What should I do???

Question

I'm engaged to my boyfriend of 2 years and everything was going great up until a couple of weeks ago. We are currently living with his parents due to job relocation and it's just a mess! The other day I decided to go look at picture albums and when I opened my fiance's baby album I found an email that he had written to his ex-fiance. I couldn't believe that after so long his parents would still keep that around. To make matters worse, his mother had printed my emails that I had sent to her and put them in the same place the other email was. I couldn't help but cry reading the email and was surprised that his parents would even keep something like that around. I also found a bunch of pictures of them together and it just tore me to pieces because there's only one picture in the whole house of us together, but then there's millions of pictures of him and his exs'. I am so mad right now because I know this is going to continue to kill me inside. Should I leave? What should I do??

Answer 1

Get the man dump the parents!!! As long as you fiance doesn't´t saves them you are OK!!!

Answer 2

Your blowing this way out of proportion. Its not like he had these pictures of his ex's all over the house and in his room. Come on, they were in an album at his parents house. If the letter he wrote to his ex fiance was recent or since you've been together, then yes, depending on what the contents were, you should be upset. But let the picture part of it go. Have a talk to him, and don't stew about it.

Answer 3

Let's see, I think first you need to quit snooping around someone else's home. Would you want your future mother-in-law to go through your stuff? You haven't married her son yet, therefore you are still a guest there. Act like it.

Plus, mother-in-laws are very sentimental people. As they get older and feel that the years are slipping away, they hold on to anything they think will give them a fond memory. You want to rob your mother-in-law of a good memory?? Lord knows she probably has a few bad ones and you want to take away some she values. She wasn't saving that stuff for you, you know.

Now to the rest. The best thing for you to do is to stay out of your mother-in-laws stuff. As soon as possible, move out with your husband (After you're married of course.) and make your own home away from your in-laws. It is obvious that if you stay there, only more problems will arise.

As to the love stuff, I think you need to read in the Bible 1 Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter". I won't quote it here because it is too long, but if you have true love for your boy friend, then all this other stuff won't matter. True love covers all sins with forgiveness and forgetting, though in this case, I don't think there is anything wrong that your boy friend has done. (It is you who has caused the problem here.) But the point is that true love will gladly give up its own life to save the life of another. If love dies, it wasn't love in the first place. It says of faith, hope and love that the greatest is love. It is this kind of love that has kept my wife and I married for over 29 years. If you have it, trivial things won't break you up. You need to get this in perspective. Do you really want to throw away all the happiness you could have over some stupid thing that doesn't matter? Get a grip. Marry your boy friend and live life the best you can.

Answer 4

Assumptions are hard to live with. It may be helpful to talk to your fiance' and listen to what he has to say about it. Going through someone's personal things (unless previously agreed that it was ok) is inappropriate in itself.

I'm sure the parents have their own reasons for hanging on to keepsakes and it does sound as if this was "their" photo album. If it concerns you that much, you may want to ask them about it as well.

Answer 5

don't worry about it. that was probably someone they knew better, perhaps someone he grew up with for example, and his first serious relationship, at least in their eyes. As you two stay together, there will be more pictures of you to join whatever pictures are there now.