So I'm going to my friend's school homecoming dance this Saturday. In her group she will be the only person I know. There will be a good number of people will be in her group and when i'm with a large amount of people I tend to become painfully shy. I talk rarely and really act as if I am a mute. People I don't even know ask "Do you talk?" It's really annoying and embarassing. I just want to have a good night and make new friends! Do you have any tips to help me warm up to these new people to help me have a good time? Thanks!
2007-10-02 14:49:21 · 6 answers · asked by Sophia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
haha- yea that happens to me sometimes too, and if im in a situation like that then i tend to find myself clinging to the friend i know and just talk to whoever they are talkin too. durin this dance, just go up and start dancing with someone, then later when the songs over ur bound to hav something to say, and if not then they will and you can start from there. if ur still too shy to just go up and start dancin with some random person, then find someone else who is just sittin at a table by themself and go over to em. just relax, and hav fun. personally, i find it cute when girls arent loud-mouths
2007-10-02 14:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm just like you. I am normally a talkative person, but around new people or in crowds I become shy like you. For me this is a huge mistake because I am not always shy and people will label me as only being quiet. As a result I end up fulfilling their definition of me by always being quiet around them. Sometimes my shyness is even interpretted as being rude.
I have come to realize this and now know it is important for me to be social. What has helped me (though I am not fully reformed ) is remembering that the process of bettering oneself is putting yourself in situations outside of your comfort range. You can be given all the advice in the world and it all comes down to your will to do what you feel is important.
2007-10-02 14:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Random Nickname 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Smile and be friendly. Don't be afraid to get in on conversations around you. Or start conversations. Compliment someone on their dress and then ask where they got it. Simple things can lead to conversations.
Go into this night with a positive attitude. Things will be fine :)
2007-10-02 15:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by All I can be is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea same thing used to happen to me a lot. Just try to connect with the friend that you already know while they are around. Maybe joke around with her or tell a story about something retarded she did while you were together. Making people laugh usually breaks the ice.
2007-10-02 14:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if i were you i would get with them once or twice before the dance.
get some of their screenames or myspaces, talk to them there.
good luck!
2007-10-02 14:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by joyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just join in on conversations where you have something you can add - you won't make any fiends if you don't talk
2007-10-02 14:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋