How do u discribe a girls virginity in your ideas? I mean do u value it, do you just respect girls who is a virgin, do you marry only a virgin.
And how do u react if u get to know that your girl cannot proof her virginity eventhough u know she is pure and good.
Really want to know whether u guys look for ladies past more than the future.
Just need information for a research with regard to men's mentality on judging women.
2007-10-02 18:45:22 · 16 answers · asked by tin tin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Personally I couldn't care less. I'd rather a partner be experienced.
Seeking out a virgin, marrying them, only to find they are useless in bed and are not sexually compatible with me seems like an unspeakably stupid thing to do.
Assuming I were single, I would want to meet a girl who knows what she is doing in the bedroom and knows what she wants.
The whole concept of meeting a virgin and breaking her in on her wedding night is the stuff of medieval society. It is treating women as property, as a plaything for the man. It is not equality or partnership in the relationship at all. It is not accepting in any way women's sexuality.
Any man who still coverts virginity of women is either sexist, misguided, immature, or has been brainwashed by abstinence education programs or some religious sect that seeks to control sexuality in its' followers.
2007-10-02 18:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow, well this is a tough one, but i'll chew on it for you.
the way i see it, most men feel that finding a virgin is an almost impossible task when searching for a wife/girlfriend/soul mate, etc. but it is an attractive attribute, it puts to rest the concerns of any other girls "sexual history" (cause there obviously is'nt one with a virgin). and it makes the girl look sensible and even a little more trustworthy.
and the down side, most men have kind of given up holding out for a virgin, and even more that aren't virgins either. it also can sometimes come off as kind of "prudish", and maybe even a little snoby, some guys might even be intimidated by a girls' virginity... it makes it seem as though the virgin girl is someone that is next to impossible to be with (like shooting for the moon) the way i see it, its best to be ok with messing around (foreplay and whatnot) to me anyway.
2007-10-02 20:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have her not be a virgin. I know from personal experience that a girl gets REALLY attached to her first lover. So unless you want the headache of a girl obsessing over you go for someone who is not a virgin (but hasn't been with a lot of guys because that means the girl is a whore, and no one wants to date a whore). My ideal girlfriend would be someone who has slept with two or three other guys that way the emotional attachment that comes with sex isn't there and you can concentrate on an actual relationship.
2007-10-02 18:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by excelsiorgtr420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because a girl is a virgin dont make her good and pure and innocent. And just because she is not dont make her a whore. This is an archaic way of thinking, the fact that the woman has to be a virgin but the man does not. I dont really care is basically what im trying to say :)
2007-10-02 18:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about conquest. If any other guy says otherwise he is lying. We want to be there first. We want feel that sensation that cannot be duplicated by another man ever. It makes us feel strong and verile and powerful. Purity is a myth. It has nothing to do with religion or feelings. A virgin is untouched and therefore not soiled by experience that could backfire for us as apposed to a woman that has been around the block a few hundred times. Sure, she may know how to make you feel good, but will you fulfill her in the same way as the four guys she had in college with her roommate? I'm not saying it's right but that's just the way it is.
2007-10-02 18:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by nashmortis1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont care really. im allmost 20 and i go for no older than 30. To be straight to the point.. the saying is a load of shiza and only counts to sexual freaks. Aslo, I have had sex with girls that are as loose as a goose and ide much rather a girl that is normal, not one that is a dirty mole who sleeps with everything that walks. overall.... just normal... not never used.
2007-10-02 19:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I never cared. There is something about a virgin - she's a challenge and territory to be conquered.
But then other times, I wanted a woman who had experience. Less hassle that way.
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2007-10-02 18:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on whether you want the girl for long term or just sex. If you want the girl for sex or even you don' think its long term, then virgin is not good. If its not long term you want the girl also to move on. People always remember their first one. Do u want to be remembered or forgotten?
2007-10-02 19:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by ssjumbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know where I could find a virgin to marry, if I wanted one. I live real close to an elementary school, but I don't want to marry someone that young; puberty is ten times worse than menopause.
2007-10-02 18:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by Chris A 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hooking up with a girl who is a virgin would be cool, because you know they are not a slut, and so they cant get you any STDs or anything like that. However, most attractive girls now days dont stay virgins for long. I dont need a girl to be a virgin to date her or anything, but if she happens to be, it is kind of reassuring.
2007-10-02 18:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋