HELP!**** need major advises, a life is at stake here..?

Question

hlo! there, i need advises, suggestions, anything.......
well it all started at skul, i saw this beautiful classmate of mine, so i figured out it would be nice to know her more....
so then, we did became friends until we became really really close.. until i really figured out who she was, by knowing her side of life.and it is very ironic my friends..well when she was at her elementary years it wasn't the best of her life to be in.. she grew up depressed, and duds now i noticed about her, negatives well she is low self esteemed, self piety, passive, deppresed........ she was exposed to a very harsh enviroment...she lives like in a compound, that is packed up with the of pipol who will drive u fuzzy and all.. i mean there are drug addicts, prostitutes, not the pipol you wanna grow up with.
her dad beats her like a dog,well his dad beleives that the best discipline of all, and you wont beleive this! a iron being throwed at u? i mean come on???is there still justice?....

my Concern is how to bring her back... i mean imagine your self in that kind of lifestyle?.she believes that she's hopeless, thats the way her life is gonna be.. well i think not if i can make a difference.. how can i help her, how can i change her outlook through out life? pls give me good advises no jokes,

Answer 1

I am not sure if I understand the question, however, it sounds as though some girl you like has an abusive father, for one and also lives in terrible circumstances, so my best advice is to let a teacher at the school know so that they can report it to CPS (child protective services). So that they can investigate and if necessary remove her from the situation, she can also talk to one of the counselors or teachers at school to get some help as well

Answer 2

there's only 2 ways to help, one is to be a friend and be there for her, but this will not help her mental or physical state, as she needs to be removed from the situation. Only then can she even attempt to heal. If what you say is true and you know for fact it is, then as you say her life is also endangered, and if you as a friend are present, then you too could be placed in danger at any time. The only way to save her is to seek the help of those in authority. Could you speak privately to a school or guidence councilor, you could discribe her as a friend, no names and find out how this might be handled, they may be able to bring kid's aid into the situation, just so someones there to check up on her regularly, and set her up with help and assistance. An anonomious call to the cops of abuse or violence must be checked out. Call a kid's help line their use to this sort of thing, and do get her the number. Even if you talk privately with a cop or a juvenille cop, they won't force a name out of you, and they might even give her dad a warning or two, especially if they say they just heard some kids talkin about it, they won't necessarily tell him the truth. But please talk to someone of authority.

Answer 3

Have you witnessed this or is it what she has told you? If you have seen it for yourself, then you need to get help for her. Inquire around your area as to what help is available and get the ball rolling. You may never be able to have a relationship of any description with this girl in the future because she has been damaged too much, but you will always have the knowledge that you have helped her to the best of your ability. Good luck.

Answer 4

Hopefully she is no longer living in such a harsh environment where she's been subjected to abuse. However, even if she is free from it now, it has left its mark on her. I do believe she would profit from counseling, and I would suggest that you encourage her to get it. You are to be admired for your interest in helping this young lady get her life back together. It will probably take time, so be patient with her and continue to be supportive. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 5

If you are sure that what she's told you is the truth than you should report it, You should absolutely tell some one asap. You really might be saving a life, and if you really care about this person. Than call the police right now and I mean now???

Answer 6

its ok to discipline when you make mistakes but throwing an iron at her and beating her is not the right thing.
her dad is a psichopath,
talk to a teacher about it
they will be able to help her and you

Answer 7

call the police get a order of protection. go to the courts and file to get him evicted. even though it is your house he has established residency there the only way to get him out unless he leaves on his own is to have him evicted. the restraining order may help . sounds like you picked a real winner there. i hope you don't end up a missing person or dead.

Answer 8

She can always go to a crisis centre, they'd be able to help. Or get her to live away from psycho dad

Answer 9

tell a teacher about it. they will order authorities and get her a foster home in a good neighboorhood and although you might not see her again it will be best for her anyways.

Answer 10

hey calm down...relax.....now wat u do is ask her if she wants to raise her voice against this...n if she does then tell her to do so..it'll help her alot.....n do u remember oprah winfry.....she had the same kind of a chilhood...so plz...let her know abt it...n i think she also has a book out if u can read it n see wat she did to free herself frm that.....this is all that i can tell u abt n tell her to open up more in class n stuff....this will give her confidence....n gud that ur tryin to help.....gud luk.....