hello everyone that reads this , thank you for ur time. last year i had an abortion just so tht i could keep my partner and i regret it so badly. my partner didn't want our son, because his family got it into his head that he would have to stop going to college and not be able to do anything he wanted to do with his life. but he didnt want it so i done the silly thing in ending the pregnancy, people can call me what they want , i am used to it , we all have different views about it , but i do feel bad enough. today my partner finished with me because he says it isnt working out between us and he says he doesn't feel loved by me anymore, its only because i have been put onto antidepressants and they r making me feel really down about things at the minute. so i just want to be left on my own and see no one. he finished with me because i didnt want to see him for 4 days in a row this week just gone and he is saying tht i am not showing him love. have i done anything wrong. x
2007-10-02 17:44:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you know that if you chose to have sex before you are married you might become pregant. When and if that happens you end up with a large delema. Now you have to ask yourself some questions. What do you want out of life? are you willing to fight for this relationship or is it better to end the relationship now? Is he feeling sorry for what happened ?and if not do you really want him around? If he is acceptable as father material then you both are probably feeling alot of guilt. You are the one who terminated the pregnancy and so he may blame you for his guilt( I know its not logical, but emoitions are not logical) The problem is that there is no easy way out of this, whats done is done. The only thing that can be done now is pick youself up and learn your lesson. Make better choices. Get the help that you need. Guilt is often times a wakeup call that things were handled badly and need a resolution. You have to look in you heart and answer the question, Did you violate what you know to be right. If you did you need to change so it will never happen agine.
2007-10-02 18:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lil 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, the fact that you had the abortion is catching up with you emotionally and you haven't done anything wrong. I would say you should try to get some counseling to help you get past this but get rid of that guy and move on. the antidepressant should make you feel better but if they aren't, mention it to the doctor so that they can try another type or get you come counseling. You may just need someone sympathetic to talk to.
2007-10-02 17:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP IT right now!!! He puts the blame off on you so that you won't see what he is really like. Let me ask you something- when you got pregnant were you even asked what you wanted to do about the situation? It kinda sounded like the decision was made by him and his family and that alone was supposed to make things final-no questions- nothing. That is messed up to me. In my opinion, no girl you haven't done anything wrong to that a--hole. On the contrary, he and his decisions have scarred you for the rest of your life--- If you continue to allow what is already done and can't be changed to run your entire life. I wish you the best and hope you can find it in your own heart to one day forgive yourself for a mistake, that unfortunately can't be undone.
2007-10-03 07:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by marcy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do nothing wrong, honey. As a person you have your own/other comitments in life. If he can't see that, then he is just some men ego who wants you to live your life through his own selfish-ordained ways.
You have done alot of sacrifices for him; and even up to now, you solely regret about some. He should show alittle respect and apprecition for that.
Don't put yourself to living through his ways any more. Infact, don't fuss about him no more....just move on with your life.
I'd like to advice you that this guy aint the loving type.
You are eventually going to meet some one who relly deserves you, only if you move on.
2007-10-02 18:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by mr. wisdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you did and that can not be changed. He is a real loser for asking you to do that. Go on with your life without him. There really is someone for you. I'm sorry that the decision you made is one that you regret, but truly there is a person that will make your life whole. Don't let him or anyone one else make you less then you are. Good luck and let the higher power guide you from here on out.
2007-10-02 17:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definately going through a rough time. First you need to grieve the loss of your child. You need to seek some counseling and stay on the anti-depressants. He is not being supportive of you. I would let him go, he is selfish in thinking only about himself. You did nothing wrong but he should have stayed by you to help you through this time. Just know that he will run from issues everytime. Let him go.
2007-10-02 17:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Christyne N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you did wrong was to care about this piece of sludge. He demands you abort yall's child you made together then. Now he demands you must be happy when it suits him. Sounds like he wants what he wants and doesn't care how things effect you or what you want. YOUR BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM!!
2007-10-02 17:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Clayto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you have done nothing wrong. You experienced something traumatic last year, and you are still dealing with it. Let him go, he's not worth it. Meanwhile, concentrate on getting yourself better. If your anti-depressants are getting you down, maybe you need to re-visit your doctor and have him try other meds.
2007-10-02 17:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better to go to psyciatrist
2007-10-02 17:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by Bamboo_hammer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋