I started going to the psychologist because I'm in an abusive relationship for 5yrs. Now when the psychologist is explaining to me what an abusive partner is like.. I fit into that category... trying to put him down, jealous, making him isolate, pulling him back, etc etc.. he only yells and gets jealous and drives crazy but i do most of the other bad things... now i feel like a complete liar.. im making myself look like the poor girlfriend whenin reality im a flirt, i've cheated before, i put my boyfriend down and all those bad things...and i've also made my boyfriend believe that he is the bad guy... whats real?/ whats not??? im so confused!!!! help!!! did the psychology realize this by now???
i dont want to tell her that im lying or something... i dont know!!!
2007-10-02 15:45:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I promise you, you are NOT lying to your psychologist... you are lying to yourself.
The abuser in your relationship is YOU. The fault has been misplaced by you and no one else. Admit this to your self first, your boyfriend next and then to your psychologist.
The healing begins there.
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2007-10-02 15:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't like the way your life is going you have to be up front with the psychologist. Otherwise, why see this person? You might look bad in your eyes, but you need help if you don't like how you have become.
2007-10-02 16:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first stop lying, stop the relationship with the boyfriend work on youself putting him and the lying does not help the relationship it only makes it worst. if you are still fliting then you are not ready for a real relationship.when you stop fliting with guys while with the one you think is your soul mate, that is when you might be ready to share your self in a real relationship.
2007-10-02 15:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by tazzielovestweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) do you want help? do you want to change your life?
or do you want to try to impress the therapist?
( BTW, you will probably not succeed at that one)
Tell him/her that you didn't exactly realize that you were lying, that you want to start over. Start each session with letting him know how/if you lied to him or yourself over the last week.
Believe me - you won't be the first person who has lied to a therapist - but admitting it and moving forward puts you in a much higher class.
otherwise you are wasting your time and his.
2007-10-02 16:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you making this all up about lying to your psychologist. If I am wrong and fess up and be honest about lying to your psychologist. Probably the psychologist won't be able to hand it break down crying and say you, how could you !!!!!!
You may have what it takes to create soap opera's.
2007-10-02 15:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Will 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember: you hired the psychologist to help you. He or she cannot provide effective services for you if you are not portraying your situation thoroughly and accurately.
Clear the air, and get on with your therapy.
There's only one way to do that, and that is to dive in and say what needs to be said.
2007-10-02 15:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by michele 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth, it will be more helpful in the long run for you and what you say is confidential. your wasting your money if you don't get the help you need. and is this a pattern that comes from your family?
2007-10-03 19:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why pay for something and then lie your way thru it..you are only hurting yourself..you are rewriting your life and the only loser in the situation is gonna be you..she will see thru you..so you should just tell the truth and be done with it..she isn't there to judge you..she is there to help you
2007-10-02 15:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by bailie28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you two are dating i say end it. Is it worth all the hassle? If you truly love him, you wouldn't be in this predicament.
2007-10-02 15:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you axis 2?
(personality disorders)
2007-10-02 16:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Greywolf 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋