Why am I so obsessed with having a baby?

Question

Every time i seen a pregnant woman or someone with there kids i get jealous. I have had unprotected sex for like 6 months and still havent got pregnant. I just want to cry. I want to have baby so bad. My boyfriend wants to wait untill we have been together for at least a year. I just feel like there is something wrong me thats making it so I cant get pregnant. I am sooo obsessed with being a mom, I love kids. I know I am only 18 but I am finacially stable and love kids. Someone please help me. Why am I like this? Is there any way I can get pregant faster or something?

Answer 1

I SERIOUSLY know how you feel!! I am the SAME way. Im 21, been w/ my guy for 1 year, 4 mos. His sister has a baby and just found out that shes prg. again! I could just crawl in a hole and die. But no, you are not a wierdo or anything. I guess its natural to feel that way, weather its hormones or being a girl or whatever. it sucks and sometimes i DO break down and cry about it but I try to just stay positive and say it will happen when the time is right. anyways, if you need to talk about it, feel free to email me cause I feel that way ALL the time. I think I could be prg. now but I cant test for a while (crossing my fingers) [e-mail]

Answer 2

Its just your motherly instinct to want to have a baby. I started working at W.I.C (women, infant,and children) clinic about 8 months ago. And I'm around pregnant people and children all the time. And I also feel the same way. But I try to keep myself busy.. and think of other things.. Maybe your b.f has a good point in wanting to wait to be together for at least 1 year. That way when the year comes up.. your 100% sure that he is the one for you. Cause from what I have read.. Pregnancy = crazy hormones.. and at least after 1 year.. you will know him a little better.. and at least know what to expect from him. Good luck. And if your ever bored.. write to me.. I could use some company too :)

Answer 3

I was the same way, its not easy to deal with. First off you probably wont get pregnant if your boyfriend doesnt *** inside you. Also, you have one chance a month to get pregnant, one day really. If the sperm doesnt reach the egg within 24 hours of being released you wont get pregnant. I would discuss this with your boyfriend before i give you my next advice, because you have to make sure he would want it to....But keep trakc of your periods, the day you get it and then count 14 days from your firstday and that is normally the day you ovulate, if you have sex (andhe cums in you) 2 days before, on the day and the day after you calculated ovuation, thats your best chance of getting pregnant!

I went through the same thing, its tough and dissapointing, but you have to be sure that your man will be into the thought of having a child because remember, there no going back that child is your world for the rest of your life- its alot different than spending time with someone elses kids. The midnight wake ups, the changing diapers, feeding, crying, and when they get older it get more difficult...its challenging and a lifetime commitment. I wish i waited because i wont be able to enjoy my honey moon as i could if i wasnt pregnant- and its something that only happens once...theres alot of things you wont be able to do....

Answer 4

Okay. there are many things that are making you feel this way. One, you are fine. Now if you are having unprotected sex before you have even moved in with your boyfriend, i will say slow down. you are starting to figure out your life. I am guessing you just got out of high school. You dont want to get pregnant and go to college. Your boyfriends right. there are so many other things that you need to think about and for another thing kids are expensive!

This is a little more personal reason but i have seen it. People with sexual abuse in thier history sometimes tend to want to have kids. but from reading your problem, it doesnt sound like you have but i may be wrong. just be careful what ever you choose

Answer 5

I know exactly what you're going trough. I've been married for 2 yrs now and nothing yet lol. we live on a air force base and here EVERYBODY has at least 3 kids. it's depressing. I'm obsessed as well. I always think on how our guest room would look like as a nursery and I'm so bad, that I actually compare diapers or furniture prices if we go to wal mart or target. I can't wait to get pregnant too. I just have to keep myself busy or I will seriously go insane. plus, all the pregnant women i see around are all under 25 and it makes me so envious. so that you know you're not alone lol. hope this helped

Answer 6

Have you explored yourself? I mean, is there a reason why you feel like something is missing? Are you not getting enough love? I know that sounds cheesy, but that's a big reason why people want children - they feel like it will fill a void in their life. Maybe that's something you need to explore; and I would suggest (just from my own personal experience) that you make sure your relationship with your bf is really stable, and that you're on the same page when it comes to having kids, 'cause trust me honey, if you end up having kids without you both really knowing what you want and agreeing to it, it'll strain your relationship to the point that it might break. Just food for thought.

Also, just to let you know: I had unprotected sex for a year with my ex-husband bc we were trying to conceive... never got pregnant. Then, I was with my bf for about 4 months, was on the pill, and got pregnant! I'm now 37 weeks along with my son. Sometimes it happens when you least expect it!

Good luck!

Answer 7

If you try so hard to get pregnant you won't be able to ...

I think your boyfriend is right ... I think he really wants to wait at least one year to make sure you and him are really staying together ... I think hes also afraid to become a father in a early age too ...

Once you both feel ready to have a child, go away on a very nice romantic gateaway trip (no phones, no Internet, etc) and perhaps you'd get pregnant ...

Good Luck ...

Answer 8

First of all, its not a good idea to try to get pregnant with a man who has already told you he doesn't want a baby right now. In a mature, healthy, respectful relationship, you talk about these issues and come to a mutually satisfying agreement on family planning.

Secondly, if you're this "obsessed" with having a child regardless of his wishes, that's a HUGE red flag that you are not wanting this child for the right reasons, it seems pretty selfish to me that you're willing to disregard what this man wants.

It seems to me that you feel like you're lacking something in your life, and let me tell you, a baby isn't going to fill that need.

Answer 9

Well, I was the same way when I was 18. Don't let anyone tell you that you're too young.

BUT I would make sure that the feelings are mutual between you and your partner. Because his support is SO IMPORTANT. I'm not saying that he's going to leave or anything. I'm saying that when you tell him that you're pregnant.. you want him to be excited and supportive.

I wanted to have children young too. Age means nothing. Just make sure that you're with someone who will support you emotionally.

Answer 10

I know how it is. my boyfriend, who i've been with for 3 years, is so scared of having kids and doesn't even want to try. my sis has a 3 year old and 11 mo old twins and holding them just makes me crave my own even more.

it is a good idea to wait. i know why i want a baby so badly. first, i had a miscarriage earlier this year, secondly, my dad just passed away and i am really missing him cuz i was a daddy's girl.

i have been wanting children for a long time, but the longing for children has become more desperate and i know it's because of what i'm going through. be patient because god blesses us when he is good and ready to.