I am currently separated from my husband of 5 yrs. I love him dearly but we don't see eye to eye. I began to talk to this man who is older than me but was in prison for 10 years. He asked me for money and of course i said no! He then told me to get the money from my spouse and I again said no..I told him that I have more respect for my hubby than that and can't do it. Long story short, his family kicked him out of their home (he is on house arrest) and his mom lives in town. He wanted me to go get him and bring him to live with her. I didn't do it. He sold drugs, did armed robbery, has a violent past.I feel like he would be a danger to me and others if I went and got him..I don't want him to be my man or anything like tha but I feel so sorry for him.....PLEASE TALK SOME SENSE INTO ME!
2007-10-02 14:02:40 · 14 answers · asked by Lana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't know where I live. Secondly, I don't want him to end up dead or doing something stupid because I didn't go get him>>>On the other hand, I didn't go get him because I don't want to be responsible if he comes into town and does something dumb either....SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE
2007-10-02 14:11:08 · update #1
Thank you all so much....You are right, I knew what to do...I changed my cell number 20 minutes ago and deleted his number out of my phone! It's a wrap folks! thank you
2007-10-02 15:09:45 · update #2
You already have sense you're just not listening to it. Honorable men don't ask women for money, then turn around and ask them to ask their former men for money to give to some other man. I used to work for the Department of Correction; I have as much empathy for some of those guys as anyone because some of them just legitimately made mistakes for which they are truly sorry. Then, some of them are career criminals looking for an easy way through life. Guess which one it sounds like you've got? His own family is kicking him out....armed robbery is not an "oops, my bad" kind of offense. What else can I tell you? Sever your ties with this guy before he drags you down beyond your ability to get back up. Compassion is a wonderful thing, but when it's misplaced, it can be the means by which you are destroyed. Wake up, Lady. This may be the last warning God gives you.
Okay, I don't want him to end up dead or do something stupid either. But there are many people I don't want to die, and many people I pray don't do something stupid (and you're one of them), but guess what? Each person (you included) will act in accordance with their own judgment and free will. Each person understands right from wrong, and each person assesses the risk in each action they take...Yet tomorrow morning I will read in the paper something stupid that I didn't want to happen that someone chose to do anyway. Am I responsible for that? Are you? Not unless by some act of commission or ommission I cause some harm to befall someone....Each person must answer to their own conscience. Your going (or failure to go) to pick him up is irrelevant to his future actions. If he is so inclined, he will make poor choices, and he's demonstrated that tendency by the things he's already asked you to do.
2007-10-02 14:16:05 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the name of God are you thinking? First and foremost he is using you, he does not have any feelings for you. Second, why would you even consider to date a convict? Don't fell sorry for him, he deserves what he got. Stay as far from him as you can, don't even think about him. He is going to bring misery to your life, I guarantee you. And on top of everything he's a violent man? Come on sweetie, where is your common sense? Wake up, snap out of it. I would never even consider something like that, It is outrageous. There are plenty good men out there, you can find a man that will love you, care for you, be there for you, protect you and give you everything you deserve. You are worthy of a good man. You deserve better than that. I hope I was able to talk some sense into you. God bless you, good luck.
2007-10-02 14:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's already asking you for money and thinking you will ask your EX for money then you ARE foolish to continue a relationship with this loser... he can't even stay in a house arrest situation without getting his OWN MOTHER upset enough to KICK HIS BUTT OUT... must be a REAL prize that guy!!!!! Maybe you should investigate why you don't see eye to eye with your HUSBAND and maybe work on patching that relationship up---if there is still love between the two of YOU, it's worth working on... marriage counselling, for BOTH of you or whatever it takes... the other guy sounds like a true con-artist---and not very good at it either... STAY AWAY FROM THE LOSER!!!
2007-10-02 14:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, properly i'm an ex convict. and that i'm a spouse and mom. and that i replaced my existence and have been sparkling and happy and robust for YEARS. If all and sundry had the thoughts-set your mom does, i could be impressive back in reformatory. regrettably, countless human beings do, too. yet once you like him, all that concerns is how he's to you. I comprehend your mom desiring the best for you-that is organic for mothers to sense like this, yet mom's additionally desire their youngsters to locate somebody which will love them and be reliable to them and shield them,too. supply him a shot, and if he does you no incorrect , then you certainly gotta tell your mom the kind you sense and to back off. human beings do deserve 2d possibilities, in the event that they did no longer all and sundry could be in reformatory for existence
2016-10-10 04:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN FAST!!!!! He is definitely a danger to you (& it sounds like he is using you but good on you for not doing what he says!), I say cut all ties before you get hurt, this is a situation that could very quickly snowball out of control. Don't feel sorry for him, he's a grown man and can look after himself!
2007-10-02 14:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
u should leave him alone what does he have to offer u but trouble. quit even talking to him. big red flag when a man ask u for money ditch him the same day.get rid of him.
2007-10-02 14:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by spoodleroo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope to heck you didn't tell him where you live. Sounds like a dangerous man and a total loser.
2007-10-02 14:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to lose contact with him. He sounds like he is no good and you are only putting yourself and your family at risk. Walk away.
2007-10-02 15:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many a do gooder has ended up dead, with good intentions.
2007-10-02 14:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave that man completely alone. He could harm or kill you and/or your husband and think nothing of it.
2007-10-02 14:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋