS". its affecting so many People of all ages, even our babies. the Disney channel sitcom characters/ actors with sex tapes? nude pics? producers writing "boyfriends" into the script? when i was 12, (I'm double the age now) i wasn't thinking about boys, but raven has one on her show. things like that. daytime t.v looks like late night soft ****, cartoons cursing? wheres the FCC when u need them? and the list continues.
so when u put some of the things in a pot and let it simmer for awhile, the ending result is a destructive issue in most American relationships/marriage nowadays.