If you act on your anger, you release frustration. I'm not talking about murder, just making a complaint with a store manager about a rude cashier, something like that. If you do nothing, you are being the better person, but you are also keeping alot of pent up anger. So what is better?
2007-10-02 16:29:03 · 5 answers · asked by C M 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
channelling anger into positive modes of thinking is difficult but mentally refreshing. consider the cashier, hypothetically: would you endanger her job over some petty slight, or smile and say" it's ok, hon. i've had days like yours too!"
find a way to vent anger into positive channels. that's my message, as well as my own practice.
2007-10-02 16:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a situation calls for immediate action take a few deep breaths and try to calmly state your side of the story while it's still fresh and the problem can be fixed or at least put into motion to be fixed. If it's something huge ... you should take a few hours ...or days to get yourself in check so you can be smart and resolve the problem without you or someone else getting hurt.
2007-10-03 01:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the business world, the customer is 99.9% always right. Rude cashiers, managers, or just about anyone that works in the public sector should always be courteous. Yes, do report them, or just tell the person.
2007-10-02 16:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by alatina44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the details of the situation.
For example....I don't have a car currently, can't afford it *and* all the related expenses (parking, maintenance, mandatory insurance) that come with it where I live. So when I need to get out and run errands, I have to ride the bus and use public transportation.
And....I have to bite my tongue a *LOT* on the bus. Why?
Because a *lot* of the times when I am angry, it's because some *teenager* on the bus gets in my face and openly insults me. And it's one of those situations where it's a no-winner because of *all* of the social disparities:
--They're teenagers and I'm an adult. I'm expected to know how to act in public, they aren't so much...
--More often than I'd like to admit, these are teenagers *of color* and I'm generally considered "white". Meaning if I stand up for myself and *say Anything* at all, *somebody* will call me a bigot. I've actually had some of these kids threaten to "get his white 4ss thrown off our bus".
--I'm one person and these people show up two, three and four at a time, meaning I'd get shouted down at least.
--I admit to being a poor person. I may not always be the sharpest dresser. I also admit to being a bit overweight. And apparently....these two things *give people* all the license in the world to insult my hygiene (though I don't leave the *house* anymore without using soap, deodorant, toothpaste and mouthwash at least), my mother, say I'm retarded, *spray crap* on me, and tell me I look like a *monkey*.
In short....people can't say I'm ugly so they pick the *vague* stuff like hygiene and smell to go after. At best.
But I digress, sorry. Point is, the single biggest things are a) they're teenagers, and b) that I look like I'm too poor to afford being *kicked off* the bus because for the most part, I *can't* afford it. If I had a ride, why would I be on the bus?
So yeah.....I have to be the adult, suck it down, and take their abuse even though lately, on average these punk kids *abuse and publicly humiliate me* 2-3 times a month. The Mass Transit District doesn't have my back on this because I use a *bus pass* versus paid-for tokens and fares.
I have to do nothing because acting on my anger would just do me *all* of the harm and *none* of the good. I'd get kicked off the bus, accused in public of being a bigot and a racist when that isn't so (I *live in* public housing currently...some 75-80% of my neighbors are African American and *nobody* has problems with me to my best knowledge....folks say I'm a "good neighbor, quiet" when they say anything at all). I'd get accused of "stinking" when I know damn well I cleaned myself up before leaving the house. I'd get accused of looking like a monkey when *my pants* aren't around my damn knees.....
Ok....see, it's already getting me upset again. Sorry. Because they're kids, and I have to be the adult and set an example of *how to act* around people. Acting on my anger would do me *zero good*.
Sorry to go on so. -_- Thanks for your time!
2007-10-02 16:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Bradley P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Release your anger but in a nice and polite way and then tell that person have a nice day.
2007-10-02 16:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋