my boyfriend wants me to move out of state with him and his friend, searching for a better job. he said he will go with or without me but he really wants to find a great paying job. I told him no, i'm not going, i have plans and goals of my own i want to accomplish and I told him he is being selfish, he got mad, i was mad...it wasn't a good conversation...he also wants a change of scenery and so do i, but i want to move when i am ready, not when he is...he left here last night and we were both pretty pissed off, i havent talked to him since...I really love him alot, and i know he loves me but I really think he is being selfish about all of this, he should have considered me too...we have even talked about getting married, but i told him if he moves it will be the end of our relationship. what do i do? i have severe anxiety issue and i don't think now is the time to talk about leaveing everything behind. what should i do when i talk to him? what do i say? any advice?
2007-10-02 10:07:24 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I also suffer with anxiety and I know all to well how confrontations can add stress and more anxiety, but more so for anxiety sufferers.
Dont move just because he wants you to, your not ready.
If he loves you he would be more considerate.
He seems to be giving you an ultimatum. And that isn't fair.
Just tell him how you feel and its not the right time for you to move. Express your feeling on paper first and that way you dont get confused when talking to him.
2007-10-02 16:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you not being selfish yourself maybe? Tell him you love him and that all decisions regarding the relationship should be done by both. Get his input as well and then only decide. Don't let 'me' get in the way of being a couple!
2007-10-02 22:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋