I am a neighbour to a personin my building who has a wife and a 2 1/2 yr olf daughter. I know the family for 4 years now and we are close. The husband is a good friend of mine the wife is not a close person to me. The child is wonderful and I love her alot.The husband has invited me to come along with his wife and child to India to be with his family for 6 weeks at xmastime and meet everyone. He says that all I need to pay for is my airfare and have some spending money. His family is wealthy and live in North India and have a dairy and poultry farm. I am wondering what an Indian family would think about a single women coming along with their family and living with them for 6 weeks. I do not speak Hindi and I do not eat spicy Indian food. My friend has informed me that the kitchen servants cook anything and can prepare my food as i request. I am part of the family my friend says. he says I am in his "heart" and he likes me to be part of his family. I am wondering if I should accept.
2007-10-02 15:40:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are going to be asked to marry one of his family so they can get legal access to the US. You should politely decline.
2007-10-02 15:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Indians in general show good hospitality, north Indians included. Many expatriates love to bring in their friends to their home country to show the place where they grew up etc and this doesn't seem to be an exception. However you must check with his wife and assure yourself of the comfort level and kind of trust you can put on them.
If he is a decent person ,you'll certainly enjoy the hospitality.
Take proper vaccinations, you are likely to be less immune to the Indian ways
And ofcourse India is not a third world country. It has it's own short comings but it is not the country that one can ignore. If you want, check the growing interest of the corporates and the governments alike in building ties with India. This one was for people who sound ignorant.
2007-10-02 22:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by protege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go, I would go by myself or with friends and I'd preffer to stay less and pay my own place or hotel and get to know the culture - or - if I go to the house of someone I know and has been and has lived in my place before - a close friend of mine. You may or may not have a car to move yourself from here to there, if you want to leave the house and come at anytime at night that's not right. You are going to spend money on an airplane ticket, I would give better use to that ticket by adding a couple of bucks. I think they haven't really thought on what they are doing, once they get there they get busy - you are on the side or you are a load, all those are things to consider before knowing you will be all that time in someone else house. Be careful.
2007-10-02 15:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would investigate this further. Do you know other indians that could shed light on this? It sounds like a very generous offer from a family who have alot and is willing to share their good fortune with someone who has become a close family friend. Indians are very warm and friendly people with giving spirit. We as american are always looking for the other side of the story. Talk to his wife as well, she may have some insight into his generous offer. Good luck.
2007-10-02 15:47:29 · answer #4 · answered by Miki M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to fix you up with someone he knows that wants to emigrate to the US?
If you have the time and money (and passport), this could easily become a wonderful adventure... a built-in tour guide to all the good places around there, people to look after you... sounds like fun.
Ask for more information if you are not feeling right.
2007-10-02 15:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this or ask you this but, are your true feelings for this man purely friendship or do you deep down have intimate feelings for him and his child? If the feelings were purely friendship I don't believe that you would have any question about going to India for a vacation. If he didn't feel that his family would be ok with you going I really don't think that he would have asked you to go. You might want to really think about what your true feelings are for this man.
2007-10-02 17:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by marcy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me! While it might be a great trip, you don't speak the language or even like the food. It might be hard, but you probably should say no. It might be different if you were also close to the wife.
And keep in mind: there are twice as many RATS there as there are people. UGH!
2007-10-02 15:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by N L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your a friend of the family, perfectly acceptable. Go and have a good time.
2007-10-02 15:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by cireengineering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! This is a once in a life time opportunity! You'd be silly not too! Call your friend and tell him you're going right now!
2007-10-02 15:44:25 · answer #9 · answered by The Prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you aren't close to his wife i would talk to her about it. I personally wouldn't accept it. his family might look down on him and it might screw up his marrage. if you really want to go ask his wife.
2007-10-02 15:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by kooimanlora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋