im 18 weeks and my situation money wise its so bad that i am being evicted. My only family lives in another country are unable to help . i am very depressed and all i can do is think how im bringing a child to the world i dont have anything for him. are there places that would help people like me in my situation? i need emotional supportbecause of this , pregnancy should be a happy time
i dis try the goverment for wic and financial assitance but i received a letter of denial 3 days ago. people who really need the help get a no and people who dont need anything just because they lie they do get help.
2007-10-02 13:48:04 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have few suggestions for you.
First, if you were denied of government sponsored benefit and you believe you are entitled to it, then appeal the decision. Just about every agency has an established procedure where applicant can appeal decisions. Don't take "NO" sitting down.
You should also try social services, and many private agencies for assistance.
Do these thing in parallel. Don't do them one at a time. Every one of them will take time.
Obviously, you didn't get pregnant on your own. Where is the father? Can he be any assistance to you, or even better, take his half of the responsibility?
Last thing, and this will be hard. You need to sit down and think how you got to the point where you are now. You made series of decisions that weren't right to get to where you are. You need to evaluate it, and figure out how you can back out of some of it, and how you can resolve some of it, then what's left of it, you have to figure out how you can take responsibility for it. Having a victim mentality (that I read from your post) does not help you at all. You are already where you are. You need to find a way to move forward.
I am fully aware of of people being dishonest to get all sorts of government. Whatever you do, don't be one of those people who sold themselves for free handout. At the end, all you have is yourself. If you sell that, you have nothing left.
I won't discuss the abortion/adaption option except to say they are available to you, if your decision leads that way.
Good luck.
2007-10-02 13:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of WIC denying an application unless you make too much money and they usually will tell you at your appointment. I understand that WIC can not even investigate if someone reports that you lied on your application. I don't think that you make too much money if you are getting evicted. Also, there are many places that you can go to for shelter because you are a pregnant female. Contact a local church and they should be able to help you. If you are not able to recieve help from DHS, they will refer you to an agency that can help you. Good luck.
2007-10-02 20:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by livingadream 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the state in which you live. if you are evicted, go immediately and reapply for food stamps and medicaid. if you are not a legal resident, this may be difficult for you. wic's income standards are pretty much the same as food stamps, so i do not know why you were turned down for wic unless your income is higher than the cut-off amount. you can try local battered women's shelters in your area. also look for certain pro life christian organizations as some of them have housing and job training programs to help young single pregnant women. look through you phone book and find numbers to the salvation army, red cross, etc. and they can steer you in the right direction. do not let yourself get too stressed out which i know is easier said than done, but worrying only makes you feel sick without being able to do anything about it. there is help out there, you just have to search for it.
2007-10-02 20:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by christy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you ?? Where you from ??? Not that any of that matter just wondering thats all.. How about the Father of this child is he in the picture in your life ?? I'm guessing perhaps not or you would maybe have him for financial support.. I am sure in your local area they have some kind of a group that you could reach out to for help be it through a local Church or some Pregnancy type organization I know they have to have them as here in the Carolinas one can seek help...
You can e-mail me if you like at :oneceltic_soul@yahoo.com if you should need somebody anytime....
Peace, Love & Blessings~
~CelticDreamer~
2007-10-02 20:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Celtic D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to go into the reapply thing....youve gotten some awesome answers...All I want to do is apologize for these STUPID BITCHES that would dare to call ANY child a bastard...and that you be high and mighty enough to judge you on the damned internet...I have one thing to say about that one...
Let the one without sin cast the first stone
you judgemental little whores...I hope that you're old and alone and you need someone to help you...and no one wants to because you are genuinely evil. I hope kicking this girl while she is down helped you, because it only made you look like a disgusting person in the eyes of anyone who read what you had to say.
Sweetie...there is lots of help for people out there and hopefully you will get it all straightened out. I am so sorry that you are in the situation that you are, and I will certainly pray for you. if you need to talk, my yahoo id is also my email.
2007-10-02 21:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by j_andrews8081 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where's the father? Do you have a job?? Did you try to apply for Medicaid for Pregnant Women (this is separate from Medicaid by itself)? Are you a legal resident of the US? If you are, Medicaid for Pregnant Women should be automatic if you're single and pregnant. You'll need some paperwork to prove identity (ID and original birth certificate) as well as financial and earnings statements, but you should qualify.
You can also try Planned Parenthood in your local area, and try Churches, and Habitat for Humanity.
Good luck.... try you damnedest to go anywhere necessary to get help.
And, just to let you know, don't listen to the jackass's answer right above me ^^^ ("contessaharridan") .. he's in no position to judge. Sometimes things happen, and obviously he's too naive to realize that even HE has not gotten through life without some help of somekind! Everyone needs help at some point, and as long as you learn from it, you're entitled to the help (just don't abuse it).
2007-10-02 20:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Impavidsoul 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look. I know this is your child but as you have stated, you are in no position to support or care for this child. The father is awol and you are awfully young to take all this on. Consider adoption. There are many people who will pay for you to have a place to live, pay for your medical and give you payment to help you get started with your new life, in exchage for adopting your child. Check the classifieds of the internet for attorneys who arrange such things. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-10-02 20:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by karate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try with wic again it's RARE that they deny a pregnant woman unless you make a lot of money. I don't know what state you are in but you can look it up for your area. As far as welfare re-apply it wouldn't hurt. Church is a great idea as well. Good luck to you!
2007-10-02 20:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by fl_grkgrl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
umm if i was you i would try for wic and financial assistance again...they shouldn't have denied you..they are supposed to help you....there is places you can go for support...ask around and find a support group for ladies in your situation..talking really does help...and u can even try to get in a shelter for women and children. and im not saying this is what you want to do or anything bc i know i wouldnt be able to give up my child but there is adoption...
2007-10-02 20:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by hottie4u_35776 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are agencies that will help you with this. Look in the
phone book. they will help you find a family that will adopt your baby and give it a better life than you can provide, plus
two loving, caring parents, if that's what you decide to do. They will
help you with a place to live, medical care, etc. Good luck
and please do the right thing.
2007-10-02 20:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋