Why is it that a man should be ashamed of his own masculinity while women should celebrate their femininity?

Question

It seems that the feminist idea is that if a man embraces his manly traits he is a pig headed caveman. I am not talking about the outright misogamist and I know that some feminists don’t feel this way, but the far left whacko feminists usually think it is OK to celebrate woman hood and at the same time promote anti-male stereotypes.
Why?

Answer 1

I would say that what you've described doesn't describe the way this scenario usually plays out. It's usually that men are supposed to be ashamed of and apologize for the BAD parts of males, and women are either supposed to deny, justify or be proud of the bad parts of females.

Answer 2

No good man is looking for a dishrag. What a masculine man is looking for is a woman who's personality complements his own. It's shown very well in the traditional marriage vows. His promise is to cherish her. To cherish is to nurture, encourage, aid, and protect. He is the leader, and leadership is *service.* The comfort and feelings of his partner must have the highest possible priority. It's not absolutely guaranteed, but these should always be taken into consideration when making the final decision. Anything else is to be a tyrant. This doesn't necessarily mean the woman is submissive. There are plenty of very dominant women who want a man more dominant than they are. Highly dominant women do not submit to authority, they *accept* it. Any way you slice it, the end result is definitely not an "equal" relationship in the modern sense, but it is *balanced* and keeps the headaches to a minimum.

Answer 3

What "manly traits" are you talking about?

There's a lot of stereotyping of both sexes, meaning the terms people sling around are simply NOT traits of the sex they're applying to.

(I'm NOT, for instance, inherently irrational, well, no more so than people in general.)

There a good traits, and not so good. (I answer an earlier question that assumed that all men always settle disputes violently, which is simply a LIE.)

And there are traits that have plusses and minuses, depending on the context, and how their manifested.

In the absense of any hint from you as to what you're referring to, it's impossible to say.

It may be that the women you're referring to are being sexist twits; it may be that no one has a problem with the traits you have in mind; it may be that those traits aren't particularly "man traits" but human traits; it may be that the traits you have in mind are uncivilized and sub-human.

I think it's mostly silly to think in terms of "man traits" and "woman traits" as there's too much variation among people; more within each sex than between the sexes, by far.

So celebrating the manliness of femininity of a trait is also silly.

But, again, without any specificity, it's hard to know what you're talking about.

If you'd SAID what you were talking about, I might be able to do more than give a bunch of 'if's and qualifiers.

Answer 4

First of all I don't like the bandy about of this word "celebrate" in this context, it is without real meaning. A celebration is a birthday party and the like.

We are born as what we are. We have no control over what country or culture we are born into and what gender we are.

Having said that let me go on to say that the natural attributes of a man are to be MANLY and PROTECTIVE of others, male or female, young or old. The true attributes of a woman are to be a HOMEMAKER, a SOULMATE, and a COUNSELLOR. That is not to say that a woman should be WIMPISH, anything but.

The evil feministic ideology seeks to subvert these qualities and to turn the world into hell on earth.

I'm an equalist, believing that men and women are born different but equal, are of equal worth, and are deserving of fair treatment under just laws.

Answer 5

I don't think there trying to celebrate there feminity as much
as putting people on notice and trying to make the masses aware of some of the injustices that are done to women in
life . . .

As in any issue there are always some who who will be a bit
more passonate than others even to the point sometimes of
being militant, but in essence what are women doing that other groups haven't done to try and obtain some form of
equality so as to coexzist with each other on this planet . . .


No you don't have to be asshamed of what it is you believe
in or should be critizised for being a certain way or living a certain way, none of us should, but i'd say we've got a hell
of along way to go before we start getting out the kegs of beer and setting up the stereo for the the party music or be
throwing any party to begin with untill every one and i mean
god damn every one, is on that ivitation list of equality, and from what i see and hear in the year 2007 21st century, I'd say we're well on our way in sucseeding to cause the party
animal to not only be on the endagered species list but like
it's brethern animals, tottaly extinct. . . .


I beleive the constitution states that all men are created equal
and we know that's a croc of S**T, tell me, did they also mean
women? and if they did, why didn't they just say it? . . .


Happy New Year , i'm celebrating my bottle of jack daniels,

care 2 join me? lol . . .

Answer 6

I don't understand any of it, " celebrate femininity" like we had something to do with that choice. Seems to me, just another groups way of making themselves feel more special than another. Sometimes i think these some of these people just crave attention or are looking for ways to create more of an income though book sales, seminars and such. If they really wanted to "celebrate" their femininity they'd be putting all that energy into fighting the 1.5 million aborted female fetus's (a year) in India alone. It's just too bad we don't remember any re-incarnate lives, who knows, they might have been the same ones beating or supressing women, maybe that's why some go so overboard. There's just so much more to life.

Answer 7

Hi Joe,

It depends what we classify as womanhood and manhood. I think it's great for a man to celebrate his being as long as we make sure we don't follow the false stereotypes. For instance, I don't believe being tough and not crying show manhood, but fatherhood and his ability to guide and protect his child are manly and should be celebrated and something to be proud of. The same for women. I don't think being a housewife is something to "celebrate" as a woman because I'm not defined by being a housewife. However, being a nurturer is a part of my womanhood and should be celebrated.

If you give me specifics of what you consider manly and womanly, I may be able to give you my opinion.

Answer 8

Wow, I could have a field day with this one, but I will attempt to be fair.

I think anybody who has what could be called an extreme political view on anything really probably had some bad experience in their lives that traumatized them and caused them to downright hate some position, group of people or whatever. In this case, and go ahead and call me names here ladies, there are just some women who flat out hate men. I suspect it has to do with not being close to their fathers either emotionally (assuming he was in the house in the first place). Then, a lady tries to have a relationship with a man who then doesn't treat her well and she decides after more than one of these experiences that "all men are bad."

Well ladies, not all men are bad just like not all women are bad. I won't make stereotypes about "all women" based on what bimbos like Britney Spears and Paris HiIton do. There are many many good Christian women and men on this Earth and we should all embrace and encourage each other.

In this day and age, I don't think any reasonalbe male would take formerly traditional views about women NOT being in the workplace, for example. I think an extreme political position often has a lot to do with one or two bad experiences in life blown way, way out of proportion and then projected onto a group as a whole.

Yeah, ladies, sometimes we're just gonna be guys. Get used to it. Just like we get used to some of your "not so easy to tolerate" traits.

Answer 9

Listen, a really masculine man is secure in his masculinity and he doesn't feel the need to constantly prove it by engaging in risky behavior, being a bully, pretending to be interested in sports when he's not, and believing in rigid sex roles for men and women. The thing is, individual differences vary much more than sex differences. Most of us aren't all one thing or another. You're not any less of a man if you prefer cooking to watching sports nor are you any less of a woman because you prefer using power tools or working on cars to cleaning house.

Answer 10

Women are incredibly insecure. Now that they want complete independent from men and relationships with men, they have to find a way to lower men, make men weak, destroy our self-esteem, so they can feel big. They don't want men to help them achieve anything, as we've had to do for so long, due to the fact that women by nature are so cowardly, weak and insecure. And I love how they mask these issues by saying that we held them back all this time, when in fact it was women that held themselves back.

And now, they have to resort to cheap tactics like psychologically bringing men down to heel with guilt and shame.

Mark my words, any woman who seeks to compete and possibly conquer men are the most petty creatures ever to walk this Earth.

The way I look at it, we're still bigger than them. When the government finally collapses under their rule, they'll turn to men to provide for them and protect them again, because law and order is now out the window. And then, we can force them to get on that lifeboat to preserve the future of our families again. Until then, they have this childish, rebellious idea about how the real world works. We just have to sit back and nods our heads to every nonsensical thing that comes out of their mouths.

Answer 11

This is a great question. I typed an answer about how roles have changed. How women have fought for and in most cases got equality.

The man's role has changed - we are no longer cavemen.

But when I started to say what US MEN get to celebrate - I'm stumped.

I am 45 years old - today - and I really can't think of too many things I am allowed to celebrate as being a man, that are not politically incorrect. I tried, I really did. But I have no idea.

Good question.