I have been having an affair with a guy for three years (I'm married). He has always been the one to want to break it off and remain friends....and then always the one who wants to start things up again. He loves me and I love him also....what does this all mean. Does he really care, or is it that he can't live without me?
2007-10-02 07:43:24 · 33 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-10-02 07:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is time for you to be honest with yourself as well as your husband. Look at what you are doing here. If you love this man that you are having an affair with, then why are you still married? Do you love your husband as well? You are betraying the man that you vowed to love above any other for the rest of your life, 'til death do you part. The reason why the man you are having the affair with continually breaks it off could be because he is feeling guilt for being with a married woman.
2007-10-02 07:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Joni T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is terrible. If you are having an affair (and you say you love him) why are you still married? I don't know how you can be having an affair for so long without giving a second thought to it. Ever heard of committment? The guy is doing that because he is a decent human being and having second thoughts about sleeping with a married women. If you want to be with him, be with him but get a divorce first.
2007-10-02 07:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by littleone 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I never understand people who have affairs. If you are unhappy with your husband then you should leave. Life is too short to be with someone you arent happy with. People will only end up getting hurt. He just wants to get his leg over lets be fair. If you see him again it will only make it harder when he breaks it off again because you know he will do. Spend some time on your marriage and if you arent happy then do something about it instead of wasting your time on this silly affair.
2007-10-02 08:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by betty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he hasn't asked you to leave your family for him, then it's just sex. When he needs it he comes to you, but you must like it because you don't say no. Some people are great together in bed, and that's the main attraction, not love, just lust.
It's your call, you can continue until you are exposed, or you can end it.
How world you feel if your husband told you he was having a affair for the last three years, she means nothing to me, it was just sex...Think about it.
2007-10-02 08:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 3 years I would imagine that there is a certain amount of love here. On the other hand I'll bet the sex ain't so bad either. But....why buy the cow when you can get the milk free?
I suspect that sums it all up. He isn't leaving his wife for you and quite frankly...you aren't leaving your husband for him. So if I were you....and clearly I'm not...I'd keep carrying on. Its a decision that seems to sit well with the two of you and although I am none too keen on it...well....you're conseting adults and you're cognizant of the consequences should either of your spouses catch wind of it.
2007-10-02 07:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of u need to get a backbone and stop the nonsense and decide what your going to do. Either do it or don't. If the guy really likes you and you like him then GO FOR IT ALREADY!! Either he's HOT for U or NOT! On the other hand if this guy keeps playing games and you have a husband who adores you, even if you might not feel the same about him why throw that away for a guy who can't decide if he likes you or not. HE seems childish!!!
2007-10-02 08:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by flowerpower 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's really not cool. You need to make a decision. Either be with the affair guy, or be with your husband. But you are living a life of dishonesty the way it is.
Make a decision and get on with it.
2007-10-02 07:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, obviously everyone gives you the same answer and reaction. Why aren't you divorcing with you husband, how can you do this to him, and so on. And are you STUPID? Your his door mat. I might be a kid but at least I'm not that stupid. I pity your husband. He's probably trying his best to be the husband you wanted. I hope he finds a better someone. You deserve being your on and off boyfriend's door mat. I wish your husband good luck.
2007-10-02 08:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by Another_Girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think if he care so much he would tell you get a divorce and come live with him but no it easy just to have you when he want you tell you what you want to hear to feel good and send you home to hubby where you just sit and pine for him when he not thinking of you.
tell him your going to get a divorce so you two can get married and live together if he love you he would have no objections to this and be more than willing to have you.
try it and see tell him you and your husband spoke and agreed to divorce and your coming to be all his no one else.
2007-10-02 11:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋