after how many months of going out should people have sex?

Question

safe sex ok

Answer 1

The decision to have sex is not a question of time, but rather a question of love, commitment, maturity, and the ability to accept responsibility. If a person is mature enough to begin and maintain a loving, committed, and monogamous relationship, the idea of having sex will be a natural one, and it can be strong and motivating. However, before the couple (assuming heterosexual) decides to have sex, they must be willing to accept the responsibility of possibly creating a new life. No matter the contraceptive measures taken, there is not one method which carries a 100% guarantee against pregnancy. Sex is a wonderful expression of love between two loving and committed partners, and it can serve as a strengthening bond, but it has it's own inherent responsibilities. As long as the couple treats sex, and themselves, with respect, then sex will serve the couple well.

Answer 2

I would say you must be very comfortable with each other. Know about each others sexual history. Both of you should have talked about protection & pregnancy prevention, be in love, willing to make a family if you could get pregnant. If you dont feel comfortable talking about sex, than you shouldnt be having it. Using only condoms is not an effective way to prevent pregnancies, but should still but used to prevent STDs. Another form of prevention like birthcontrol should be used also. Not letting someone rush you into this will help you not regret having sex. Good luck & be safe!

Answer 3

Infatuation lasts 6 months, so definitely not before then. It also depends on age a bit. The younger, the more you wait.
If you are of consenting age then I would say 9-12 months. It is more about when you are both ready and just can't wait. Let the anticipation build to the highest level before you give in and it will be better.

Answer 4

Well I believe in like when your married! but if you can't wait that long ask yourself why you want to have sex? Is it for pleasure or to keep your girl/boy-friend. With std's on the rise please be careful and rememmber that even contact with sex organs and your mouth, to put it gently, can pass on std's.
What's the hurry. I have been married for 20 years, my husband was a virgin and I was not, I had slept with many different men, and I regret it like crazy. Funny thing about life I found out last summer that I have the HPV virus...go figure, 20 years later. So wait!!

Answer 5

Whever youre okay with it. I met my ex-wife in a bar, we had sex within about 2 hours of meeting and a couole of years later we got married which lasted 7 years (it could have been longer but I don't want children).

Answer 6

It doesn't matter how long you go out. When both partners feel its the right time, then they will have sex. That doesn't mean you should rush into things though. If you're going to do it, I would suggest giving something second thought to it because I really regret my decision about having sex. If you're still young, you have to think about how our age group can't handle the consequences of sex rather well. If we get pregnant, we have to tell our parents. If we break up after giving our virginity away to that person, it makes things akward between the two.

Answer 7

After you get married; after you make a real commitment to the person. The rest of the answers above are just pop-culture hyperbole. When someone says you can have sex "when you're ready", it means be ready to be dumped if you get pregnant.

Answer 8

i would have to say when you both feel its right, dont over romantisize it , or take it for granted, hell you might have known the person FAR longer then being going out. me and my boyfreind waited about 2 months but thats cos it felt right for us (even tho we knew eachother 4 years), where as me an my ex where at it the same week we decided to get together and had only known eachother a few months.

Answer 9

if you are a virgin then i would say wait wait wait because when your young relationships come and go and i can tell u this from xperience. i was with my first boyfriend for a year before we had sex and i regret it all the time because we broke up not long after we lost our virginity to each other, it is a huge responsibilty that young minds can not emotionally handle. if you arent a virgin then i think you should wait as long as possible because u dont want guys to think u are easy you want them to treat u with diginity and respect.

Answer 10

There is no set time limit on this most "personal encounter." You and your "loved one" must make that decision yourselves. Of course, you are right to use "condoms" and any other "substantial" birth control available. Again, this is a step that must be decided upon by two "mature" people who have gotten to know each other. Trust must be a strong factor in this. I wish you well. Peace, Love and God Bless.