my best friend of 13 years never IMs me anymore. whenever i im her she always IMs back but she doesnt say much. i ask if shes mad at me she says no. shes been really busy lately. she DOES have 2 jobs school and a boyfriend, but she did before and always IM'd me then... im not a stalkerbut i know she talks to her other friends through facebook anfd myspace and she never writes to me unless i write first. i tell her i still want to be friend she says "of course" i dont know what i did wrong. weve been friendsfor 13 years i dont want to lose the friendship if u can call it that. what do i do?
2007-10-02 09:00:34 · 13 answers · asked by boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe shes upset with you and doesnt want to say it. maybe she really is busy ..although i dont know about the other people she talks to. my advice would be to let her come to you.. if you dont start up conversation or IMs or try to make plans, youll be more likely to be able to see whats going on. is she changing? are you? try this and give it a week or two, you'll have a better look from the outside and she may come back on her own when she realizes youre not going to do all o the work in this relationship for her. good luck =]
2007-10-02 09:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you did anything wrong, I think you two just drifted apart. Do you go to school? How often do you work? Have you found your goals and ideals differ drastically whereas in the past they were very similar? Maybe she just doesn't relate to you as well anymore. Constantly asking what you did wrong is just going to push her away more. Don't be so insecure. Maybe see if she wants to get together and hang out once a week or so.
2007-10-02 16:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just grow apart. It sounds sad, but not everyone is meant to be in our lives forever.
But, if you are really trying, and she's not responding.. Maybe she's going through a really rough time, and just needs some time to chill. She might not want to talk to you because you've known her for so long, and she might think that you will judge her, or try to tell someone else about it.
It's a tough situation. Try just letting her come to you for a while, or set up a girls night and ask her what's up.
Luck.
2007-10-02 16:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by L-ren Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would back off a bit b/c you don't want her to feel like you are needy and have no one else and are always calling her blah blah blah . Find a few new friends or your other friends to hang out with. Still invite her out or whatever but don't get upset if she doesn't want to come. People change and it sucks but sometimes you just lose friendships as time goes on.
2007-10-02 16:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by gm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are her friend. Sounds like she has a busy life and has a lot of things on her mind. I am sure that she likes you but you may not be at the top of her list. Keep in contact and time will decide where the friendship goes.
2007-10-02 16:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by BOYD H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I wouldn't take it personally. Her life probably really is just completely full right now. This happens especially to high school friends but when you get older it changes. I would move on and try to make new friends, let her do her thing for a while. She'll call you again when she needs you.
2007-10-02 16:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by joemank3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is out gowning your friendship or needs room from you. She mite feel you are trying to make moves on her, or you are just timing your calls at the wrong time for her to talk. Or she just mite be to tired.
AS for her only writing to answer your letters; it sounds as if she is pressed for time and she is wearing out. I do not write people unless they write me first, it is easier to write a res-ponce letter than a blind letter. You could be exspecting to much from her, or demanding to much of her.
2007-10-02 16:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me. I was paranoid at first but she just needed a bit of space, so i backed off a bit but carried on talking to her. After a while things went back to normal. I wouldn't worry about it too much =]
2007-10-02 16:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by TheChocolateTeapot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well knowing them for 13 years you should know by now whether or not she is playing games or not.
Just come out and ask...you can sense it by the answer that is given.
2007-10-02 16:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by Nicol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to discuss abt this to her...coz frndship is not possible frm one side....
2007-10-02 16:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋