Why am I depressed if I have nothing to be depressed about?

Question

I am 14, and I am always depressed. I talk to everyone, but then I think they only talk back to me cuz they feel sorry for me. No way I'll talk to my mom, she'll say i have no reason to be depressed, and I don't. I have exellent grades, im great in sports, and i have friends who always tell me how pretty I am, even though I don't really see it, but i cry, and feel alone in the world all the time. I feel stupid and if I just try to be happy, and feel cool, I end up feeling more stupid. I am great at faking confidence and pretending im feeling great, but that just maks me feel worse and I'm sick of people not knowing ho I feel, but at the same time, I would die of embarrassment if everybody knew how I feel. What can I do to feel better?

Answer 1

It's because your depression isn't situational. It's physiological. There are neurotransmitters in your brain (serotonin is a frequent culprit) that are not properly balanced, and are causing you to have these feelings.

The thing to do is to tell you parents. Be specific about your symptoms and be specific about your request. Sometimes this is easier said than done. If you find speaking with your parents difficult, try printing out this page and asking them to read it.

Say "Mom and Dad, I have something important to tell you. It kind of scares me to tell you, and I don't know quite how to say it, so I would like you to read this. Would you please read it and then we can decide together what to do next?"

Tell them you need to see both a psychiatrist and a psychologist (the first is for medicine, the second for psychotherapy). BOTH are necessary.

You CAN get better, but you're going to need treatment.

Hang in there,
~M~

Answer 2

Without God's love, you will always crave more and more and never be content.

Without a friend that gives you an honest answer when you want one, who who gives you one out of love, you will always feel some misery. And if you only have friends that flatter you, you may be depressed knowing that they are doing so because they want to take advantage of you in some way rather than truly loving you, or loving you with a pure love, love which isn't self-seeking.

Also, you may have a poor diet which is causing a chemical imbalance or making you depressed due to its blandness, have past trauma that is still bothering you because you don't know how to deal with it or because it was very painful, are encountering unpleasant smells often (like perhaps from a new rug which smells bad), have bland surroundings (you may want to decorate your walls with posters), have unpleasant parents, don't have friends or ones that give you bad to no advice when you ask for the help or when it's obvious you need it, you may have a boring getting-no-where life, or you may feel as if you're not getting your way in general (which frustrates everyone who feels that way).

I had problems with depression and suicide due to my parents neglecting my education, including knowledge about right from wrong, and not having much interesting or helpful to do. I also got mistreated a lot at various jobs I had and bullied at school for how I was dressed and appeared before I was 14.

Later I got stuck in a miserable substitute for a "normal" public high school and had next to no friends and soon after attending that school was bullied by the police off an on a few times. Other miserable things happened including being repeatedly kicked out, but God helped me beat my depression and saved me. I'm still depressed sometimes, but it's not as bad now and I always have hope.

Check out the link in my profile if you are interested in spiritual help, which I found has been a lasting and permanent solution heading towards perfect peace. I hope you show the link to others.

Answer 3

Well, that is how clinical depression is. People on the outside think your life looks great, but on the inside, it is anything but great.

Try to talk to a doctor or some sort of a counselor. There is a paper and pencil test for depression that won't scare you - if you are clinically depressed, talk therapy and/or meds may help.

and if you AREN'T clinically depressed, talking to a pro may help you sort out some of the stuff eating at your brain.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I don't have a good answer. Just wanted to tell you that you're not alone... Some people get that way because they're running from something. Not everyone though. I'm just glad you're dealing with it now instead of waiting until your late twenties like me. Hope you feel better!

Answer 5

Volunteer. Food bank, homeless shelter daycare, feeding program for poor. All these things going on and if you get out and help someone it will give your life perspective. Youth groups also do group volunteer programs at senior centers where elders would love to be read to or play checkers or sing a longs---they are lonely. My son said to me, " Mom that older fellew only had a radio thats all" But he learned compassion that day and also saw the end of life. He brightened the elders day. I think your just in flux of hormones at your age, but ask your mom to see doc if dark moods continue or get worse and be honest with the doc. I just hope you understand thers many people who care for you and I will pray for you today and am sending you hugs. xxx

Answer 6

I get like that sometimes. theres something in this world that you are depressed about and you dont know what. Just go through the day as normal, do something new with your routine. maybe your just bored. I also am good at sports and what not, but its just sometimes i feel soooo bored with the same routine over and over that i just get pissed at myself, but ive learned to just go with it because it is just temporary.

Good luck, and feel better

Answer 7

Sometimes I feel like that too.
Its like an overwhelming sadness is taking over.
You feel like dirt, emotionally and physically.
But most times it will pass.
You should talk to your mom about this, because she can contact a doctor to put you on meds or something.
Just try to keep up with your schooling and sports, it might take your mind ofdd yoru depression!

good luck!
___________xoxo

Answer 8

depression isnt always a "feeling" its also a brain disease...your lacking neurotransmitters in your head that send positive messages back and forth amongst one another...this could be happening to you so if i was you id get checked out and maybe get on some meds because i was always depressed as a kid and i ended up becoming a drug addict and alcoholic. be cafeful

Answer 9

i know exactly how you feel. sometimes i get depressed like that. i have reasons behind mine, things that effect me negativly, but im usually positive and then all of the sudden BOOM im depressed. so i know what its like to be depressed at times for no reason.
and i COMPLETELY understand how you feel about talking to your mother.

i guess the issue is hon, is that dispite your great grades, your good looks, dispite everything positive in your life. theres something that makes you truly unhappy. theres soemthing in your heart that makes you feel worthless.. and trying to figure it out isnt always easy.. so its pretty common to feel like theres no rreal reason.

im not sure what to tell you to make you feel better. i could give a speech about how great life is and how you should talk to your mom or how you should get anti depressents.. but that doesnt always help to be honest.
what helps me might not help you.. but what i do when i feel depressed is i talk to whoever will isten, that i trust. i told my supervisior at work, they referred me to a psychologist that works for the company ( which A) made me feel like an idiot, B) made me feel insane bcs ive been told about this time and time again, and C) i already see a psychologist so that didnt help much), but in the end she listened and i felt a bit better.
sometimes it feels good to just blab out about unhappy you are..and trust me theres more ppl there for you then just your parents and friends. im sure theres some teacher in your school you can reach out to or maybe a guidance couciler. you dont have to be revealing about your problem.. just say " hey im feeling kinda bummed and just wanted to talk". but we arent always close so sometimes that doesnt work either.
another option is going to your doctor and explaining the situationl. ask for a referral to your local mental health center. ( its not as bad as it sounds). chances are that theres a psychologist who will talk to you.. and not like a therapist.. someone fun and realistic and understands that you dont wanna be treated like your crazy ( which is what i feared when i first started going to a psychologist).
another option, if those dont work for you, try reaching out online. try kidshelpphone.ca. they have a forum where you can post problems or questions or whattever and theyll reply to you. theyre very helpful and of course, understand some of the things your going through.. you can also read other ppls posts to see what other ppl ur age go through

and finally if nothing helps you out.. im here, and il ltalk to you. im four years older than you but trust me, i dont mind listening :P

my email is cows_eat_bacon(At)hotmail.com
its pretty weird just throwin your email out there, but again.. if you have no one else.. im here if you want me to be.
good luck darlin'

Answer 10

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