last night my husband and I talked about his affair he had seven year ago, I ask him if at the time did he not think that he was being deceitful and did his own conscience not bother him? His answer to me was, "No, I didn't think I was being deceitful and I really didn't think about it." I didn' t continue the conversation, I just shook my head and walked away.
Question: Men who cheat once, will they cheat again?
2007-10-02 08:24:12 · 7 answers · asked by Marny 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I believe that once a person cheats....once they cross that line its easier to do it over and over again. Sorry, I am a pessimist.
2007-10-06 08:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by THE RESCUE LLAMA!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his own conscience did not bother him, he didn't think he was being deceitful, and he really didn't think about it, my guess would be he doesn't think he did anything wrong and would do it again.
Men who cheat once have a character flaw, and unless they feel extreme remorse there is nothing within their character to stop them from doing it again.
2007-10-02 08:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, THat is exactly me right there sitting in your spot,
And Yes he said no to me too and Yes he did it again and its been so sosososo hard for me to think that 1 I went back to him when I knew what he was and that he was okay with it and 2 I didnt think I could do better.
He went back and cheated on me with the same girl even though it was 2 years later after the first.
So were not together any more and i am hurt that I didnt end it before he did it again.
Do yourself a favor stop putting yourself in the situtation of being hurt.
I havent been with him in a year but I am glade that hes gone no more insecurity checking the phone the mail just relaxed and im more confident.
really put yourself there.
2007-10-02 08:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by tiggerlilly83 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on the man and the circumstances!
I definitely would appreciate his honesty but wow stupid answer guy!!
But you have to remember that for some reason men process things differently than the way women do...and we aren't going to hear the "right answer."
2007-10-02 08:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jae Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if they all think they way your husband does, why not? it didn't seem to bother him -- then or now -- besides that, you've obviously forgiven him by taking him back (or never letting him go), so what's the 'consequence' involved for him if he (or any man!) were to do it again? we all need parameters; a system of checks & balances to keep us on the straight & narrow.
2007-10-02 08:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah
2007-10-02 08:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer? YES!.
This guy is being dishonest. He pledge to be faithful --- it was a contract. He broke it, without remorse?
Why do you think he will find some now?
2007-10-02 08:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by KarenL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋