'myself' is very loud and outgoing whenever any of my friends are around, but i cant seem to speak a word when there's no one that i truelly know around me, unless its one on one or if i've never even met any of the people before.
so how to do i open up at school where it's the say people so you recognize everyone...and i dnt have any classes with anyone who im comfortable with thats only at lunch. ?????????
2007-10-02 16:32:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
thanx alot jackal r u telling me 'myself' is a bad person?? so not true. as for the other comment...the problem is i want to make new friends or b able to at least chat w/ ppl w/o freaking out. please someone give some real help??
2007-10-02 16:47:06 · update #1
Wow that sounds exactly like i was a few years ago!!!
for me it all really changed when I went to Uni in 2005. i just sat in class, and if i was sitting next to someone just smiled and said hello. eventually i found someone who i got on well with, and slowly built up friendship with her and her mates, now I am the main joker in the group, and I eventually found the confidence to talk to anyone..
give it a go, it will take time, but soon you will have a good set of friends around you.
2007-10-02 20:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Katy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting to know new people and breaking the ice into a conversation is never easy,but does come naturally for some more than others...A simple hello or commenting on the surrroundings or events taking place,even humor can start a conversation with another person,and if their are not interesting in talking to you,move onto someone who eventually will...The key is to not be discouraged by those who do not seem interested in making a conversation with you,as it is their loss for not getting to know you..
Remember they too may feel as you do about opening up to others so someone has to take the initiative to get the ball rolling to make friends or aquaintances...An open & positive attitude will draw others to you,so don't give up,relax,and take the initiative to be that friend everyone desires to have in a new situtation!=)
Good luck!
2007-10-03 05:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by legendary~cool 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jackal thats a really dumba** answer!
You should be yourself - it is normal though to be a little reserved when you are not really certain of the company around you.
Is it such a bad thing to be a little quiet at times - it gives you more opportunity to scope out the company you are in and work out the dynamics.
As you get more comfortable you will open up anyway.
2007-10-02 23:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are introverts, you may be one of them. The world is geared towards extroverts. It is easier for them. I shudder at the thought of going into a room full of strangers and making small talk with them. I do it, but I have never gotten over the nervousness. I am much better when I am around people that know me.
Peace.
2007-10-03 00:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we are more open and easy going with people we like and know and we tend to be quieter with people we don't know. So, I don't know what the problem is here.
2007-10-02 23:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how you are when you are with your friends, so you can be the same with others. Basically, you pretend to be confident until it becomes a habit :)
2007-10-03 02:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋