Are bad Children the results of bad parenting or lack of?

Answer 1

Both. But bad parenting is better than no parenting at all. A little love and affection goes a long way, even if your parenting skills are crap.

Answer 2

I work in a field that deals with behavorial problems in children, so I know from experience. I can't explain it any furthur but its actually both combinations.

In my experience however where there are families with lack of parenting, no attention, authority, structure, etc. compared to bad parenting, yelling, hitting, drunk all the time, etc. I have found that the bad parenting have better children with better behavior than the ones with lack of.

I feel it is mainly because children strive for attention, the spotl light. Even if say, daddy comes home drunk and yells at little johnny, it is actually in a child's mind better than having daddy not come home at all.

In any event, parents are the root of all evil when it comes to "bad children". There are NO bad children but BAD parents.

Answer 3

Pretty much. If a child throws a fit because they want something they cannot have and a parent gives in because they don't want to " deal' with the screaming,. Bad parent.
If the parent stands firm with that decision, the child will see that if they throw a fit they don't get what they want, then the behavior stops. Not right away, but it will stop.
I have three kids and if I tell them they can have something IF their good, I'll reward them; but if their bad they get nothing.
I see behavior like that all the time and these kids are allowed to talk back and hit the parents and the parents do nothing.
My friend thinks I am soooo mean because I don't let my kids get away with that sort of behavior. She says, their kids, kids will be kids, however kids grow up to be rebellious teens and then bad adults. If I don't stop the behavior now, I won't be bailing them out of jail when the mess up. " You're mean." Nope, I'm strict and I want to have well bread kids.
Are mine perfect.... of course they are.
J/K, I almost got struck by lightening.
NO, they are sweet and kind and helpful when they want to be. They are boogers the rest of the time. Their normal. When their bad, the know it.
I hope this helps.

Answer 4

I have three children all brought up with the same rules to guide them. We are not over strict but we were firm and our children know what is acceptable and what isn't and how they should behave.

One of our children turned 13 and became a "complete nightmare" drinks, smokes, trys drugs,steals, hangs about with older people who are completely unsavoury, forgets to come home for days on end, 104 criminal charges (I could go on and on).

When we punished her she did not except it, she smashed up the house, she robbed our bank accounts because we punished her. She assaulted 3 of us so on one occasion I hit her right back- she had me arrested and charged.(Later dropped)

We contacted authorities for help - that was a joke and a waste of time. We went to parenting classes in case it was all our fault and we were causing her to be like this.

She was a grade A credit student in all 8 Subjects now she does not go to school at all and claims she can no longer read or write.(Yes they let her get away with this and arranged for her to go to adult illiteracy classes- she never went).

She says jump and the authorities say how high! She has the power only she can choose to change when she sees that her friends are not that great. And life can be a thrill without being arrested.

Are we bad parents or has she suffered from lack of parenting - No not at all. We have done everything we can possibly do to teach,help,love her and listen to her, It is her decision which path in life she chooses to take, and at the moment the area she chooses to hang out and the friends she chooses has more influence/control on her than we possibly can.

Answer 5

Bad parenting and lack of both cause bad children.

Answer 6

Some are ,some aren't. The government took away the rights of parents to dicipline their own children.The kids know that
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parents hands are tied and often use the rights of children to blackmail parents. ie: if I don't get what I want I shall not go to school and you will have to go to court. I know children from all different social backgrounds who behave badly.It's not just a simple case of bad parenting that is causing kids to misbehave. There are many reasons .

Answer 7

Both. Children aren't born bad, it's the parents irresponsible parenting or lack of that creates unstable, problem children.

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Answer 8

There are many factors why children are bad but home influences are one of the most potent.Discipline or lack of it is one of the causes of bad behaviour in children, plus the laws which restrict the punishment of your own children.

Answer 9

What on earth do you mean by "bad children"? Do you mean self-centred, or arrogant, or strong-willed, or dominant, or opinionated?

Adults certainly have trouble dealing with these kinds of children, but then these are the very characteristics which make for successful adults. Shouldn't we be encouraging our children to develop these characteristics?

On the other hand, if you mean children who are socially unskilled, then that's down to poor parenting. Generally, it's found that children from poor social backgrounds end up making the same mistakes as their parents.

It's the responsibility of society to help these families break the cycle, and you don't do that by being negative and condemning.

Answer 10

Also the fact that the government has seen fit to remove any parental control of children is also a factor in the increase in 'bad' children.