i have been having an affair an my husbands knows about it (second one) but he still wont let me go..i tell him i dont love him like that but its no use how can i get him to understand....we fight all the time even to a point of hitting each other he tells me i can get a divorce if i pay which is fine with me but he will never agree to anything no matter what so whats the point i told him im still going to stray but he says it will work.. i dont want to be with him anymore why why cant he understand that an tring to work it out for the kids just isnt working.. when i do try he gets mad an kicks me out what can we do or is it a lost cause.. life is crazy
2007-10-02 16:05:56 · 12 answers · asked by Annouyed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my first sorry i didnt make that clear....live in baby sitter that would be nice but whatever..hes the only friend i need cause i believe anything an hes the only one that knows whats best for me
2007-10-02 16:27:31 · update #1
an he asked me back because he was in an accident an needed my help im not a cold b***h an i only want the kids things an my clothes nothing else but the divorce an i will pay but he says he will drag it out for as long as he can
2007-10-02 16:33:17 · update #2
after 6 years of him telling me i was doing it what the heck i did it an told him
2007-10-02 16:36:00 · update #3
You may have to do all the work by yourself, good that you want to end the marriage and not being in one while having an afair. I am not blaming you for that one, at least you are telling him the truth of how things are. He doesn't love himself or have any respect for himself, how would you have any respect for a man like that?. That's where he failed as a man. Just try to do the best you can for the childen and teach them what they need to learn to be future good adults, your husband with time will have the chance to realize the kind of man he is, and hopefully will grow a pair.
2007-10-02 16:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female I would say that it is a loss cause for your husband to allow you to keep coming back after you keep screwing around on him. You sound like you want the comforts of marriage and a live in baby sitter and a single life. I am sorry if I have said anything to hurt you but cheating is cheating and you don't love him cut your loses and get out of the marriage don't expect to get everything you want in the divorce you are the one being unfaithful.
2007-10-02 16:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you have review what it is that got you there. If you are sure you do not love him then maybe you have to take the 1st step again. Sometimes we thing the grass is greener on the other side. As for him not agreeing to terms, as long as you make it fare to both the judge would approve it. Working it out for the kids is not the answer. Tried it, did not work let me tell you, the kids could not take the fighting....
Start preparing for your next step. Do you Pray? if not you should for guidance..... Good Luck!
2007-10-02 16:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by readyfor_you2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you are a disgrace of a woman, and you make me embarrased to admit that I am a woman!.
LEAVE him alone for gods sake!.
I think you are playing mind games with him, & I think you get your kicks out of him not letting you go, because you feel like everyone wants and love you!.
You openly admit that you have been married before and you also openly admit you have had/are having an affair.
I feel sorry for your husband, he is trying very hard.
You say he kicks you out, so how do you get back in????? persuede him!????
And by the why should he have to pay for the divoce you're the one who broke the vows and couldn't keep your legs closed!
2007-10-02 16:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Missy Missy! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to get the divorce. It doesn't matter if he won't agree. When you make the decision that it is over, he has no choice but to accept it. Get a lawyer and let a judge decide who gets what. It doesn't matter what he agrees to or what he wants. When it's over, it's over.
2007-10-02 16:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pathetic. He won't let you leave? Was he standing there next to you with a gun to your head while you typed all this trash? If I was your husband, you would be yard art if you cheated on me. There would be no trouble getting rid of you. Thanks for contributing to the skyrocketing divorce rate in America, simply because you changed flavors of the week. I hope you are back here, when that loser you are screwing treats you like you treat your husband.
2007-10-02 16:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk about UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP yikes!!!!! And the only responsible one here is YOU. Accept it or deny it. If you have any respect atleast for your children you would be the one to leave..... since you have no respect for yourself or your husband... Sad Sad Sad. The one who does not not want to accept that its over is you. Move out alone since your jumping from dude to dude. I suggest you be alone to learn to love yourself for atleast a year. Then maybe you will see the value of yourself and your CHILDREN. You must hate my answer but sorry to break it to you that REALITY.....
2007-10-02 16:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by jane do 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
second husband?
why can't HE understand?
you need help if you can't make your second marriage work with a WILLING husband.
Who do you think you are Elizabeth Taylor?
You are who give woman a bad name honey.
Next time you wanna play dress up don't pretend to get married!
2007-10-02 16:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by Numb 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just please tell me the two of you do not have any children. Screw up your lives, fine. But do not screw up the lives of your children if you have any.
2007-10-02 16:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop complaining about what YOU allow!
2007-10-02 16:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by MBA-MsBadAss 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋