Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now...He's been married and so have I...I have children and he doens't....Well his ex wife has been in a way STALKING us!! I mean he's in the military and she took all his money and left him debt and cheated on him and everything else in the book...We have a really good realtionship...We love eachother very dearly...We're trying to buy a house and so forth....Well I don't know how, but I guess she found out where he worked at and decided this last saturday to drive by where his company picnic was held at!! Well her mother was with her as well...Someone which we all think is her...Keeps trying to get into his myspace account as well..Now she keeps trying to add him under a fake name.Playing it off as her exboyfriend...It's just like get real here...I here she's fixing to start at my job...I'm not one to start anything, but I won't take any crap off anyone either...So my question is what would you do?? Or do you think I should do????????
2007-10-02 16:13:28 · 14 answers · asked by I'm a somebody to someone... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do believe he does have a restraining order on her...He does not talk to her or give any sign of anything......I don't think I need a restraining order, but I do wish that this would come to a screeching hault...Quite frankly I'm not in high school the last time I checked...I just want her to get over him and move on and let us be happy...It's like she's obessed, but you are right...He should quit trying to avoid the situation and handle it in a proper manner...She needs to be put in check!!!!
2007-10-02 16:39:48 · update #1
Find out where she lives. Find out the make and model of her car. Go to Autozone and drop a $10 and get a locking gas cap that fits her car. Put it on one night when it is really late, and for extra fun get you a change of address form from the post office... fill it out in her name and forward her mail to some looney bin in Alaska... for starters...
2007-10-02 16:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they didn't have any children together, and if they are already divorce. Then there is no reasons for her to get involved in his life anymore, unless him let her to. Stalking is against another people will is illegal. So he should get restraining order against her. And if she does the same to you, then you do the same as well. But make sure you had proof or evidence. If she comes to your work or his, tell the front desk that's she is not allow to come inside and have security escort her out. Any further you call the police on her. Make sure don't lay a finger on her and have some witness with you whenever she is around you or next to you. So she can't turn the table around. About the space, don't let it bother you. She can't say whatever she wanted to say, but the fact is he is with you. Who cares about other people think? She is just jealous what she can't have anymore. If you wanted you can add pictures of you two together, which show you two very in love, passionate to each other...and just say" you wish you can have a piece of this, don't ya?" Have fun and enjoy your life with him. If you treat him well he will not go anywhere else.
2007-10-02 16:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lilian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this kind of relationship there are certain things that you can not say. (You are have to let the two of them work this out) I understand why you said what you said but either his mother or her father should have told her. (You just added more fuel to her fire by doing this) Your boyfriend is going to have to man up and tell her to stop the things that she is doing. SHE can not take any legal rights away from anyone. That is for a court to decide. I would suggest he get legal counsel. Start letting her calls go to voice mail. (you will have a recording of her ranting and the threats that are made) Quit giving her the attention that you are giving her. Don't talk to her when the kids go home. The two of you have a right to some piece. If it's not an emergency (a limb is coming off), stop picking up the phone.
2016-04-07 01:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get ready to talk to the police and file a restraining order.
Have a frank talk with the HR department or your boss at your job and tell them the situation... that this stands to become a real problem all the way around. Let them know that if she gets hired there and then gets out of line, it will be a DOL/EEOC harassment issue they will be dealing with. The good thing is that she has to survive 90 days before she is considered "hired"... without really trying, you can bait her into all sorts of really strange behavior to get her fired.
2007-10-02 16:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local District Attorney's office; ask them for advice on how and what to do. They absolutely will give you free advice on the phone. You probably have no real evidence that would stand up in a court of law, nor would the police take it seriously until you have real evidence. So, get on the phone and find out how to gather real evidence, then you can do something about it.
You can also call police, and let them know your concerns. Your boyfriend should do this too. And he ought to get a new MySpace with a new name, and let the old one get hacked. ... that can be traced. Don't do anything stupid yourselves... that's how people lose.
Stay legal, and get the advice.
2007-10-02 16:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Holly Carmichael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you and your boyfriend should contact the police, and file a personal protection order against her for stalking. Then, take a copy of it to your Human resources manager if you have proof that she is going to be working at your company. If you have the protection order she cannot work there because you were there first.
2007-10-02 16:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by proudmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel there is a reason to be scared then I would make it a police matter. If it is just irritating then I would ignore her and it will eventually get old to her. Make sure your boyfriend isn't leading her on in any way. Is he talking to her occasionally? Most girls that I know wouldn't keep on keepin' on unless he gives a little sign that he might still be interested.
2007-10-02 16:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. And this woman is doing all this because your boyfriend has allowed it... oh and dude two grown adults with children involved DELETE the myspace. Unecessary DRAMA. You have eachother.
2007-10-02 16:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by jane do 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to stop her from trying to get into his my space then he should cancel his my space account...that's not all that difficult. She has the right to work anywhere she chooses if she is qualified to do the job she is hired to do. I suggest you try to stay away from her and if she bothers you go to your supervisor do NOT take it up with her on your own.
2007-10-02 20:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do have a myspace page?
get rid of it
you simply do not need it
you or him enable her stalking
all she needs is a little bit of attention
any sort of avenue
a restraining order will not work
2007-10-02 16:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋