Were you immediately attracted to your partner?
I'm asking this based on the following quote that KD posted..
"If the person makes your heart leap when they walk into the room or gives you butterflies, then that is NOT the person for you."
That I found very interesting. Essentially, is 'love at first sight' enduring?
2007-10-02 06:20:19 · 43 answers · asked by Devil's Advocette 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I agree it might not have been what KD intended, but how I interpreted it.
2007-10-02 06:33:02 · update #1
Over 25 years together. I still get excited when I see her ( not every time I walk in and out of a room but if we were apart at work all day etc). When I first met her I did have an immediate reaction and instant attraction to her. I didn't think "I'm going to marry this person" but I knew I wanted to get to know her.
I think many "love at first sight" relationships last as many of them don't just like relationships that develope over time.
It's all about what you put into your relationship after your together.
2007-10-02 06:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I was attracted right away, although it took a long time for us to get together after that. I also had the butterfly, heart-leaping attraction to others before that, so I'd say the vast majority of the "love at first sight" feelings are NOT enduring. But I wouldn't drop the whole idea of dating someone just because I got that feeling - that's the whole reason you start a relationship in the first place!
2007-10-02 06:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by bagalagalaga 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes but I played hard to get. We met at work as friends, got engaged 6 months later, were married 13 months later and have been going strong for 21 years.It worked for me but i can't speak for anyone else. My boyfriend-fiancee-husband was a big relief. He was 5 foot 10 and 200 lbs.He could defend me instead of vice versa.Every boyfriend I had before him was my size or smaller. I was 5feet 2 and 90 pounds. When these guys would get into a fight over me I had to help so they would'nt be killed and I would'nt be stranded without a way home. Just kidding about that part. I forgot to add we have 2 kids a 17 year old girl and a 15 year old boy. The boy is non-verbal and autistic and the girl has some depression issues. It was love at first sight and yes love at first sight is enduring but sometimes it flickers due to lifes obstacles but our flame is still burning and hopefully will not snuff out till death do us part.
I hope this helps.
2007-10-02 06:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe in Lust at first sight. But not love. I have been in a successful relationship for 16 years. My husband & I dated for 6 years before we married. It was not love at first sight. We liked each others company, were friends first and then grew on one another. Friends of mine who fell for the "love at first sight" schtick aren't married anymore. In this instance, I would have to agree with KD. I automaticallyavoided anyone I had strong sexual feelings towards knowing full well what the outcome would be - disappointment.
2007-10-02 06:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lilith 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually no. I thought he was really good looking when we first met, but I wasn't interested in him, because I was dating someone else at the time. He approached me, and I was a little cold (OK, a lot) but he wound up hanging out with our group, anyway. and he picked on me all night. I couldn't stand him by the end of the night. Then we met again a couple of months later, and started talking. I had broken up with my boyfriend by then, and he was a lot nicer....and we just connected. He didn't necessarily make my heart leap, but he made my heart...yearn, ya know? That night, talking to him, I felt that he was what I had been missing...and we've been together ever since.
There have been other times that I've felt what you're describing, before I met my husband, and it always ended in disappointment. It usually only took a few minutes of conversation to figure out that the mental didn't match up to the physical.
2007-10-02 07:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by wendy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I first saw him it wasn't love at first sight but I did want to talk to him and get to know him a little more. He intrigued me and peaked my interest. I am technical like that though. I always have to indulge in something before I fall in love with it. How will I know if I truly love a person if I don't even know him? Love at first sight might work for some people, it just doesn't work for me. There have been plenty of men that made me feel flustered and gave me butterflies but they all turned out to be complete @sses!
2007-10-02 06:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my partner and I have been together for 5 years and have been long standing friends for a long time before that, i feel that friends make the best parnters in life because you dont have that awkward 'first date' as you can tell i dont know much of love at first sight myself but i do have a friend who met a guy in a pub and they are still together to this day (3 years) so i guess that it depends on who you are and who the other party is, it could be different for everyone, some may hit it off straight away or some relationships, such as my own, may develope over time!
Ali
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2007-10-02 06:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ali 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I met my soulmate sixteen years ago through a mutual friend, started dating him within days, and have been with him ever since. It was attraction at first sight, and then the more I got to know him, the more I fell in love with him. For the most part, we agree on everything.
What’s interesting about “enduring” is that your feelings change. Mine have gone from having my heart set afire to a warm, mutual friendship, with some physical attraction.
What endures is our similarities.
2007-10-02 06:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are several factors to consider when engaging in the
phenomon of love at first sight, or instant attraction, being that
number one to a man a good looking women not to mention one that is well endowed, in most cases is reason enough
to get married at least 'till the novelty wears off, and the heart
stops racing and the word life time commitment is suddenly picked up by the auditory nerve sytem, though in all fairness
there are exceptions to the ruel as in anything in life . . .
But mother nature was was quite wise and most calculitive in her blueprint for the human species, show me a women who
isn't, lol. with all due respect . . .
ok love at first sight, speaking for my self and considering
what i did for a living, lead guitarist and vocalist making a living playing in rock bands oh there were plenty of love at first sights or so i thought, untill i met my wife, and realize
love at first sight is quite different than love at first bite . . .
and you can guess who did the bitting . . . is it enduring?
i'll let you judge for your self . . . down below . . .
2007-10-02 07:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ben 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely lust at first sight! But I also knew from the moment I saw him that I was supposed to be with him. I never believed in fate until the night I met him.
It's been 12 very trying years. We've been through severe financial hardship, the death of a child, the finding of a 16 year old he did not know he had, 2 healthy kids of our own, living in seperate cities 4 hours apart for financial reasons...But we are still strong and committed.
So yes, it is enduring in my opinion.
2007-10-02 06:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋