Why is it that all of your family think that they have the right to tell you how to name your kids?

Question

I seem that every time I mention a name for _MY_ baby somebody has something to say about it...why? Im not asking them if they like the name, Im just letting them know how I would like to name my baby

Answer 1

I think everyone's family has something to say. It is natural. Go with what you want to name the baby. They will learn to deal.

Answer 2

I agree with what someone else said. Start dropping really wierd names and then they will shut up!
People like to get their opinion in early, mainly because they like to fantasise what they would call a child if they had one now too.
My poor BF, her MIL was all over her telling her the baby was going to be called Robert (after the grandpa). It took every ounce of her hormone filled body not to say anything or have a go at her. (Especially when she would rub her belly and speak to it and call it Robert - wouldn't that just DO your head in??!!)
They never had any intention of calling the baby that and of course after the baby is born and you tell everyone what you called it, you obviously get the last say!
And, another hint - don't tell anyone what names you are considering. Before the baby is born people will not hesitate to tell you they hate that name. After it is born they are much more polite.
Have fun - the naming is a real fun part!

Answer 3

It's just fun coming up with a baby name. Also, people may want the bragging rights for coming up with the name that was chosen. But the decision is YOURS and nobody else's.

Answer 4

Isn't it amazing how everyone puts their 2 cents in, even when you don't ask for it. I used to preface my answer when someone asked "Not looking for an opinion ... but I decided on _____". Family is the most vocal. When it's all said and done and the baby is here ... it's amazing how what you chose as a name isn't even questioned!

Answer 5

This is the reason I am keeping my favorite names between my hubby and me until the baby is born. We'll give initials to family members and have fun listening to what they think the name is. We won't tell them the gender, either!

Answer 6

Don't let them influence you ! I know how hard it can be to pick a name that you like, nevermind trying to please everyone else ! Just keep in mind that there will always be someone who doesn't like whatever you pick, so too bad ! You carry it around for 9 months (Plus years after LOL) so you get to choose the name ! Good luck !!

Answer 7

I know what you mean. I like really unique names like Rainn or Secret so you can imagine what some people would say to that. But i just tell them I want my child to know you don't always have to follow the crowd, it's important to be yourself and individual and original. tell you family that it's your choice and if they don't like the name you've chosen tell them to have a kid and name them whatever they want but this is your child and your decision. good luck!

Answer 8

Good lord, how many kids have you had? LOL!!! Don't let anyone influence you, although it's probably only so they can have the credit if you pick something they like. It's amazing how stuff like this brings out the worst in people!!!

Answer 9

the best way to deal with this is to not tell anyone the name you have chosen until the baby is born. they mean well but you will just continue to get aggravated which is not good, so keep the name to yourself.

Answer 10

Hey it probably goes along w/ that when you got married--they felt that they had the right to say how u should do your wedding...

everyone has the thoughts that they are "helping" you.

I'd start asking what they thought of the name: Moonunit

and go from there, and seriously say: this is what we're going to name her/him...