Son custody. What should i say first to the judge.?

Question

The stage is set. I am going for custody for my son. WHY ? ex wife and boyfriend fighting in front of him. He even got arrested for breaking and entering into her 2 story apartment window at 3am.
I want to show the Judge I have a stable life. I have a house, a new 2007 car, and stable job. She has no job, lives in section 8, no stable life. And still loves to party and get drunk with kids sleeping in next room.

What is the best advance you can give me so that when i sit down in front of the judge...i can plee my case.
Please advise any tips will be taken .

Thanks,
a humble farther with love for his son and his best interest.

PS . I have been paying 300 a month on child support, Faithfully. If I get him, i will ask the judge for her to pay half. Thanks for the positive support. It means alot to read the public supports a good father.

Answer 1

I should hope that if you tell the judge what you have said here, he would be sympathetic to you. You don't want your kid growing up with this kind of dysfunctional programming. You don't want your kid growing up to be a thug. It is obvious that the kid's mom is just in it for the child support, which is getting spent on party supplies.

If the kid has told you any stories, you can repeat those. If the kid can get up in court and tell the stories, that would be great. If you can introduce a tape recording of the kid telling about these experiences, that will be wonderful.

The earnestness with which you approach the bench will probably matter more than any attorney. An attorney will just be icing on the cake.

Answer 2

I think it's commendable that you've got what it takes materialistically to provide for your son. But what I'm thinking about is one statement you made, "she has no job, lives in section 8, no stable life", IF your going to try to get her to pay 1/2 of the $300.00 a month child support it's NOT going to happen. Because they will look at your income and her income and see that hmmm she doesn't have the income to give you child support. Your best avenue of success would be to play fair. Let her have regular visitation, but insist when she's able to do so (financially) because you said there are other children involved, let her then start paying some support. I know it won't be alot, but something is better then nothing. I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

First YOU have to be able to prove your claims of her partying. Living in section 8 houseing doesn't make an unfit parent. Many older retirees live in section 8 housing because they are on a limited income. Being on a limited income does not make an unfit parent and everything you have doesn't make your more of a fit parent than your ex wife. A new car and a house aren't what the court is looking for when deciding custody of chldren.

Answer 5

be prepared. most likely, because no physical harm is actually being done to the child, drastic steps such as change of custody will be harder.

first off...no job means she is a stay at home mom which means she is fully available for the child 24/7. that's not good for you.
being on section 8 does not make you a bad parent. so that won't work for you either.
if she is a social person, she's human, she's entitled to. and her being drunk while the child is sleeping....hard to really argue because that is only heresay. you'd need something better, like a DUI while the child is in the car.
as for the boyfriend, because the cops were called and he was caught then she reacted as she was supposed to. as for fighting, if it got physical and is constant, then it might require counseling for her, but not enough to lose custody.

i don't mean to be so negative. but i have to be honest.

i didn't have custody of my two sons for two years. it was joint custdoy. when i started dating my husband, my ex got irate and started giving me problems about my children. so i sued for custody. there was a huge chance i might not have gotten it, except for the fact that my ex wasn't paying attention to his children, didn't know what was going on in school, worked odd hours, refused to have the youngest one living with him, left the children with a pot smoker (and admitted to it in court) lived with his alcoholic father and left the kids in that drunk's care (admitted to that too) abused my children, which i reported to the police and got child services involved.

if you have not had a custody evaluation yet, be prepared to have one scheduled. this is wear all documentation comes in handy. if the boy-friend has a criminal record, bring it. if she has a criminal record, bring it.
have a back up plan handy. like a request for 50/50 physical custody. she has the child one week, you have him the next.

i wish you luck.

Answer 6

You need to speak in a very low, professional, compassionate tone. Make sure you extend the utmost respect to the judge. It is not only what you say, but how you say it. Spend more time explaining how your son will be better off with you, than the time spent complaining about the mother. Rather than say things like "he has a criminal record your Honor", say things like "I am very stable and have no criminal record". This will speak positively about you, without coming across like you are relying on their failures to make you look better. Sell yourself without trashing the competition. Criminal records will be checked on anyone in the child's life anyway. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

First do you have any skeletons in your closet, if not, tell how things are with you like you did on here, talk from your heart the judge will know if your sincere or not they've been around the block a few times, they can judge a person pretty well, there's not many guys like you out there......good luck!!!!!

Answer 8

Make sure you have the papers where you have paid your child support, then ask the judge to talk to your son to see what he wants. You even need to take people to say how well you do with your son.

Answer 9

The judge will ask you questions answer them the best you can and hope for the best and that the judge will see your the fit parent here. you sound like a good father i wish you the best of luck.

Answer 10

Just say what you have said here . That you can offer a good stable home for the boy that will be better than your wife can provide for him.