About a year ago i lost a very close friend of mine in a car accident and ever since i have been an emotional wreck. This was the first person that was ever close to me that died and it is harder than i ever imagined. Anything i do reminds me of him and it's horrible. I never got to say an actual goodbye except at the viewing since the funeral wans't here. But it just seems like a part of me is missing. My parents aren't very helpful either because they dont understand what im going through and they dont really want to listen to me talk about how i feel.
But i was just wondering if you went through something like this or some ways i could deal with it. thanks.
2007-10-02 16:20:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Aw Im so sorry :( Do you have other friends you could talk to? Or maybe it wouldnt be so bad to talk to a counciler/therapist. Because they realy can help.
2007-10-02 16:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I lost my fience in a car accident this past febuary. It doesnt get any better but time goes by and you think - gosh how in the world did I make it this far. A part of me has been ripped out. Literally. I am not the same person that I was on febuary the 8th 2007. Will probably never be either. Everyone wants to tell me that I am young and so full of life and that I have so much life ahead of me. I am so sure that someone told him that once or twice but he didnt get to see that long life happen. This is what I did. I hired a medium. Through signs that Rocky(my fience) was sending me I realised that I needed to find someone to connect me with him as fast as I could. I couldnt believe how much this person could tell me about him. Im not telling you that you have to believe in this I am just saying that it helped me a lot. Now I am developing my own abilities. I can communicate with him now. I know he is here with me still and it makes me feel a whole lot better. It doesnt fill the void of being able to lay with him at night or kiss him goodbye before work but its comforting to say the least... hope this helps. If you need someone to talk to you can IM me. vickycreamer_1@hotmail.com
2007-10-02 16:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful Disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father passed away when I was 18 and my mom when I was 24. I know what you are going through. It seems as if your whole life has been turned upside down. But trust me when I say you will get through this. You start to make new memories with new friends. I mean, no one will EVER replace your lost loved one or anything. Just acknowledge everything happens for a reason. This will make you a stronger person. They are looking out for you and would not want you to keep suffering over the loss. Put one step in front of the other and you will be OK
2007-10-02 16:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by SeoulGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Death is always difficult and everyone deals with their grief in their own way.
Let yourself be sad, grieve in the way that makes you feel better. But dont let it get the best of you.
You will find with time it will get easier.
Make a scrapbook or a journal about the time you spent with him. Keep the memories alive.
Focus on the good times you shared.
You must also try to go on with your own life. Find a new hobby, or something that interests you to take your mind off of your sadness.
Being happy doesn't mean you have forgotten him.
Time heals all things! Give it some more time. Take care of yourself and things will get better.
2007-10-02 16:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by it's me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother's best friend died in a crash too. He had a hard time. I'm not sure what you believe in but I want you to think about this. I can go on as to why I believe this but I'd be writing forever. What if before each of us were born, we actually decided to come to this earth to learn something significant, and even decided before we came into this life in particular, the time at which we would pass away. What if you're friend "pre-chose" that time to exit and go back into the afterlife? If you knew that for certain, and you were positive you'd see him again, would you feel better? Waiting is difficult, but if you really try to dream about him, you can communicate with him that way. Get a book on lucid dreaming and you can learn to control your dreams but you have to think positively about it. He wants you to be happy while you are here, because he is happy where he is.
2007-10-02 16:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by whisperer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you lost your friend. Last month my uncle died, and I didn't have any chance to say goodbye before he left. It is a comfort to know that he left this world knowing that we (my family and I) loved him. And no matter how cliche it sounds, you can take comfort in all the happy times you had together. Cherish the memories. You can also tell stories to your friends about the things you and your friend did together.
2007-10-02 16:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by craftykid22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more times than I care to remember
Joey-I was 8 yrs old
Mark W- I was15 yrs old
Mark D-I was16 yrs old
Brother George- I was 32 yrs old
Billy F-I was 37 yrs old
Just takes time sweetie..a lot of time, remember the good and always remember what a special place you had in each other's lives...go on the best you can. Honor their memory by living with passion (Hugs)
2007-10-02 16:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey firstly sorry about the loss of your friend. Maybe you could try talking to a friend or another family member. Also i dont know but i have been threw a similar thing a few years ago so if you want to talk email me or something.
2007-10-02 16:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what i did was talk to another friend about it told them how i fell. or you can talk to his parents if they wanna talk about it that might help to. i still miss them but i fell better i still wish they were still alive when ever i think about them witch is alot but u just try and think of all the good times you had together and stuff it helps. sorry about you friend hope this helps a little
2007-10-02 16:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Andy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have, when I lost my grandfather.. Prayer always helps me and so does time. I'm sorry to hear about your friend..It's hard losing someone, maybe talking about it with your other friends might help some. I wish you the best.
2007-10-02 16:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by mendatrapp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋