friends for years and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with BUT "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made you us drift apart and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)
We're in the process of being close friends again...In the beginning when we first met, we "clicked' right away and could be able to talk to each other about anything and everything. We would always see each other in and out of classes, have lunch, and talk to each other almost every night. That was 3 years ago and obviously, THINGS change, PEOPLE change, and we change but it's not that we're growing apart - we're just growing up while adjusting to all this change...
It's different and i get scared that we'll lose our "closeness" but someone told me, "true things are never lost..." CAN WE STILL DO OUR OWN THING AND BE CLOSE? We used to talk all the time and now we don't call each other; not sure if it's a "guy thing" where they stop talking on the phone, we're both busy, or he's changed alot from the his friend's death...i'm sorry i'm just venting - THOUGHTS? I'd really appreciate it! THANKS
2007-10-02 15:19:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You'll meet alot of "friends" in your life but when you go through hard times, you'll realize all those "friends" were really aquiantances and there's only 2 left that are really there for you...
he's one of them...he's one of those "closest" friends...and i knew from day 1
Or maybe he doesn't know how to act because we "got together' and kissed? Or maybe there are still feelings?
Is this because we're growing up and maturing? (not growing apart)?
THE FIRST DAY WE MET, he was SOO QUIET (and he's an outgoing, friendly person to everyone) so we slowly started getting close - "hi" here and there to texting to talking on the phone to hanging out and being comfortable with each over...all during 3 years ;)
2007-10-02 15:19:44 · update #1
If he's starting to get shy again, there's only one likely reason. He's starting to think that he DOES have a chance with you and is either afraid that he's either misreading the situation or that he might blow it.
The advice that I give my tarot clients in this situation is "Drug him and take advantage." There's no need to get quite that drastic, but you should try to get him into a situation where a kiss comes naturally and escalate from there. That's if you want to be more than friends.
If you want to stay just friends, give him the time and space he needs to work it out and maybe fix him up with a lady you think might have the hots for him. That way, sex stops being an issue and you can go on as before.
2007-10-02 15:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply, if it's MEANT to be then it will happen and NO amount of trouble will be able to prevent it from happening. Hang in there girl and things will develop as they should.
BB,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-10-02 22:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you make your own choice. the reason why your friends grew apart was because you didnt call them like weekly. things dont grow apart by accident. like a person doesnt get fat overnnight. thats impossible.
2007-10-02 22:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by bullet b 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋