have been in a long distance relationship for a year now during this time we got serious and are deeply in love, we were making wedding plans which got put off because of family who didn't agree they try turn us again't each other, during this time i try to hold it together so did he anyway it got so out of hand ''he said/ she said'' thats all we would hear ever day his ex's stared calling me txtinmg me saying all sort of things to make us break up, i then went to see him a fews months later spent all time together when i came back i found out i was pregnant for him. now its hard because he's not here so i have to do it only we talk everday, he know i cant see him until i have the baby i still have a fews months to go but hes not being the same communicatiom got less because i cant get hold of him somtime i suspect he is cheating he kept saying no he's not. oneday we were talking and said hes got a confession he indirectly admitted to cheating but wont say it straight. i luv him help
2007-10-02 07:24:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hear warning bells! Long distance relationships are difficult at the best of times, however bringing a baby into the equation can change the whole dynamics. I suspect that if he's cheated once long distance, he'll cheat again (any distance!). If he has definitely cheated, what kind of message is he sending you? He doesn't respect you or his unborn child. I know you love him, but there is more than you to think about now. When this baby's born, you will need your family around you as a support network.
At the very least, you need to find out exactly what he's been up to abroad and if he wants to continue in this relationship with you before you even consider going abroad to be with him with a young baby. You will get through this, and be all the stronger for it!
Your going to be a mum soon, concentrate on that for the moment and enjoy your baby when he/she comes.
2007-10-02 08:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by flutterby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first, is she going to keep the baby? I mean EITHER way, IF he wants to be a part of this child's life, and IF he chooses not to be in this child's life, is she going to have this child? If the answer to that question is YES, then certainly she owes it to herself, the child and him to inform him that she is pregnant. If she is thinking of not keeping the baby, then that is up to her if she wants him to know or not. BUT she seems like she is smart, and she has a career, and there are alot of single mothers out there who have wonderful children and are wonderful parents. She needs to calm down, take some time to do some real soul searching, and maybe talk to someone completely out of the situation, who may be able to help her clear her head a little better. I am sure you are a great friend, but I am sure you are scared and upset for her also. She needs alot of support right now, no judgment, just support no matter what she decides to do. I really hope everything works out for her!! Keep being there for her!!
2016-05-19 15:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhh im sorry dear.
I don't know how i would be standing on two feet in your position.
So you need to tell him right? Well, by the sounds of it, your relationship is/was pretty strong. Don't take that the wrong way, he may still love you with all his heart. And this blessing couldn't have come at a better time. If you are sucpicious that the love of your life is cheeting on your, then the responsibility that lies ahead will be a way to prove that he is/isnt cheeting, depending on his reaction and how he copes with it. Long distance relationships arn't always as as easy as we expect, due to lack of face to face communication. This may be why he's struggling to tell you his 'confession'. It may not be the terrible news you are expecting...
to the point. If he loves you, this baby will connect you from millions of miles away. And if he doesn't love you, it will be clear. But you musn't worry. If it doesn't go so well with your dream guy then you'll still have your beautiful baby and your friends and family to help you.
Love and peace
Hold strong
2007-10-02 07:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to start making serious plans about whats going to happen to this baby. Is he going to sent you child support through the mail? Is he planning on moving to your country to help support you directly, or are you planning on moving to his country? Do you even want your baby to know his father, or are you planning to just raise him as a single mother while your boyfriend lives elsewhere?
As for the cheating, that something the two of you will have to come to terms with. But whatever he's done with another woman, even if he decides to get into another relationship, let him know that doesn't get him off the hook as a father.
2007-10-02 07:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey: he got the cow and milk for free. It sounds as if no one in his family likes you very much. And how did his X get your phone number? Think about that young lady! You not only marry the man, but his family as well. Your asking for a living hell if you marry him. You made a big mistake already, stop continuing the same mistake. If not for your sack the babies then.
2007-10-02 07:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by zipper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your a fool.....hes a cheat and a liar.....sounds like hes taken up with his ex. Give up on this and concentrate on your baby, and get some tests done to make sure this is the only thing he has given you.
2007-10-02 08:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy has used you, he is most likely back with his ex and has no intention of having anything to do with you anymore......does he know you are having his baby?
2007-10-02 09:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your question my dear? me and my girl friend read your questions more that 3 times we did not understand you
what do you ask exactly? your problem is not easy and be ready to ask important and spesifique question if you need help.
2007-10-02 09:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
single parent you might well be but your better off than someone who cheats on you!
2007-10-02 07:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by skaska 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hope you find someone looking for a ready made family.
2007-10-02 07:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋