Did i revert him back to shyness?

Question

CLOSE friends for years and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with (both in our 20's and gave him his first kiss; no sex just kisses) BUT "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made us drift apart (he pushed me away) and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)

We're in the process of being close friends again...In the beginning when we first met, we "clicked' right away and could be able to talk to each other about anything and everything. We would always see each other in and out of classes, have lunch, and talk to each other almost every night. That was 3 years ago and obviously, THINGS change, PEOPLE change, and we change but it's not that we're growing apart - we're just growing up while adjusting to all this change...
It's different and i get scared that we'll lose our "closeness" but someone told me, "true things are never lost..." CAN WE STILL DO OUR OWN THING AND BE CLOSE? We used to talk all the time and now we don't call each other; not sure if it's a "guy thing" where they stop talking on the phone, we're both busy, or he's changed alot from the his friend's death...i'm sorry i'm just venting - THOUGHTS? I'd really appreciate it! THANKS

You'll meet alot of "friends" in your life but when you go through hard times, you'll realize all those "friends" were really aquiantances and there's only 2 left that are really there for you...
he's one of them...he's one of those "closest" friends...and i knew from day 1

Or maybe he doesn't know how to act because we "got together' and kissed? Or maybe there are still feelings?

Is this because we're growing up and maturing? (not growing apart)?

THE FIRST DAY WE MET, he was SOO QUIET (and he's an outgoing, friendly person to everyone) so we slowly started getting close - "hi" here and there to texting to talking on the phone to hanging out and being comfortable with each over...all during 3 years ;)

Answer 1

Hunnie your playing around with truth there but you don't know how to. You've just sort of fall into it. Realize the only real distinction between lovers and friends is recerational sex. Thats it, which isn't true, we just in the last 30 years had something new throw at the human race its never had before and its KILLING are relationships. Because we ASSUME sex is love, its not, it can be part of love, but it, itself isn't the love. So guess what, as far as the truth goes, YOU WERE ALWAYS LOVERS!!!! You can't have friends without love, and all you need to be a lover is love, see what I mean. We have such a confused ideal of what relationships are that when they do get to being true, we don't know how to handle them, because true relationships become as individual as the individuals that make it, yes it makes sense to keep relationships within a certain spectrum, but we all eat meals, but we don't all eat the samething. Its just unfornutly for a relaitonship like that to work, you guys have to be willing to grow, advance, and understand beyond that which is the norm. If you stay within the norm, you guys don't have a chance. I could go on and on about this, if you want more info about it, feel free to e-mail me.....