Avioding arguement when being accused of a misconduct?

Question

Hello

If I get into a situation in which I have an arguement with someone because they insist that I have had something wrong and that they saw me; even though I know that I did not. Then if I have told them that I never did it and they do not acsept that, I can determin that this is not the way to go about this problem.

I have tried ignoring them, but then they pester me and I cannot think of what to say to get rid of them.

I do not think that it is the correct thing to do to lie and say that I did do it, because then I am allowing them to have thier own way over me.

I have tried seeking a 3rd person so that they can intervien and then this problems can be discussed in a calm manner, but this brakes down in the meantime if that person persists to harras me.

What would be the correct way to respond to that person having know that telling them and being honest doesn't cut it?
I want to aviod losing my temper with them when they will not acsept my denial of what they accuse me of and just agree to disagree.
I want to know how to deal with this in a diplomatic manner.

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Answer 1

It is very difficult to be diplomatic in a situation like this. You should not admit to something you did not do however. If they continue to harrass you, tell them you are innocent, did not do whatever it was and you will never admit to it. Try to tell them calmly and ask them to please not talk to you about it again. If they continue to pester you, tell them you do not wish to speak to them and would they plrase go away.

Answer 2

Tell them the burden of proof is theirs.

In America, you are innocent until someone can PROVE your guilty.

Tell them "When you have tangible PROOF, then you are right, until then, you are making a total @$$ of yourself."